THE FIRST WORD

THE FIRST WORD

I was fortunate to come across this blog the month it started, April 2014. I’ve tried my best to follow it and at first it was kinda a love-hate relationship. I was skeptical about it. I felt it would go the way of other groups. I made a classic mistake of equating it to a BBM or Facebook group, and boy! have I been proven wrong. It’s the end of 2014, and Kito Diaries is still standing. So kudos to Pink Panther, and the contributors, both in stories and in comments. To the numerous visitors who are yet to add their voice and/or share their stories, we still thank you and we remain patient; slowly but surely, you’ll break forth from your shells and we’ll be here to welcome you.

2014 came with its fair share of highs and lows, and like everything male related, it was sometimes a battle of egos. We read great stories and got introduced to various characters. Some people came with thirst that cannot be quenched by the Living waters, while others seemed to ram their ideologies down other people’s throats (pun intended). At the end of it all, we moved on, we laughed, we bickered, subtle hook-ups were made, the readership grew, and the blog got better. Kudos once more to us all.

This post would not delve too much into the past, even though the past helps secure the future. Like everything about a new thing, about the future, we have wishes. We have dreams of how good it would turn out. Some of us will make New Year resolutions. We’ll probably decree not to sleep around, to declare this year as the year of love, to spew less vitriol, have fewer orgies, leave religion, find a new religion, comment more on KD or comment less. Whatever your New Year resolutions are, achievable or not, it comes down to one person.

YOU!

Whatever you went through in the previous year, it’s gone, it’s behind you. Don’t dwell too much on it. You have the opportunity to start anew. To those who were kito’d, I pray the pain helps propel you forward and never hold you back. I’ll like to believe you’re all smarter now after those ugly experiences, and we thank you for sharing your stories, they’ll help us get smarter too. Would there be no kito stories in the New Year? I doubt that, but my prayers are that they be fewer and far in-between.

To those who are battling depression, you’re not alone. Would this New Year lead to a total eradication of your depression? Maybe not, it probably might never go away but it can significantly be managed. When you feel you’re all alone, take a trip to this blog, read the stories and know you’re not alone. For every single male here, most have gone or are going through the same thing. Develop the feeling of brotherhood, that’s a first step.

Make the effort to step out of your gloomy zone, for contrary to what some people tell you, your sexuality does not define you, you define your sexuality. So seize the year and start battling that depression.

This year, some will find religion, some will abandon it. Whether you’re still sniffing the opium fumes or discovered enlightenment on the misguided guise of being an atheist, it matters not if you’re forever dead and evil inside. How do you plan on changing this New Year? Will you demand to be accepted but yet can’t accept the lifestyle choice of your fellow brother?

To those battling to blend religion and their sexuality, it’s not going to be an easy ride. You might not even find the answers before the end of the year. What I’ll tell you though is to take it one day at a time. It won’t be easy, removing yourself from a religion you grew up with; the consequences of fast withdrawal (pun intended again) might lead you on a downward spiral. If you plan on making religion work for you, don’t be discouraged. It is YOUR right to do so. If it makes you happy, then go for it. What I want us all to remember in this New Year is that no religion is inherently bad; it’s some people in it who screw it up. Christianity, Islam, Buddhism, traditional or even atheism, they all speak of LOVE. So hold onto that and let it guide you into being a better human being.

As we step into the New Year, let LOVE guide you. Tolerance is the key and it helps shape the content of your character. You might have known only hate and ridicule; don’t soak it in and project to the world. Project LOVE. Project a strong and independent YOU. If you’re looking for love in this New Year, I pray you find it. Contrary to what some of us say, there IS love in the gaybourhood. You just have to roll up your sleeves, get down on all fours and find it.

Are you just looking for a shag, Kito Diaries is not the place to find it, but when you do find those shags, one for every day perhaps, please be protected. You might get an STD or you might not, I just don’t want this year to be the year you eventually do.

