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  1. Dennis Macauley
    August 27, 2014

    This has shown a side to Khaleesi that I did not know existed, I never though you were starry eyed and “disneyed” LOL!
    Anyway I believe in serendipity and in the fact that we will all get our twisted version of happily ever after

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  2. shuga chocolata
    August 27, 2014

    Had my fair share of BI dudes, I loved the fact you were able to move on, mine didn’t last up to 2weeks and I am glad I took that walk. #mynewcrush KHALEESI.

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  3. Arabian Princess
    August 27, 2014

    I can totally relate to the paragraph starting with this;
    “To grow up from a young age knowing that you
    were fundamentally different, that you saw as well
    as interacted with the world in a very different way
    from anyone else.”

    I once had a bi guy who setup a threesome, a girl being the 3rd person n he was expecting me to have sex with the girl. I quickly carry my heel, pick race commot for there

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  4. Absalom
    August 27, 2014

    Interesting story, nicely told and funny in parts (not surprised it’s you Khaleesi writing). That’s all! 🙂

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  5. Neon
    August 27, 2014

    A lovely piece you’ve shared here. I don’t believe in such serendipity though, cause when you get all entangled in the joyride and all of a sudden a whiplash occurs, it could get bitter. I love the way you took it. It was mature and sophisticated.
    I never put my 2 cents in anything that involves a dude that’s bi. For me, its a situation of “I want your body and not your heart… Let me get mine while you get yours.”

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    • pinkpanthertb
      August 27, 2014

      Word! @Neon.

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  6. Absalom
    August 27, 2014

    LMAO, Arabian Princess: I once met a guy who wanted us to have that kind of threesome. I was curious to see and touch a naked woman in a sexual situation for the first time in my life (not penetrate her of course!). But I barely knew the guy and fear of kito – among other factors – killed the interest.

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  7. JustJames
    August 27, 2014

    An awesome article khaleesi. You took us from one point of the story to the other fluidly and it wasn’t a bore.

    You’re right.. The way we’ve been brought up in this country makes things hard and complicated. Even me seff that I’m as gay as a unicorn with a bedazzled horn and rainbow mane is thinking of how to get laid by a female. Partially cause my semi accepting brothers are urging me to try it out and also out of curiosity.

    The guy sounds like a lot of bi douches I know. They don’t/refuse to understand what it’s like to be gay that’s why they can open their mouths to spew nonsense. Of the interest isn’t there then it isn’t. It’s just like asking g a straight man to fuck a dude.

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  8. Absalom
    August 27, 2014

    No need deriding bisexuals. From the story, there is nothing Funsho did/said about “quitting” or cultivating interest in women that many GAY guys don’t do/say. Funsho is not representative of every bisexual on this earth.

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    • Colossus
      August 27, 2014

      Well said. Besides, falling for a bi guy means his affections would always be shared. You have to know this before getting in

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  9. Colossus
    August 27, 2014

    What if the Bi guys do understand what it means to be gay and this is the way they are adapting to theirs?
    A good story, loved the way it flowed.

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  10. simba
    August 27, 2014

    Ur a good writer, never could believe tht a Brazilian wearing girl with full patched red lip stick could throw down this intelligently. Reading ur comments always makes me laugh..

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    • Dennis Macauley
      August 27, 2014

      Simba that was totally condescending and a tad distasteful

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      • pinkpanthertb
        August 27, 2014

        He meant well, Dennis. He’s not at all patronizing.

