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  1. Chizzie
    September 5, 2014

    just cause coming out worked out for him doesn’t mean it’ll for the rest of us here still languishing in our various closets….but all the same I admire his bravery. Bravery is exceptional regardless of the consequences thereafter, and I think thats what we lack most.

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    • pinkpanthertb
      September 5, 2014

      A bravery lots of Ugandans seem to have loads of.

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  2. ray
    September 5, 2014

    Deep.

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  3. chestnut
    September 5, 2014

    I honestly still don’t know what to make of this Bisi Alimi guy…a part of me wants to applaud him, another part of me just keep wondering :”is dis niqqah cray?”. I still wonder why he decided to come out (in Nigeria) back then.I still don’t know whether his decision was a good thing or bad thing for gay ppl in Nigeria…(or just a misguided way of seeking 15 minutes?)
    I think he was reaching a bit when he told d interviewer that he while he was growing up,he lived in constant fear of police harrassment, plus:
    “Since the terrible law came into force in Nigeria, we can see the negative effects all over. You can get ten years of imprisonment for providing services to known or perceived homosexuals. But the law does not spell out what “service” means. It leads to an atmosphere of constant fear.”… Really? “All over”? “Atmosphere of constant fear”? Ok,I don’t know about other ppl,but d anti-gay law has not made me live my life in “constant fear”; it hasn’t even affected my life in anyway.

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    • Dennis Macauley
      September 5, 2014

      Chestnut I’m sure you know I love you, so I will allow somethings you just said here now slide.

      15mins of fame? Really? This man sacrificed everything, I mean everything! Family, career, education and almost his life to speak up and you think he did that for 15mins of fame?

      *trying really hard not to pour you my morning coffee*

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      • chestnut
        September 5, 2014

        Hmm…but my darling, u’d be surprised what some ppl would do for those 15 minutes…veeeeery surprised!(I’m not saying that that is Bisi’s case for sure though).

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      • pinkpanthertb
        September 5, 2014

        I wish you’d stop putting ’15 minutes of fame’ and Bisi in the same sentence. How can you even think that a person making up his mind to come out of the closet in a chronically homophobic environment like Nigeria is him seeking the fickle shine of the spotlight? If it was in the States or most western countries, that would be arguable. But this is Nigeria. What would he hope to happen if it was fame he was going for? A slot in a reality show? Instant stardom in Nollywood? Perhaps the pioneer minister in a ministry of homosexual affairs which the then president would have set up?

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      • pinkpanthertb
        September 5, 2014

        Most People would do anything for that 15 minutes if fame, agreed. But no one will do it if he or she knew the fallout would be bad for him. No one. Mankind is too self preservative for that and fame too fickle for that too.

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    • pinkpanthertb
      September 5, 2014

      Chestnut, what raggedy assed vehicle would you prefer to take to hell for that inflammatory comment, hmm? A Volkswagen or a lorry?

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      • chestnut
        September 5, 2014

        Pinky, regarding d “15 minutes” reference, I did say that I’m in no way trying to imply that I’m DEFINITELY SURE that dat was bisi’s aim. Lol@ him hoping to become d pioneer minister for homosexual affairs…(But would it be so silly to think that he aspired to such a position? What he’s doing right now isn’t much different from that).

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      • pinkpanthertb
        September 5, 2014

        He aspired to that, and so he came out on National Television?

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      • chestnut
        September 5, 2014

        Hey pinky! Read my comment well; I never said that he actually DID aspire to that. Well, whether he aspired or not, I repeat, what he’s doing now isn’t much different from that…(Again,I haven’t said he had a master plan to be where he is today; it might all be serendipity or it might be well thought-out, who knows! I’m not in his head)

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    • Deola
      September 5, 2014

      This is what the guy is talking about, just cause it doesn’t affect you, you don’t seem to care what its doing to others.
      The guy has lost everything that we fear we are gonna lose when we come out, his family, friends, career and his sense of safety, and you call him an attention seeker, not cool bro.

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    • JustJames
      September 5, 2014

      Maybe we don’t live in fear all the time but it’s pretty much constant. When I leave my room I have to make sure I remember to clear all my conversations and emails to pinky cause I’ve been stopped by the police who demanded to search my phone (thankfully my phone was battery dead) and as much as we all want to feel like lawyers you know the police can be really nasty. That’s the fear he is talking about.

