58 responses

  1. Kenny
    September 14, 2016

    ??????????

    This right here, is what’s important.

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  2. Santa Diaba
    September 14, 2016

    Excuse me please I’m interested in the asylum offer. Epp me!!! ?????

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    • Dennis Macaulay
      September 14, 2016

      ??? Ode

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  3. Santa Diaba
    September 14, 2016

    Lol. On a more serious note, this is the truest thing I’ve read online this week. The LGBTQI community needs unity and for us to rise above mediocrity, in order for things to change for the better in this country.

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  4. Enugu Guy
    September 14, 2016

    TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN
    **********************************
    Dear Dennis,
    Good Morning Sir and how was your night? Hope you had a wonderful night rest? Please can you kindly be my life mentor.

    I would greatly appreciate it and I humbly await you kind reply soonest.

    You much loved reader,
    Enugu Guy

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    • Dennis Macaulay
      September 14, 2016

      I’m sure this was tongue-in-cheek but I will take it as a compliment! Thank you

      I am still trying to figure my own life out sef ???

      The best advice i would give to you though is to learn! Go for information that will help you, read books, articles, journals etc. The odds are already against us for being gay, don’t be a stupid gay man!

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  5. Truth
    September 14, 2016

    Odiegwu, all this long rant for a bunch of meat heads who just want to find the next cock to hop on and fuck their brains out.
    Ask them how many of them want to end up with a man and the answer you get will paint the picture for you.

    There’s no hope. Run to obodo oyibo ✈ if you even want the slightest chance at living a happy life.

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    • ambivalentone
      September 14, 2016

      Really Truth???!!! That’s very cheap. One can only try and HOPE it all sinks in

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    • Dennis Macaulay
      September 14, 2016

      We get it! You are sad! You are depressed! It’s all sad and gloom around you and you cannot see a way out!

      However I did not pen this piece for you, I am not in the habit of pouring water on stone. There are people I wrote this for, people that I am sure it will inspire to reach for the greatness inside them. You really don’t have to comment, plus here you are still on a website you have disavowed publicly and you are even using another moniker? What does that say about your personality and character?

      Oh and by the way, you are starting to sound like a broken record! Nobody likes a broken record

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      • Santa Diaba
        September 14, 2016

        PS, even if you pour water on stone, over time the stone weakens and cracks.

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    • Pink Panther
      September 14, 2016

      Long rant.
      Bunch of meat heads.
      Smh. You’re typical. When you took on a new moniker, I hoped (even against popular contention) that you’d be less Max, less toxic, less poisonous to anything geared to move the Nigerian LGBT forward, no matter how naive, no matter who’s behind the ideas.
      But it seems you are incapable of letting go of your personal bias, that you even have no regard for the people living through this country’s prejudice alongside you.
      It’s disappointing really and I’m done obliging your discontent. If Kito Diaries isn’t giving you what you want, perhaps it’s time for you to move along. Go ye out there and find those who aren’t cock-obsessed meat heads.

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      • Tiercel de Claron
        September 14, 2016

        He needs help P, not upbraiding.This is his way of asking for help,seeking attention.
        Don’t give up on him.

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      • Pink Panther
        September 14, 2016

        Oh but I have, TDC. And I’m not looking back.

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    • emperor
      September 14, 2016

      Now this one sounds like a broken man. Anyone holding his joy and destiny should please release it. Edakun epp him

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      • Dennis Macaulay
        September 14, 2016

        ???

        Edakun

        Co-beg

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    • Williams
      September 15, 2016

      You need to learn how to be comfortable with other people who don’t hold purituristic and “strong moral” values as you. Understand that it’s a free world and people can choose to fuck the whole world so far as thats out of their volition and understand whatever implications they may face.
      Get some love dear, you can be a less bitter dick. Xoxo

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      • Pink Panther
        September 15, 2016

        ??? Well said.

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  6. Bloom
    September 14, 2016

    Thank you, DM. A million times, thank you.

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  7. Tony Odekunle-Brown
    September 14, 2016

    I totally agree with all you have said.

    I still want to leave though. I will fight from the other side 🙂

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    • Dennis Macaulay
      September 14, 2016

      Tony like I said; Strikers, midfielders, defenders, goal keeper, coach and even reserve! All are important!