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    • Khaleesi
      August 27, 2014

      Let’s just say two things,
      1. am so many personas rolled into one.
      2. your reaction isn’t surprising, its the same reaction the typical male chauvinist (not that you’re one) displays when he discovers that the hot blonde bombshell he spotted digging it out on the dancefloor last Friday night is actually a top neuro-surgeon or lawyer or scientist or top business/corporate executive and on and on … **smiles**

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      • simba
        August 28, 2014

        Hello dear khalesi. I meant no disrespect dear.. without u and me, there won’t be no rainbow colour. We all make it a large lively house with our different characters. Girl I love ur comments, I do look out 4 it. Thanks pinky.. Denis darling..wink
        NB..sorry 4 late reply.. busy

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  11. maxonex
    August 27, 2014

    I’ve always said it, if you wanna do girls, do girls, if you wanna do guys, quit qirls and do guys..All these guys that do both are just plain Heartbreakers.. I’ve had similar experience, though I got out before it got ugly ..never knew he had a girlfriend.
    He told me he needs us both (me and her) and I was like “bitch please”, I’m not that kinda guy…
    Guys with girlfriends(bi’s) or the plain queer as Elton John type pretending to be bi just to
    Minimize the unresolved guilt they still feel. I’ve seen a couple of them..They’re up to no good. They claim they wanna settle down with a lady(some silly idea put there by the society), but still wanna be eating man cakes… Totally relatable Khaleesi..no wonder you’re so feisty…

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    • trystham
      August 27, 2014

      Frankly, with married dudes n Bi Sexuals, its a hopeless case. They become too much interested in maintaining the ‘I am now societally acceptable’ facade to be anything but sex objects n ATMs. Harsh but true. And before y’all say there are no black n white lines with sexuality, I have to agree with Kendingin. Not only Funsho is confused, ALL bisexuals are.

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      • Kel
        August 28, 2014

        Whoa,easy Cher.
        Don’t tar us all with the same brush as Funsho.Many gays I know who are even more confused than the guy,while the Bi’s I’ve met seem more grounded

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  12. kendigin
    August 27, 2014

    Funsho is not bi, hes confused….theres a difference

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  13. lluvmua
    August 27, 2014

    My dear wonderful khaleesi u deserve an appaulse for this wonderful piece! Nice story gurl!!!

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  14. Tobby Johnson
    August 27, 2014

    What a story!!!! Thank God you moved on..Am presently dating a Bi ,its been cool tho but am not so emotionally attached..Am always ready for any shit because I know soon or later,he would find his bearing..

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  15. daniel
    August 27, 2014

    Lol, nice story, and succinctly written…… I’ve had an experience before, I ended it before we even began. Dude was telling me to my face that being gay is all about sex and that I didn’t need to bring my emotions in, what rubbish!!! But he kept preaching about how he fell in love with my Body and wanted sex, I overcame the temptation of falling in love with how cute he looked and picked by bags and emotions and left never to return. Good riddance!!!

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  16. Rapu’m
    August 27, 2014

    I don’t know why this almost brought tears to my eyes, and I’m like, “Dude, stop acting like a cry-cry baby.” The story touched me personally because my close friend, who is my ex, and I stopped romantic stuff because he was confused and whatnot. I still feel the pain sometimes, although I’ve largely moved on. But the aching thing is that I pity him more than I pity myself, just like I pity Funsho more than I do Khaleesi. Thanks for sharing this. It’s OUR story, and I strongly believe that we must tell it.

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    • pinkpanthertb
      August 27, 2014

      Uh Rapum, the protagonist is Lami not Khaleesi.

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  17. sensuousensei
    August 27, 2014