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    • Legalkoboko
      September 5, 2014

      In fairness to chestnut, I think Bisi’s gay rights activism, just like many human rights activism, smacks of an admixture of a little propaganda and window dressing. Look at the Civil Rights movement in America, for instance. The first African American woman who refused to stand up in a bus for a white passenger wasn’t Rosa Packs.
      No.
      That honour goes to a teenager named Claudatte Colvin who was also a single mum. The movement didn’t want to use her because they feared her bad “moral image ” could harm the civil rights cause.

      Having said that, I think it was on this blog that I read the full story behind Bisi’s revelation of his sexuality on national television.

      The guy was on the verge of being outed. So he said something to the effect that he wanted to come out on his own terms.

      So please chestnut, your accusations are unfounded. You may want to Google the man’s coming out story for more info.

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  4. Dennis Macauley
    September 5, 2014

    Does this man inspire me or what?
    What a brave man!!!
    Much love Bisi

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    • pinkpanthertb
      September 5, 2014

      Right there with you, Dennis.

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      • Dennis Macauley
        September 5, 2014

        Chestnut should be captured and handed to mountain men to be raped 6 times daily for spewing such crap!!!

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  5. Jace
    September 5, 2014

    “Nelson Mandela or Desmond Tutu, those men showed the world about African values. People like Mugabe, Museveni or Jonathan dare to define what is African and what is not.”

    “You’re not complete until your neighbor is complete. You cannot say that you have had a good day until your neighbor has had a good day.”

    I totally agree…

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  6. PrudeBloke
    September 5, 2014

    He is brave …. I wish I had his guts but unfortunately I don’t .. And the anti-gay law hasn’t affected me but it has affected some unfortunate ones …. Chestnut ..smh you know you aren’t as brave as he is … Pinky,I got a question I’d like to ask in private,do you mind giving me an access to buzz you or text you or mail you .. Thanks … Btw KD is amazing you know …

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    • pinkpanthertb
      September 5, 2014

      Why thanks, Prude Bloc — erm, Bloke. 😀
      My email is pantherptb@yahoo.com

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      • PrudeBloke
        September 5, 2014

        Hehehe yes it’s Bloke … Thanks for the link to buzz you

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    • Ruby
      September 5, 2014

      I admire his bravery…
      Tho D̶̲̥̅ Law has only limited ♍e̶̲̥̅̊ from D̶̲̥̅ major way I express myself best *channelling Queen Bey*
      That hasn’t stopped М̣̣̥̇̊Ɣ Rainbow Parade one bit n its made ♍e̶̲̥̅̊ more Brazen in D̶̲̥̅ Way I Dress n Respond to some Dim-wits dat dare incure a lil of М̣̣̥̇̊Ɣ wrath by daring to imply anything Stupid by their Half-assed comments or reactions.

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  7. Fabb
    September 5, 2014

    Good thing he had his visa … #just saying. *continues with prayers/fasting*

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  8. Greg
    September 5, 2014

    Bisi hasn’t inspired me,bcos I haven’t never dreamt in my widest dreams to come out gay. So I’d rather say I give him kudos for his courage. We need pple more like him. Imagine if some of our celebs come out gay,don’t u think d fight wud be more forceful,bcos celebs don’t know d power dey poses. Bisi has tried his best jare,all dis naija celebs fucking holes don’t wanna come out,can’t dey see foreign celebs like frank ocean,lady gaga jst to mention a few,dey shud lead d way.

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  9. chestnut
    September 5, 2014

    Oh my! I see my “innocent” comment has err’body feeling some type of way,lol. Maybe I’m looking at things from a “too realistic” and nigerian point of view? Maybe I don’t have d same romantic notions and ideologies of gay heroes/revolutionaries who will ride in on a noble steed,lay down their lives and eventually ease d LGBT community in nigeria’s conciousness and everybody,both gay and straight nigerians,live happily ever after?
    I like to be realistic; maybe even a little cynical…(pessimistic too,if u like). Also,let’s not be too sentimental about dis issue cos it fights for “our” cause; if someone is reaching, say it as it is! This man is older than most of us here and he says while he was growing up, he lived in constant fear of POLICE harrassment for being gay. How many of u here grew up with constant fear of police harrassment? And someone said just becos d law doesn’t affect me,I don’t care what it does to others? I stand to be corrected,but right now,I think d law has (un)affected me just as much as d next guy.if there’s anyone here who’s life has been drastically altered by d law (or if u know any such person) I’d really like to here from you.