      Leave if you must, I can’t tell everyone what to do with their lives! However if we all leave because we have the means, what becomes of those who don’t have the means?

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      • pete
        September 14, 2016

        This football analogy makes a second appearance. Will the real Dennis please appear???

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      • Dennis Macaulay
        September 14, 2016

        ??? Its me na! I had a football phase when I dated a Chelsea FC aficionado so I know a thing or two about football thank you very much

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      • Kelvin
        September 14, 2016

        Like we say health is wealth

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  8. Eros
    September 14, 2016

    Be afraid straight folks.

    Be very, very afraid.

    The Gay Agenda has arrived

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  9. Jo
    September 14, 2016

    Thank you Dennis. I do believe we are slowly moving towards the point that every gay man realises that there is more to being gay than liking cock.

    Knowledge is power, more so for an endangered species.

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    • Dennis Macaulay
      September 14, 2016

      I don’t like policing people! We can like cock/nyash and still do what we need to get done.

      Policing people can make them resent your message!

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  10. Too Clean
    September 14, 2016

    Well done Dennis,Good one!

    I like all what you wrote!

    How then do we form the forum whereby some of us who can’t be very vocal can contribute our part monetarily?

    You know,some of us are really doing our stuff in our own little way that people may not know about…

    Let me use this medium to relate what happened to my *friend * on sallah Monday….

    This dude hasn’t called or chatted me for like a year…We his friends have issues with him…because of his character but then when you chat me up for something,I would oblige you..

    This Happened in one of the states in Ugwu Hausa..

    That evening,my friend called my line….he said he is Evans…I didn’t quite get who he was until he called a friend’s name…He called me to ascertain if I know a lawyer in the town,I asked him to send me the name of the lawyer..he did…He wanted to know if the lawyer is gay,honestly,I didn’t know the lawyer at all…I told him that there’s no problem,I checked his Facebook,saw that he is a lawyer..He said the guy asked him to come and buy him beer…He was so skeptical in meeting him because he doesn’t know the guy…I gave him the assurance that nothing would happen since I have his names and address and he is a lawyer like me…so if he does anything (which I believe he won’t),I know how to follow him…Besides their meeting is in a popular bar in the state..And I was very far when he called me …if not I would have followed him there…but he won’t have any of it…still asking me what do I think,I told him that since I have been in that town working,there has never been any form of kito especially if its not with the police or army apart from those,nothing…I told him to go but if he is scared,he shouldn’t drive down,he should not go with his big phone,no wallet,just go with his transport money,money for beer…he did..
    He was so horny and wanted to shag that night…
    We were chatting interchangeably while he was calling me every 1 minutes with me assuring him that nothing would happen..

    So they finally met,the guy came with another guy according to him…He said he doesn’t want to drink beer again that he wants fish…My friend told me this,I told him what does he want to do,he said since he would go to the guy’s house after the drink,he wouldn’t mind giving him money for the fish..

    At that,I wasn’t comfortable with the idea of going to his house that night but then he said he would..i said ok oo..

    He gave the guy 4,500 to go buy the fish,the guy took the money and never came back..all calls left unattended to..My friend whatsaap me ..i said he should be calm that the guy would come back…but he never did…I told him to get a taxi and leave there immediately…he did but was very angry at what the guy did,what if he was stranded and no where to pass the night as his place was quite far..

    I told him that he should let the guy go with the money that I would follow the guy my own way to stop him from doing that to anyone else..

    He refused,saying he would fuck the guy up…i asked him what prove does he have…he said while chatting on whatsaap,he asked the guy if he is into guys,the guy said that question cannot be answered on social media that he should call him on the phone to get his answer..I told him that was the mistake he did because the guy will use that against him and the table would turn…
    He was calm but still want to get vengeance…

    I tried telling him that we lawyers have this solidarity amongst us,they will be in the side of the guy which will be against him…

    After all the argument,I called the lawyer,introduced myself,told him we should see over a drink,he agreed and we met..
    As we went on drinking,I told him about what he did to my client…He was shocked how I know…I told him to please return the money back that he is denting the name of the profession,its against the rules of professional conduct…he said the guy is gay,and I said and so?…Does that warrant you to dupe him besides which lawyer will go asking people for beers…He was shocked,I said if he doesn’t give him the money,I would report his conduct in the next NBA meeting…He quietly gave me the money…

    Now,I jokingly asked my friend that he should come get his money back,he was happy but I told him to get me meat pie when coming since I have been out since 6am to track down this dude from my friends…My friend told me he is not buying anything at all that he would just come and get his money with all seriousness..

