FOREWORD: It turns out there’s being a mistake ongoing here on KD. A new commenter who inadvertently chose his blog pseudonym to be ‘king’ isn’t the ‘king’ we already know here on KD. He’s a different person, for those of you who have been over-familiarizing with him. Lol. My advice to this new ‘king’? Change your pseudonym. The other king appears to be away from KD due to some, uh, unfortunate circumstances. But we wanna know when he returns and not mix up our relations with either of you. 🙂
And now to today’s feature piece.
I once looked up ‘sexuality’ on Wikipedia. Wikipedia identifies four forms of sexuality: homosexuality, heterosexuality, bisexuality and asexuality. The last one is a pseudo-type class, in that one can be gay and asexual, straight and asexual, or bi and asexual.
I identify myself as a gay asexual or, as I like to call myself, a homo-romantic asexual. This means I can see myself being in a romantic relationship with another guy, but never in a sexual one. I’ve met quite a number of guys who say I’m ‘forming’ or pretending. These guys (and a lot more out there) refuse to believe the established fact that some people (yes, even gay guys) are just not interested in sex. Some other people say I’m too untrusting, or that I’m scared of getting hurt.
A few times in my life, I decided to loosen up a little and try some things. Most guys I’ve met refused to believe me when I say that the farthest I’ve gone with another guy is a blowjob. And during those blowjobs, all I kept thinking was, “How do people enjoy this thing, why can’t I feel anything, how do I tell him this poor guy to stop?” The first time lasted all of ten seconds before I told the guy to stop. The second was about a minute, with a guy I really liked. The third and last time lasted more than five minutes because I thought maybe if I kept at it, I may actually start to enjoy it.
The worst downside of being asexual is that it is lonely as hell. It is incredibly hard to be in a relationship or to even find someone you like, who likes you back. This is because 99.9% of guys definitely wanna have sex with you after some time. When they find out that you cannot give them what they want, they lose interest, or they keep pestering you till you threaten them with a gun.
This is not to say asexual people don’t get horny. I myself get horny (recently, quite often.) You may wonder how a full-blooded male will be horny, but will refuse to have sex even if you serve it in a plate free-of-charge. It’s simple: porn. Even though I don’t really understand why I cannot stand the thought of ever engaging in intercourse, I do enjoy seeing other people do it. Well, as a medical student, I know that the testes and other glands produce sperm and the seminal fluid constantly, and that when these sperms stay too long in the epididymis, they could become calcified, which leads to a whole lot of problems. This is also the reason why guys have wet dreams (Your body’s protecting you!).
So even if I ain’t having sex, I still gotta get rid of the sperm. If you’re asking why I don’t just get laid and get it over with, I suggest you start reading this article all over.
The point I’m trying to make is, there are actually guys out there who don’t wanna screw you, or have dirty chats, or exchange pics, etc, with you. Most of the time, when I start chatting with a new guy on BBM or WhatsApp, and he asks, “What’s your role?”, I have to spend about ten minutes trying to figure out how to explain to him that I don’t know because I’ve never done it. Some accept it when I explain to them. Most, however, infer that I’m one of those guys who pretend to be naïve, or pretend not be sexual active.
I’m gonna stop here for now. I’d like to know what you guys think about this article… Thanks.
Written by Jace Morgensten