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    • chestnut
      September 5, 2014

      On another note, I’ve never commented n a “Bisi Alimi” post,with good reason, and a small voice was telling me that starting today would be a bad idea (should hav listened to that voice) becos my views of the guy would not be popular with the majority. B4 y’all throw d daggers at me tho,u should understand that everybody must not hav d same opinions about a particular issue. I still don’t know how to feel about this Bisi guy, but that doesn’t make me a bad person; some black americans didn’t vote for Obama,but that’s ok; I’m sure they had their reasons and it doesn’t make them any less black or less supportive of d “black n proud” movement.

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    • pinkpanthertb
      September 5, 2014

      Realistic. Cynical. Pessimistic. That’s not a good combination.

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      • maxonex
        September 5, 2014

        @Chestnut, you sound like someone I know…and believe it or not, the law is affecting you even if you don’t realize it..I didn’t have to watch my back as much as I do now, you can’t report kito in anyway cos you’ll be in trouble yourself…when was the last time u felt comfy holding hands with a guy on the road..
        We don’t need ppl like you around (pessimists), cos we ain’t gonna get to anywhere with ur kind.
        You already believe things r gonna turn out bad…You call it being realistic, but I think ure just scared.
        Like it or not, the law is affecting you even when you dont realize it.

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      • chestnut
        September 5, 2014

        Being a pessimist/cynic can be a bad thing, or a good thing,depending on d situation…just as being a romantic/optimist can be a good thing or a bad thing. I am what I am; do I hav to make any apologies for that? Maybe…maybe not. But I sure believe in picking my battles.

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      • chestnut
        September 5, 2014

        @maxonex: why d fuck do I need to hold hands on d road with a guy though? That’s d drastic alteration d law has made in ur life? Really? …and “you” don’t need people like “me” around? Oh I laughed out loud at that one! What does that even mean? LMFAO

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      • maxonex
        September 5, 2014

        If you dont think the law has made any negative impact in your life, then just chill.. Stay in ur closet forever and maybe get married to a clueless lady along the way…and live happily ever after with her..

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  10. Iduke
    September 5, 2014

    I feel u chestnut. By the way chestnut is talking from the pov of the generation he exists in
    Plus I share ur. Opine. I’m on the fence about bisi

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    • chestnut
      September 5, 2014

      Thank YOU Iduke! Finally,someone who understands that opinions can vary without d sky crumbling down.

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      • pinkpanthertb
        September 5, 2014

        Chestie you for know that opinions can also be about trying to point out the flaws in other opinions, yes? I’m not trying to tell you what to believe. I’m just voicing an opinion that your opinion might be flawed.
        Ay! Its a convoluted world, this world of too many diverse opinions. *dabbing delicately at my sweat-dewed temples*

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  11. Iduke
    September 5, 2014

    Max have u ever even before the law held hands with ur guy frnd on the road. Without raising eyebrows especially since ur no longer innocent

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    • maxonex
      September 5, 2014

      Yeah I have…exchange hugs too…Now I’m too self conscious to try that(not with everyone watching)…Things you’d normally do on a normal day(sans gay) are now termed gay..Let’s just say the issue of homosexuality was a delicate matter that ppl don’t normally discuss on a normal day(since we r mostly clandestine in our affairs)..But now the entire nation is now so “gay conscious” and that’s a bad thing.. You and I know how Nigerians behave…Even the hypocritic gay ones.

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      • pinkpanthertb
        September 5, 2014

        You have a point here Max

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  12. Absalom
    September 5, 2014

    ChestNUT (as enunciated), you haff suffer in today’s post oh. Calm down. *checks his BP*

    I understand your concerns sha, although I don’t believe Bisi was reaching when he did what he did. Sometimes a person has just had enough and takes a drastic step. I can relate to that.

    Concerning the fear of police harassment he talked about before the law, maybe we should leave it at this: every gay guy doesn’t have the same story, because we are different individuals and do not lead our lives the same way. If he says he was constantly harassed by the police then that’s what it is – until otherwise proven.

    Ok, I’m hungry. Bye.

