So to create an illusion of trust, Lagos kitoers have moved their game from “Come to my house, my brother will pick you at the junction” to “Come to so-and-so bar”, you know, so you’ll be lured over by the public place-ness of the potential meet.
And just before you say no because you feel you can’t afford a hangout in a bar, they’ll add that they will take care of the tab.
So there you go. A public meet. A treat you don’t have to pay for. All you have to do is drag your gay ass over.
Someone in Okokomaiko buzzed me a few days ago on Grindr. The moment we got past the preliminaries, he texted: “I’m in Okokomaiko. Come let’s see. We can meet at a bar. I can host.” I stopped reading at “Okokomaiko”, typed back “Kito scum” and blocked him.
I have heard that in Onitsha, of one incident where the guy agreed to one such bar meet and went to the “public place” to meet the Grindr hookup. Only the place wasn’t so public. A pre-arrangement with the owner of the bar had the bar empty, so that when the gay guy walked in, he effectively walked into a trap that was as convenient as going to the kito house.
Another story I’ve heard about this public place kito happened in Ojo. This joint had people in it. It was “safe”. Until a uniformed man posing as a soldier who was tracking his “nephew” (the kito guy our victim went to see). And so, the soldier was able to intimidate the gay guy to surrender his phone and money, even though they were in a public place.
So I’m reiterating. It doesn’t matter that the place is public. For Lagosians, all those red zone areas should always stay hookup-free to you! Whether they tell you to come to a house, a supermarket or a bar for the meet, as long as this person stays in, say, Ojo, STAY AWAY!
Be advised, people. And stay safe.