So the first entry for this new series is an update made in the Facebook group I belong. It goes thus:
This guy said out of obvious vexation, “The lube is too much! Don’t apply lube again. Everywhere is just wet.”
And I looked up at him with the most incredulous look I could come up with. There really is such a thing as TOO MUCH LUBE?
And then the comments…
WASP: The iberiberism of a Top.
DELLE: Azin ehn. People can say the most insane things.
CEO: Yes there is such a thing as ‘too much lube’, especially Durex water-based lube. When it’s too much, there’s hardly any resistance or sensation felt again. You apply in moderation, enough to grant easy insertion.
CEO: And when it gets like that, with no resistance, it gets boring for me. I never get to cum and I quickly lose interest.
DELLE: I know not to make a fountain of lube. I added some more when the lube was getting dry so as to reduce the friction but he wasn’t having it.
CEO: Some of us like it dry. I love to use saliva…not that lube isn’t available. It simply turns me on.
RAIN: I think what CEO is getting at is that after a while, the ass secretes its own juices. And as such, any extra lube is just, well, extra. I certainly don’t like when there’s no friction when I’m fucking someone. There’s no “grip” and it becomes a chore.
WASP: The amount of lube to be applied is the prerogative of the bottom. Not the top. If it’s not enough to make the bottom be comfortable with the penetration, then by all means, apply some more.
CEO: Two of them have to arrive at a mid-point of agreement, so as to satisfy both parties. It’s not only about the bottom.
WASP: Akuko! Because anal warts and tearing is an agreement between the two of them, abi?
Wiffey: On another hand, the kind of lube being used matters. I never go anywhere near water-based lubricants because it’s more like torture and I won’t enjoy any minute of it. But with jelly-based lubricant, honey, I’ll go all in for any size.
Chris: Odd as it may sound, I have been told by a bottom I was making out with to stop applying any more lube, that he doesn’t like his ass wet when being fucked. And I was like, bros, I love it when it’s supper wet. I can’t come and get dick fracture.
DELLE: But apparently he revels in the pain from friction. Weird.
CEO: There’s pleasure in that kind of pain. It’s called “Oto m, ufu.”
Now back to y’all. Can we have a conversation about the application of lube during sex, and whose prerogative it is, bottom or top.