    I was shocked….i know he is going to get into another kito again because this was not his first…and I will not help him again!

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    • Keredim
      September 14, 2016

      Please excuse my naivete, but a lawyer tricked someone out of N4500?!??

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      • Too Clean
        September 14, 2016

        Yes..it’s very pathetic

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      • Dennis Macaulay
        September 14, 2016

        Keredim that was really naive ???

        Go to Igbosere in Lagos and you will see Lawyers walking about with Typewriters and brown (previously white) shirts. They will prepare affidavits for you along the road there for 1000!

        You don’t know Nigeria is toff?

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      • Keredim
        September 14, 2016

        A Lawyer carrying a “Typewriter”??! 2016.

        Please tell me that is an app on a handheld device??

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      • Dennis Macaulay
        September 14, 2016

        Too many lawyers, too few jobs!

        Its really sad

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    • ambivalentone
      September 14, 2016

      #sigh Lawyers these days. No pride. No class. Hungerbad tsk tsk

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  11. Kainene
    September 14, 2016

    this article hereeee just made my dayyy!

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  12. Mandeville
    September 14, 2016

    I completely concur with DM (although I personally prefer MD?). It is really sad that we don’t seem to be looking out for ourselves. Twice in the last five months, while on the hunt for a job, have l been sold a line by community members they have a job opening in their firm only to be asked for sex in return. Have we become so desperate for cocks that we can’t do something to help others without on the spot physical gratification? And these are people I had built a rapport, met with and even shagged without hitches. They know what your focus is but the fact that they are at an advantage doesn’t make such abuse of trust right. I know there are no free lunches in life but still, it galls when one is used in such a deplorable manner. If you wanted to hire a rent boy, you could at least be upfront about it instead of hitting below the belt. I’m still on the lookout for a job but have learned from such experiences and it sometimes makes me wonder why even bother.

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    • Dennis Macaulay
      September 14, 2016

      Its sad you went through that but again there are very many gay people who have helped other gay people. I just don’t buy into the narrative that lumps us all into one basket.

      Again I’d point out that there are good people and bad people irrespective of their sexuality, however because the odds are stacked against us it is expedient that we forge ahead together, because nobody gives a shit about us!

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      • Mandeville
        September 14, 2016

        The generalisation was probably a result of exasperation. I have had the pleasure of meeting some exceptional people; gay, straight, bi, asexual, although most of them weren’t local, but the sour eggs are the ones that light up the room.

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  13. Jide
    September 14, 2016

    I feel like I’ve read something similar to this story about mentorship and mentoring in one of your rantings a couple of months back, and I expect to see another one before January 2017.

    My question is this: When would it be implemented tho? What steps have been taken thus far?

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    • Too Clean
      September 14, 2016

      Dennis Macaulay,Jide and I are asking the same question oo..

      Some of us really want to contribute and help..

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  14. Mandeville
    September 14, 2016

    And DM’s rantings/ramblings just took a personal turn between my last post and this. Just had a conversation with a friend who informed me a mutual friend had passed on. Whilst still reeling from that he then proceeded to inform me that a few years back, our late friend had actually said he was going to end it all if life keeps stymieing him. Now he’s passed on and people close to him cannot say what actually caused his death as he wasn’t ill. Now my buddy is scared he may have gone through with his threat.

    My point here is; not all of us are mentally capable of dealing with the shit (excusez mon français) life throws at us especially with all that’s going on in our beloved obodo Nigeria and that’s why we need to help ourselves out of poverty or get asylum outside or even just a listening ear, those that can (eg Too Clean and Jide already volunteered) can help a long way in preventing such tragedies, one soul at a time. Country hard, yes, but love isn’t priced in Bitcoin, sterling, Kuwaiti or Bahraini dinars. I don’t have the means to help out anyone as I am at the moment (this crayfish is already using walking stick) but I am willing to listen and encourage no matter the time of day. So DM, you have another volunteer when the Nigerian version of the Terrence Higgins Trust hits the ground.

