Straight Guy Can’t Stop Thinking About Sex With Men When With His Girlfriend
It seems that a self-identified “straight” guy just can’t stop thinking about having sex with other men while he’s with his girlfriend. As he writes to the Dear Coleen advice column in The Mirror U.K.:
“I think I may be bisexual. I’ve been in a great relationship with a girl for two years but I can’t get the thought of sex with men out of my mind. I don’t find men attractive as such, although the thought of being with another guy gets me excited and I sometimes fantasize about it while I’m with my girlfriend.
“It is starting to get awkward, as sometimes it’s the only way I can get an erection. I sometimes worry that I will end up finding a random guy to experiment with and lose my girlfriend in the process. What’s your advice?”
And here’s what Miss Coleen has to say about it:
“Well, you will lose her in the process. I think the fantasy is in danger of getting out of control, so maybe it is something you need to experiment with to work out what you want. But if that’s what you’re contemplating, you shouldn’t be with your girlfriend right now. Don’t make the mistake of getting married and having kids, thinking you’ll “get over it”.
“That won’t happen – I’ve the letters to prove it. I know people who’ve spent a lifetime unhappily married because they’re suppressing the fact they’re gay, which is sad for them and their partners. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with feeling the way you do but don’t lead your girlfriend up the garden path while you’re figuring it out. If you want to experiment, make a clean break.”
Coleen’s right. This guy is at the least bisexual, and needs to take some time to explore his sexuality. He may not even end up with a guy, but it’s best to spare himself the agony of trying to be something he’s obviously not.
And, if the current obsession with “straight” men is anything to go on, he will likely have no trouble locating guys that are ready and willing to help him, um…find himself.
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9 Comments
bruno
June 06, 06:38the most unexpected things go on in people’s heads. it’s intriguing… wish i had professor x’s power
ambivalentone
June 06, 07:02I wonder if Coleen would mind sharing some statistics with me tho. I wonder who wrote the advice at the end of this tho. UK Mail or Pinky
Pink Panther
June 06, 11:46You can scooch on over to queerty to see it for yourself.
Jay
June 06, 07:35“I think I may be bisexual”
Don’t know why that shit gets me all the time ?
Stumbled on a similar case sometime
Colossus
June 06, 08:06The guy suspects he is bisexual, Miss Colleen thinks he is gay.
Oh the confusion. Who to believe? Who to believe?….
#Chestnut
June 06, 10:01well, he says (sometimes) the only way he can get an erection is by thinking about guys (not girls who are hotter than his girlfriend), so, u be d judge…
Colossus
June 06, 14:29Sometimes, not all the time. The other times, his girlfriend does the job.
Delle
June 06, 09:53At least this one agrees he’s bisexual…
Cedar
June 06, 15:16Even here in naija, u’d be damned to know about d number of guys with the same “issue”. The MGM thingy ain’t working no more. I get dis funny feeling when supposedly straight guys are checking me out in my lodge.
As 4 d guy, he is gay, short and simple, cos I don’t see how a straight wud need to fantasize about another guy to get a hardon even when with his babe.