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  1. Mandy
    December 25, 2016

    this is really sad, how much your mother’s anti homosexuality has turned her into a contradiction of sorts. How it has made her into someone I’m sure if she took the time to look at, in a saner time, might not even recognize. It is sad how steadfast people will hold on to any ideals, no matter how unreasonable, as a life raft in the turbulence of a loved one’s homosexuality, when they could simply, Oh i dunno, accept the person and love him still.
    How hard is it to keep loving who you’ve always loved after finding out he or she is gay?

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    • Francis
      December 25, 2016

      How hard is it keep loving someone you’ve always loved after finding out he/she is a raging homophobe? ???

      I think it all takes time. Just give dem space to deal with their conscience, Jesus and whatever and unlearn all the messed up ish they’ve been fed life long.

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      • Mandy
        December 26, 2016

        The circumstances are different. No one should get used to hate. No one should have to be put through hate. When you love someone and suddenly find out he’s gay, to start ‘un-loving’ him based on that is just ridiculous.
        On the other hand, when you love someone and suddenly find out he’s a hateful bigot, that’s harmful and toxic, and it’s justifiable for one to not want to keep associating with such a person.
        The revelation of homosexuality in a loved one harms no one. The revelation of homophobia in a person is very harmful.

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      • Francis
        December 26, 2016

        It’s ridiculous to us but to them it’s not based on whatever load of crap they’ve been fed by their rabid pastors and religious texts.

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  2. Francis
    December 25, 2016

    Abeg when is the Paris Lagos waka and for how long?

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    • Francis
      December 25, 2016

      This keyboard sef

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    • IBK
      December 25, 2016

      Answer me on ig

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  3. Icarus
    December 25, 2016

    I love the way you write. It’s smooth, simple and very organic. It’s almost like you are not trying too hard to write, you just let it flow out naturally, showing your vulnerabilities and your strengths; which is very beautiful. I relate to your journal on a personal level, it’s almost like I’m reading the story of my life ( apart from your mom knowing your sexuality though…). Keep it up dear

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    • IBK
      December 25, 2016

      Thanks hunty ???

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  4. ambivalentone
    December 26, 2016

    This reminds me of that deserving love post of the other day

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  5. Jide
    December 26, 2016

    Loved the flow of this story. It seems like you write better when you’re home.

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  6. Nel
    December 29, 2016

    The Nigerian mum and homophobia!
    Mine keeps going on about the kind of clothes I wear and how it would attract boys to me … In my head I laugh because that’s what I’m probably aiming at… Oh if she knew!

    If only THEY know…

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