    This was very well written, Khalesi. But there is a fallacy we are comitting here. And that’s generalization. We can summarily group people based on their characteristics to make dealing with them easy in the every day world but this categorization has advantages and disadvantages. It is the same fallacy we commit every when we say “igbo people are …”, “yoruba people are….”, “taxi drivers are…”. So you cannot say this you can generalize about all bisexuals from the behavior of one dude. Not all bisexuals are like this.
    Second point, what does it mean to be bisexual? Have we considered that even among the bisexuals, some prefer guyz and others prefer girls? How do we correctly define bisexual? Add this to the fact that over 90 percent of nigerian gays get married eventually and many are able to keep and manage their marriages succesfully. Can it not be argued that we are all to a certain degree bisexual?
    Don’t hate the bisexual for being attracted to both sexes. Its not something he does deliberately. Its just his nature. He may feel lucky he is that way but can you really blame him considering the current state of affairs in the country and the world when it comes to sexuality?
    Finally, concerning love. Love like almost everything else is in degrees. The deeper you are in love, the more you are able to love a person just as they are. Loving is VERY HARD! Well if you can’t handle love, try the next best thing. Its called UNDERSTANDING.
    And for the bisexual, when you are in a relationship with someone who is maybe exclusively gay, you have got to be very KIND and SENSITIVE because thankfully you are in a position to understand the dude like no one else can (especially since you straddle two worlds).
    This is wht like I said in a previous post, poor communication is the biggest killer of relationships. From day one, lay it all out. Are you gay? Bi? Do you have a girlfriend? How serious do you want the relationship to be? Do you prefer an open relationship? When you keep quiet, people assume. And that could be the recipe for a major disaster.

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    • Khaleesi
      August 27, 2014

      @sensei, wow!! *stands up applauds vigorously till her neatly packed hair loosens, reties hair ribbon and continues to applaud crazily till heavy jugs are bouncing around’ … wow! I love the intellectual analysis … I now see that a major part of why Funsho’s attitude hurt so much was his lack of ‘kindness & sensitivity’… your brain dey hot jarey! **adjusts bra, smoothens dress & sits down with a big contented sigh*

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      • sensuousensei
        August 27, 2014

        Dear Lawd! This boy na grade A clown! Hahaha!

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      • Ace
        August 27, 2014

        Ok! This has got to be the most descriptive comment I have ever seen. Got me imagining and laughing. Jeez! Bouncing jugs? Lmfao!

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    • pinkpanthertb
      August 27, 2014

      *applause* Well said, Sensei.

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    • Regal Sweetheart
      August 27, 2014

      Interesting POV,sensei. And I join the others to applaud the delivery.

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    • Dennis Macauley
      August 27, 2014

      Very Valid point you raised Sensei! However I do not think he made a generalization with the story! The comments did, but the story itself did not. He was talking about funsho and their complicated relationship and to me the article did not imply that funsho was somewhat representative of all bisexuals.

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      • sensuousensei
        August 27, 2014

        You are right. And in my comment about generalization I was referring to the comments not the article itself. I said “we” are generalizing.

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    • gad
      August 27, 2014

      Well said

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    • Kel
      August 28, 2014

      You killed it,sensei.*Tip my hat to you*
      Bravo

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  18. Samaurai
    August 27, 2014

    Your friend, Allen, made everything clear. He is bisexual but is more into girls. There are other bisexuals who are more into guys. Let us all stop generalising. Bisexuals are not all the same.
    I’m saying this because I’m bisexual as well. But I’m more into guys than girls. I won’t allow you guys crucify us all (bisexuals). It is unfair.

    Your friend warned you. With your common sense, you knew better but you allowed yourself to fall for the guy even though you knew it will not result in anything good. The fault is yours sha @Lami. I’m not being heartless or something but it’s true.

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    • Colossus
      August 27, 2014

      Gbam!!!!

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    • pinkpanthertb
      August 27, 2014

      You’re actually right Samaurai. I suppose the strength of Lami’s story is based on emotions gone awry.

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  19. Chizzie
    August 27, 2014

    I learned my lesson quick enough-never get too involved with a bisexual man. Not only are they complicated but it is my staunch belief that they are responsible for the high number of STDs within the gay community. How a man can be attracted to both sexes baffles me and I cannot comprehend it. I used to feel that to an extent most Nigerian homos were bi but since I began being honest with myself and acknowledging that I was gay and vagina is repulsive, I began to meet men who identified as gay too,not Bisexual but gay. No one should put themselves in a situation where they become second-rate or a passing phase, and Bisexual guys do just that!

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  20. lluvmua
    August 27, 2014

    @sensuousensei whoa whoa briliantly writen !!! Abeg na u go help me do my project analysis lolz

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    • sensuousensei
      August 27, 2014

      Lol! I wonder if I’m that good. Would help if I can!

