Tag "Gay Community"

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ABOUT TIME (AN OPEN LETTER TO MY COMMUNITY)

The first reason I decided to write this story was because I have been carrying the burden of what I’ve done in my heart for a long time. There is

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Why Do Gay Men Pay Straight Men For Sex But Not Fellow Gay Men?

I was in the company of some friends a few days ago, and one of them was talking about the exploits of his friend who is apparently a diehard straight

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THE DILEMMA OF CHYKING THE MAN

There are a lot of things that make living as a gay man in Nigeria difficult: there is the Nigerian brand of homophobia that is hateful and violent and ironically

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Kito Alert: Who Can You Trust?

Who can you trust not to steal you or set you up in the gay community? I often get asked this rhetorical question, and I have to say that there’s

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The Life That Was Robbed From The Nigerian Gay Community

There are so many innocent harmless aspects of the hookup culture in Nigeria that the SSMPA has taken away from us. A few days ago, I was on my way

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“Being Gay Is Not A Career.” Nigerian Gay Man Sparks A Conversation on Twitter About the Choices of Gay Men in Nigeria

Late Sunday evening, a Twitter user who goes by the handle @Debonairjay tweeted his “advice” to young gay men, a tweet which has gone viral in screengrabs that have been

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The Category is: MASC4MASC, NO FEMMES ALLOWED

Growing up, I was always feminine, and as with all things that trigger unease in the supposed moral fabric of an average Nigerian, it became a source of undue attention.

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“Behind every female icon is a gay man.” – Lady Gaga

Lady Gaga has paid tribute to her gay fans, saying she wouldn’t be where she is today without them. Speaking at a press conference for A Star Is Born at

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Not Fats, No Femmes: Exclusion Within A Community Fighting For Inclusion

Deleting the Grindr app from my phone was possibly one of the most self-care actions I’d done lately; the app had simply lost its allure for me. it has become

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A Medley Of Opinions About Love And Relationship In The Nigerian Gay Community

So, a couple of days ago, I posted my response to a friend who wanted some answers about love and relationships. Before I arrived at my response, I brought the