ONE STEP AT A TIME (Episode 3)

ONE STEP AT A TIME (Episode 3)

Cherie and I recently went through a hard time. It was quite something, the kind of rockiness I was very glad to see us survive. It got to a point where close friends of ours would visit and be able to tell that there was friction between us, no matter how cool we acted before them.

But here’s the thing: whatever the contention, there’s always him or me, who’d end up guiding us back to our love for each other. It’s like behind every disagreement lies the quiet understanding that we are meant for each other and shouldn’t give up on what we have.

I remember one time he got me so upset, I went to bed mad. I lay facing the way, uncharacteristically shunning the comfort of his arms. And all through the night, as though he wanted to get my attention without actually asking for it, Cherie would toss and turn, get up to go pee and drop back in bed with the kind of energy designed to remind me that he was right next to me.

And in my mind, I was like: See this one o.

Eventually, after another trip to the toilet, he came back to bed and laid down so forcefully, I had to turn, ready to berate him for not letting me sleep in peace.

But my ire vanished when I saw him wearing a heart-meltingly sorry face, body posed with arms that beckoned to cuddle. Lol. Na there the quarrel stay end. I mean, there was no resisting him.

There is no resisting him.

Whenever he craves a massage and I’m just not in the mood, he’ll begin stretching his body – long, languid movements with exaggerated groaning and side-eyed glances thrown my way, all a sure way to melt my resolve.

I can’t say no to him. And I believe he now knows that.

Cherie and I have lived together now for two months. I wake up next to him every morning. I see his face every day. And his scents are what I breathe in as I go to sleep every night. You’d think this sameness would dull the attraction I have for him.

No.

I find him just as sexually attractive today as I did when we first met. And sometimes, we work at it to keep the chemistry alive. For instance, he of course knows I have a brief fetish, and so, he likes to walk about the house, flaunting his sagged pants in my face. That gets me hot and bothered every time.

And that’s not the only reason he’s become such a perfect husband material. There’s the part where he acts with me like a single mother taking care of her child. The way he bothers about my feeding both warms and astonishes me. Sometimes I pity him. He’ll always want to make sure I am okay and well-fed. He is such a perfect homemaker. There’s this feeling of bliss I’d get at work when I’d take a break and check my phone to see his messages asking if I’ve had anything to eat. He’s always wanting to make sure I’m okay.

Then there’s the part where he’s redefined privacy in our relationship. He’d go to work and leave his Facebook account on in the laptop at home, never mind that I’m there. There was a time we exchanged phones for almost a whole day. He went out with my phone to track someone, leaving his at home. And during this period, he replied some of my messages and answered some of my calls. This is something that would have given me a heart attack in the past, but I was cool with it.

So his cousin is around. And that has put a real wrench in our intimacy. There are no more naked massages, no more dancing to our favorite song whenever it comes on air, no more getting snuggly during the weekend at home, no more walking around the apartment naked. No more loads of things that we’d normally do when we’re by ourselves, and it’s getting on my last nerve. But what can I do? Adaptation is key. Besides, all those things we simply did have to be stolen now, and that adds to the excitement of our relationship. We grab for the hasty kiss when the cousin is in the bathroom, or snatch back our intimacy when he goes out on an evening stroll, or go for a quick cuddle when he’s snoring heavily at night. Everything now is so sinful and forbidden and deliciously so.

But the guy sha… The other day, he observed that Cherie and I use photos of ourselves as wallpapers on our devices, and he wondered out loud about that: “Why una two dey use unaselves as wallpaper?”

If only he knows!

Anyway, summer is around the corner, and I’m going to get Cherie some shorts. Something really short and sexy. It’s time to get him to sample his legs in public for me, even if it’s for a day. He has really nice legs with full calves and sexy feet.

I can’t wait!

Another thing I’m looking forward to is my next entry, when I get to talk about those frenemies lurking on the fringes of our relationship, low-key hating, not knowing a thing about our struggle. I see you.

Melvyn.

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  1. Johnny
    May 10, 06:45 Reply

    Lol… I am so happy, someone is happy like me.
    I have gotten to the point, I over look edible caterers and let them know I am Queen bae.

  2. KryxxX
    May 10, 06:56 Reply

    **Sits on the floor and starts to wail***

    When would love find me oh!!!!!! Chaiiiiiii !!!!! ??????

    This is so cute!!!!! ????????

  3. Francis
    May 10, 07:45 Reply

    ???? Reads like say person dey watch feem.

    Awaits upcoming dragging

  4. Mandy
    May 10, 11:05 Reply

    Another thing I’m looking forward to is my next entry, when I get to talk about those frenemies lurking on the fringes of our relationship, low-key hating, not knowing a thing about our struggle. I see you.

    Finally!!!!
    Enough of sappy stuff. Let’s get to the ugly nasty part involving the agents of your village witches. ??

    • DI-NAVY
      May 10, 12:10 Reply

      What is sappy about the story. Nobody forced you to read you know.
      You can’t tell someone else’s story more than the way he chose tell it .

      • Mandy
        May 10, 12:42 Reply

        Dude, you’re too defensive. I’ve noticed that every time someone doesn’t make a comment on your love life that’s obviously mushy and full of praise, you’ll lash out. You need to chill out, hunnay. I’m actually on the side of your love. And I didn’t mean anything bad by calling your story sappy. I’m just anticipating the gory details of the next entry.
        Jeez!

