Let’s Discuss . . . Sex and Sexuality

Let’s Discuss . . . Sex and Sexuality

The following is according to Jon Snow:

“So there’s this woman who lives just outside the estate. She is originally of Yoruba origin and so is her husband; they have a litter of kids in their small home just adjacent to the exit gate.

“A few days ago, I needed to buy food items and it was already dark, after a rather heavy rainfall that lasted all through the afternoon, so I couldn’t go to the market. I had to buy at nearby shops, hers inclusive.

“Now mind you, this woman has lived several years among a rather Igbo-speaking community, so she communicated with me in fluent Igbo. I couldn’t also help but notice that her children also spoke Igbo very fluently as she yelled out orders to them while they constituted the usual nuisance, true to their nature as kids.

“Matter of fact, communication between her and her kids spanned from very fluent Igbo, familiar to me, to ear-splitting Yoruba which I did not understand.

“Now as fluent as her Igbo was, I couldn’t exactly say she is of Igbo origin. Her Yoruba origin was quite obvious; she and her kids simply mastered the Igbo language from living in a predominantly Igbo environment. That doesn’t make them Igbos, because there is arguably more to being Igbo than just the language.

“Same can be said of Igbos living among other cultures who have mastered the art of communication in their immediate environment.

“This made me wonder about this thing called “conversion” with these questions

>>For those who are gifted in the art, when you successfully get a straight man to break through his bias, drop his pants, and get down and dirty. Is that really a conversion process?

>>If fucking pussy doesn’t make you straight (for the MGMs here), why then should taking dick make a straight man gay?

>>Does gay sex suddenly un-straight a man – even if you end up dating him. If your answer is yes, does that not validate the argument that being gay is all about sex? Which would be just as absurd as saying being Igbo is just about knowing how to communicate in Igbo.

>> Is the said man not just a heterosexual man who has come to take pleasure in gay sex and wants some regular dick (or ass, as the case may be)

“I came to the conclusion that sex doesn’t necessarily determine sexuality. The former is just a function of body parts; the latter is something somewhat deeper. What do you think?”

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Well, KDians, what do y’all think?

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6 Comments

  1. Johnny
    July 29, 12:30 Reply

    Hmmm . I believe if you’re straight, you wouldn’t try having sex with same sex another time buy if you do that again, it’s either you are bi or you are just realizing who you are. Sex is in sexuality, they are two things that operate together.

  2. Yazz soltana
    July 29, 13:01 Reply

    This question is getting as complex as the question, what is the meaning of life ?

  3. beejay
    July 29, 13:42 Reply

    Fundamentally, I believe that sexuality is closely linked with emotional markers; attachment, affection and even love. While sex is, in a crude phrase, “all about scratching an itch”. A person’s choice of sex partners doesn’t necessarily determine their sexuality, same as using a sex toy doesn’t dictate their sexuality. Moreso in this era of increased open-minded affiliations.

  4. omiete
    July 31, 14:22 Reply

    I totally agree with you, sexuality is not determined by sex

  5. Homer
    August 01, 06:24 Reply

    “Sex has no history because it’s grounded in the functioning of the body.” Sexuality, on the other hand, precisely because it’s a “cultural production,” does have a history. In other words, while sex is something that appears hardwired into most species, the naming and categorising of those acts, and those who practise those acts, is a historical phenomenon, and can and should be studied as such.

    Sexuality is basically who you are attracted to, sex is who you have sex with which might be people you aren’t attracted to.

    But then, maybe sexuality is over emphasised. Maybe we should just focus on being someone for who they are, because we want to, not because they have perenium or not. Meh. It’s all blurry ground now, sha.

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