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  15. sensei
    September 14, 2016

    *applause*

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  16. Viera
    September 14, 2016

    I really really love this write up, very apt and it came in just at the right time
    But then, while on this journey of solidarity please tell them I’m bottom and you’re top doesn’t mean I owe you sex or friendship not now or never I mean….I’ll help if you’re in trouble or I’ll direct you if I can but don’t think I would warm your bed or form a sister sledge union with you someday
    why am I saying this
    you see someone called me last week he said he got my number from a friend I wanted to know how I could be of help next thing he said was can we fuck I’m horny I told him no and he started ranting on why a fellow gay man would refuse sex …I’m still trying to understand that one
    After working so hard to win a national pageant you would think jobs would fall at your feet since it’s mostly community members involved in the modelling word….or so I thought….it’s either they want to fuck you or pimp you….funny enough these guys are the ones u see on social media forming equality or something in the real sense thier moral is dead
    sometimes I wonder if Nigeria government legalizes gay marriage today or something this country would decay in a little time…..let’s work our morals its necessary most of us have reduced being gay into being a sexual object…….pardon my typos…

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    • Dennis Macaulay
      September 14, 2016

      My dear Vera well I’m sorry for what you experienced but you are also following the narrative that the rest of the world plays up; that our sexual orientation somehow affects our character! There are crappy humans irrespective of sexual orientation, I sure if you asked a lot of straight women they will tell you similar gory stories of what they pass through in the hands of straight men.

      Again I am not denying that there are divides among us, but it is expedient that we fix these divides if we are going to make any progress.

      Let me also state that someone asking you for sex does not make him a bad person, we are sexual beings after all with raging hormones. Again let me state that in these parts people tend to look at pageant kings/queens as glorified sex workers and it is a shame. I will also shamefully state that at some point I have been guilty of this narrative until I learnt better.

      Anyway we can fix the system and to do that we have to fix ourselves. One step at a time, so open your minds and learn! So much information is available out there

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      • oys
        September 14, 2016

        The moral decadence among gay men is just too much…that’s the MAJOR problem and we need to speak against not sugar coat it. Personally I don’t think we can make much difference without curbing this problem. Young gays need to be enlightened that they can do far better than in life than messing around

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      • Chuck
        September 14, 2016

        Moral decadence? Which mores are gay men unable to follow as well as straight men?

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      • Dennis Macaulay
        September 14, 2016

        Oys we really need to end this policing that we do of other people! What do you mean by moral decandence? Who sets the standards? And how is this so called decadence a problem to you?

        You have bought into the narrative that gay men are somewhat depraved and therefore lacking in character!

        Its a shame to hear this from another gay man

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      • oys
        September 15, 2016

        Well that is my own truth and I have to voice it, most gays I know here are just ??? I want to see my people slay in life, career, have a healthy lifestyle, worthy of emulation etc not this dickcareer i see mostly

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      • Pink Panther
        September 15, 2016

        Let me guess, you’re exempt from this dick career, yes? 🙂

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      • oys
        September 15, 2016

        yh

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      • bruno
        September 14, 2016

        “Let me also state that someone asking you for sex does not make him a bad person”

        asking someone for sex before you can help them makes you a scumbag… i’m not sure what you are getting at here.

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      • Dennis Macaulay
        September 14, 2016

        He gave an example and he did not ask the person for help. The person called him and asked for sex! I don’t see the biggie there, simply decline and hang up the phone.

        We have all asked people for sex (directly or indirectly) at some point in our lives

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      • Santa Diaba
        September 15, 2016

        Well, I don’t recall asking anyone for sex. I do however recall being asked, very often ???

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  17. oys
    September 15, 2016

    No more quoting pls..if you can live an impressive life with a dickcareer, good for you but we can’t afford to preach that as the norm cos it’s almost impossible. And what I mean by dickcareer is some extreme randy lifestyle which is common though which probably most people here don’t have.

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    • Dennis Macaulay
      September 15, 2016

      You need to stop talking

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  18. Dannyel
    September 15, 2016

    cool

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  19. MagDiva
    September 17, 2016

    I remember early this year a similar call made and me volunteering and still waiting to hear back from Mr Macaulay.

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    • Pink Panther
      September 17, 2016

      Did you volunteer to his private email or in the comments section?

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      • MagDiva
        September 18, 2016

        His private email

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