        • Francis
          May 10, 13:36 Reply

          Truth be told, the tone of that your comment sounded one kain to me sef like “yeah yeah yeah, we get it, you’re so in love. Please where’s the drama?”.

          It wasn’t your intention but that’s how it sounded ??

          • Mandy
            May 10, 14:10 Reply

            My previous comments on this series have always been appreciative of their love. I can’t be that encouraging and suddenly turn into a bitch now.
            And even if I was being nasty with my comment, Di-Navy should learn to be adult in his responses. Sometimes, a waka-pass is best. Not every time anyone sounds like he’s against their love, he will jump all over that person. I should think anyone who’s content in love wouldn’t let negative comments get to him.

            • Francis
              May 10, 14:21 Reply

              I should think anyone who’s content in love wouldn’t let negative comments get to him.

              You say wetin?! That I’m content in love doesn’t mean I won’t attack when attacked especially if I’m having PMS that day. Bad belle pipul need to be checked well well. *I’m not referring to your case oh*

  5. sinnex
    May 10, 11:11 Reply

    “…But my ire vanished when I saw him wearing a heart-meltingly sorry face, body posed with arms that beckoned to cuddle. Lol. Na there the quarrel stay end. I mean, there was no resisting him…”

    This is so romantic.

    I don’t know if I would be able to survive in such a relationship. Seeing someone every single day…I guess that why most of the people I chat with are in different states.

    I wish you guys the very best and I am looking forward to more entries about the cousin.

  6. Colossus
    May 10, 12:13 Reply

    This is beautiful. I pray it continues so,et it not diminish.

  7. Delle
    May 10, 13:53 Reply

    “So his cousin is around. And that has put a real wrench in our intimacy. There are no more naked massages, no more dancing to our favorite song whenever it comes on air, no more getting snuggly during the weekend at home, no more walking around the apartment naked. No more loads of things that we’d normally do when we’re by ourselves, and it’s getting on my last nerve. But what can I do? Adaptation is key. Besides, all those things we simply did have to be stolen now, and that adds to the excitement of our relationship. We grab for the hasty kiss when the cousin is in the bathroom, or snatch back our intimacy when he goes out on an evening stroll, or go for a quick cuddle when he’s snoring heavily at night. Everything now is so sinful and forbidden and deliciously so.”

    For how long though. It may be nice at first and all of that wonderful feeling that comes with the rush of adrenaline but it would soon fade and you would want to be alone with your bae and would want to do things the way that doesn’t entail ‘stealing’ them.
    I know I would want privacy with my bf.

    That aside, your relationship is so beautiful. Gives me more reason to hang onto love. Something I’m fast losing hope in.

  8. Bain
    May 10, 14:11 Reply

    This is so beautiful,heart melting material. I wish you guys the very best.

    • Delle
      May 10, 14:21 Reply

      Don’t goan allow your heart melt o. What wee you now use and love your own when time reach?

      • Bain
        May 10, 18:39 Reply

        lol,fortunately for me…I can’t love.

        • Pink Panther
          May 10, 18:41 Reply

          You don’t say? What are you taking to ensure this? Who’s supplying you with it? What babalawo fixed you so superbly? Please connect me o. Plenty plenty heartbreak is becoming too much for the rest of us. :'(

          • Bain
            May 10, 21:16 Reply

            Lol…I’ve tried Man,I just don’t feel love again…it died.

  9. T
    May 10, 16:32 Reply

    You guys are so cute! – this makes me believe and want love – to take that risk that though your heart might get broken, or someone might be “using your head to soak garri” , Its still an experience worth having!

    Sadly, Love is hard to find. MEN – why, WHY are we so promiscuous?

  10. Henry
    May 10, 17:46 Reply

    Wow…dis is so heartwarming …. U sound so happy n contented…. Reminds me of my dream bf

  11. Cleopatro
    May 10, 17:54 Reply

    m right here and ya’ll are dreaming? come fill your forms!

    • T
      May 10, 17:57 Reply

      Please where are the forms? Show us the way and don’t be a scammer Lol

  12. Dickson' clement
    May 10, 21:35 Reply

    Oh mine! This one felt like I was in a deep Freeze! Chills me to the marrow! God once before I die let me let go of my selfishness and love someone like this without thinking of how to choke them in their sleep if they mess up! Amen!

  13. Kiki
    May 11, 08:42 Reply

    Fada lawd!!! When will my own love find me? Ehn? I don too wait biko.
    P.S: PP, don’t tell me potential boos are not here o!

    • Pink Panther
      May 11, 08:55 Reply

      Well, join Awele and start writing to a potential boyfriend. He just might be here and reading.

      • Kiki
        May 13, 19:01 Reply

        Uhmm, okay where do we start from? Selling point(s)? Prospects? Specs? Help a brother

  14. mizta dee
    May 11, 17:30 Reply

    Fada Lord you know I have been single for a long time, every family member holding my own love, Die by fire…. #grabsscarf die by fire, die by fire. I love LOVE!

  15. Adichie
    May 13, 18:06 Reply

    my own is the day I hear that you broke up with him just follow yourself and break up too otherwise I will break you up if possible him too.

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