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  21. techie
    August 27, 2014

    like most people have said, you can’t really generalize about bisexuals. i have a bisexual friend who has had committed relationships with both sexes in the past and has expressed willingness to commit to whoever he loves. but most “bisexuals” seem to be the cliche homosexual who cannot come to terms which his sexuality.

    personally i would date a bisexual as long as he takes the relationship as seriously as i do… and is as committed to it as i am… but those people are really few.

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  22. gad
    August 27, 2014

    I’m bi and married.the picture painted in this story is a far removal from who iam and how I view gays.i believe being gay is not a game but a natural gift by d wise creator.the story represents the writers opinion

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  23. JustJames
    August 27, 2014

    Oh ye bi people of kitodiaries. How many of you wee gree to commit to a dude when you know the other sex is there and more socially acceptable.

    That’s the problem I have with most bi people I’ve been with. They don’t even try and say “sure I’m getting married but it’s cause I have to.. not cause I want to.” Instead they will be telling you to “try and fuck a woman. You might like it. How long do you want to be in this game.” It’s not a fucking game. It’s my life.

    Iono sha. Maybe I’m just a bit bitter cause of past experiences but it’s my own opinion. I agree not all bi guys are the same but you have to agree almost all of em in nigeria act as I mentioned above.

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  24. king
    August 28, 2014

    Well done khaleesi for this thought provoking piece…had a boyfriend once though who was Bi and we got into an argument when his gal friend started grumbling about the many times I cum get him from her flat….well after the quarrel that was inevitable I asked him to choose and boi was i surprised after 1 week of “not seeing him and pretending I was hurt” he called and declared I had won and that he had broken up with her…when I asked him why he said…hmm gals and their wahala too much but he had realized that I never asked him for anything but his loving!!!…So I agree that we shouldn’t generalize and sometimes too we should give the guy some space to decide who he will miss the most hehheeheh…

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    • gad
      August 28, 2014

      All this are unnecesary.a man ought to be a man no matter his sexuality and role.we are africans.africans are bi.its childish for a guy and a girl to be in rivalry over a guy

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      • kendigin
        August 28, 2014

        africans are bi???
        wia dem write am?
        someone is confused and in deep denial

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      • gad
        August 28, 2014

        Africans are largely bi either by nature or owing to societal and cultural influence.An African man is expected to raise a family,have male children that helps in d family by carrying out domestic chores that ordinarily a girl can’t do and ultimately carry on with d family name.im not denying d fact that their are guys who are totally gay and have no feelings for women.I know a man in my village who is over 80 now.The story goes that elders have to gather to beg him to sleep with his for d purpose of having children.That man is obviously gay even without being conscious of it. That’s the lot of the African man.I think what we have to do is adjust.Gayism has been here but our progenitors practiced it in ancient times but it was done largely as a past time and was never an issue nor was it frowned at.Warriors of old were mostly homosexuals.

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      • Absalom
        August 28, 2014

        Goodness.

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      • kendigin
        August 28, 2014

        HAHAHA
        ROTFL

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      • Lothario
        August 30, 2014

        Is it just me that always has a problem with that word ‘gayism’?

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      • pinkpanthertb
        August 30, 2014

        Lol.

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  25. Kel
    August 28, 2014

    I am in a committed relationship with a dude,been going on over 14months n still feel as fresh as when we started,yet am bi.You saying my type don’t exist or that am fake?.

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  26. Brian Collins
    September 21, 2014

    My bff totally had this same issue. He met this good looking bi guy who was totally into him. Well…. he was also into his female cousin and was chasing her a cock would chase a hen. She had to tell me and my bff to tell ‘our friend’ to leave her alone.
    You got me at the helping out in the kitchen part @ Khaleesi

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  27. jelani
    September 15, 2017

    I understand your pain but there’s no need to to be biphobic. some people are messy and don’t have their shit together and might never get it together but you can’t group a bunch of people like that.

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