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    • chestnut
      September 5, 2014

      Absalom dear,my bp is just fine! We’re all just having a mature conversation (even tho everyone here and their mommah hav been coming at me like kilode,lol)…I aint mad at anyone tho. You all know I heart u guys from here to infinity and beyond,right? *hugs and kisses all around*

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  13. Khaleesi
    September 5, 2014

    I remember back in 2004 when i first heard that a group of gay guys had organised a march in Abuja and held a rally led by Bisi Alimi, i was still then very tender, of course i knew i was gay, but i was still battling with deep self – hatred, internalized homophobia and a violent denial of what/who i was. I couldnt believe that there were many others who were gay and that they would have the guts to show their faces proudly in public. I was fascinated and disgusted and intrigued all at once. Ever since that day, Bisi’s name has become stuck in my head,. I somehow missed the news about his flight to the UK until very recently.
    What Bisi did was very very risky and very brave. Coming out on Funmi Iyanda’s show could not have been an attempt to hug the spotlight, i mean who would dream of outing himself on National TV, in a mortally homophobic country? what i believe happened is that he had simply come to a full acceptance of who he was, he was fed up and tired of living in the shadows like some common criminal and he simply lacked the capacity to continue pretending to be who he was not! He therefore took the next step – he came out! Am not even close to dreaming of thinking of dreaming about thinking about even dreaming of coming out, I really am undecided as to whether its a good thing to lose your family, career, job, social acceptance etc just so you can declare to the world that you’re “out and proud”, but you’ve definitely got to hand it to Bisi, he is a brave man! whenever the story of the global LGBT rights movement is being told, even 200 years from now, his name must occupy a prominent place. I may not have the desire or the guts to follow his footsteps, but he sure does command my respect. I salute you Bisi!! you may not have set out to catch the spotlight, but somehow, you did …I wonder who else will be this brave …

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    • pinkpanthertb
      September 5, 2014

      Ahem. Uti perhaps? Lol. #Okbye

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      • maxonex
        September 5, 2014

        Lmao @ pinky…Uti gini??? hahahaha hahahaha… Uti will be last on the “who wants to come out list”…

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      • pinkpanthertb
        September 5, 2014

        A niggur can hope, can’t we? 😀

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  14. king
    September 5, 2014

    Ehem!! Eh guys no need to flog the ish! Jo…biko..let’s move on..chestnut has said his.mind and some others have too. I think we should respect each others views about things here and Pinky luv..my darling beau…pls I loved your stance about letting people say all they can about a subject coz for all you know others are learning a lot thru the liberality that this blog offers and only God knows how many crowns you’ve gotten just by hosting..( eh any word like hostessing..eh no?..ok) us…so try eh I know it ain’t too easy sometimes to keep quiet but just try and subtly make your own stance known…but not so loud!! coz if you do it so loud then as the Queen Bee of this group you just might send out confusing signals to some wannabees here..so darling eh..inuna biko..tans much!!!! OK so what else is new…Bisi abi..he is well known to me and isn’t that older than some of us biko….also truly Bisi came out because someone was about to out him and he was tired of being blackmailed or should I say KITOED…so yes it was a brave thing he did and truly where he is right now we all might not understand the pressure he is under to make all the comments he is making but that does not rule out the fact that definitely he has lost some “something” that all of us here or most of us have not yet lost!!!..so plssss let’s respect that at least….but nonetheless if you don’t know him nobody should expect you to appreciate him!!! QED….

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  15. Chizzie
    September 5, 2014

    i don’t see anything wrong with what Chestnut said, nor any reason that should warrant him explaining himself. Just cause an opinion isn’t the general consensus doesn’t make it wrong; I like that he saw things from a different perspective, .in retrospect I agree with some of what he said. Bisi’s coming out hasn’t alleviated the plight of Nigerian gays or helped us here in anyway. ..rather things have become worse. His courage no doubt should be applauded. ..but his actions in all honesty shouldn’t be emulated; Coming out on live television to millions of homophobic viewers, isn’t the wisest thing to do. ..and is a bit wreckless. Bisi is courageous and above all things lucky…and I think it was the latter that worked out for him in the long run

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    • razzajeburra
      September 5, 2014

      God bless you and bless this blog! Well said

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      • pinkpanthertb
        September 5, 2014

        Amen!

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  16. Legalkoboko
    September 5, 2014

    “If You Want Change, You Have To
    Challenge The Status Quo.”

    Beautiful statement. I can’t agree more.

    However, a gay man’s challenge to the status quo is not and should not be limited to his coming out, especially in a homophobic country like ours .

    I’m a member of a very conservative profession, so the idea of me coming out publicly is as ridiculous as traveling from Nigeria to the US on foot.
    Lol!
    But I have my principles. No body makes a homophobic remark anywhere near me without getting vigorously challenged. That’s my idea of Challenging the status quo. I don’t do foolhardy peacocks.

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