Is this the year you want to get married, to deviate suspicions from you… To make the endless questions stop… Or just because you’re bisexual? We understand, well not entirely all of us, but remember, it is YOUR life. You’re the one wearing the shoes, you’re the one walking in them. So take a long proud walk, and if we do get an invitation, we’ll be there to SUPPORT you. That’s what I like to believe we’ll do. If we make fun of you later, please take it in stride or tell us how much you’re hurt by it, some of us will try our best to stop.

There really are a lot of things I wish for every one of us in this New Year, but I won’t continue with the long boring wishes. This blog has come a long way in so short a time. Kudos to Pink Panther and every one of us, for what’s a blog without its readers.

Wherever you are reading this, raise a glass and toast to a better New Year.

Tell yourself this: “I’m not an aberration, I’m not a reject. I’m queer, I’m here and I’m fabulous.”

HAPPY NEW YEAR! YOU DESERVE IT.

Written by Colossus

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  1. Dennis Macauley
    January 01, 06:39 Reply

    Colossus I see what you did all over this article!

    I will quietly sip my vodka

    • Colossus
      January 01, 11:12 Reply

      What did I do? Pour me a shot while we discuss what it is you think I did

  2. Ace
    January 01, 06:39 Reply

    Yay! Nice colossus. Happy new year! Nna eh! The expression “opium pipes” don dey dey overused nah. If not it, it will be “marinated”. Oh well, that best describes some people here.

    P.S : errm…” Queer and Fabulous ” …ok.

    • pinkpanthertb
      January 01, 06:50 Reply

      Yels? Do you have any problem with us being Queer and Fabulous?
      *hoping Ace will give an answer that will make the Mother of Dragons destroy him this new year* 😀

      • Ace
        January 01, 06:56 Reply

        *Retreats to shell* It is way too early to start off the New year with shade in the air, let’s stick to the fireworks 🙂

  3. Paul
    January 01, 06:44 Reply

    Standing Ovation!
    Happy New Year 2us all.

  4. Deola
    January 01, 06:47 Reply

    I think my favorite line here is ‘your sexuality doesn’t define you,you define your sexuality’. Beautifully written Colossus and happy new year.

  5. `Fabian.
    January 01, 07:14 Reply

    “I’m not an aberration, I’m not a reject. I’m
    queer, I’m here and I’m fabulous.”

    Beautiful, Colossus.

  6. Anonymous
    January 01, 07:23 Reply

    I can clearly recall last year’s (2013-2014) Passover service, my major prayer point was “every spirit of homosexuality, I bind it in Jesus name”. Now let’s backtrack to last night (2014-2015) I was unfortunate to be home with my folks hence I had to attend the watch night service with them… but this year was different, a single “amen”.
    This is just to say a big thank you to the KD folks and a happy new year.

    On a side note, I really do have to tell my story.

  7. gad
    January 01, 07:25 Reply

    Please add “wonderfully made”

  8. Lord II
    January 01, 07:26 Reply

    Wow!! Colossus you actually did get all our interests into one episode….go guy! Thanx for the above and I am wishing all of us ONE THING….and that is TRIUMPH….

    Yes it is THE year of triumph for YOU and this means YOU can BE triumphant in anything U put your heart into…this year and it’s up to you to just believe so strongly in YOU and call yourself “that”and before long EVERYONE ELSE will follow suit…

    So never give in to average, mediocrity or failure and just like the richest man at one time was called up to address d crowd and said in one sentence before dropping the mic….”never ever ever ever ever ever ever ever GIVE UP!”….

  9. Chizzie
    January 01, 07:44 Reply

    I’m back to my old moniker for this new year. ..yaay?.

    I’m not really a believer in resolutions as they hardly ever come to fruition. But I’m going to put a more conscious effort towards changing a couple of things about me this new year. for starters, how about hitting the Gym finally! Apparently thick & Juicy is so 2013 and Toned and firm is the new black?

    And maybe stop drinking that much coke.

    and yeah…il need to tone it down abit on the selfie taking.

    I plan on sticking to one penis ( or two) this year. Figured I’ll give the mangina a rest from the busy year dt was 2014.

    Cheers to Twen-ey 15!

  10. Blaq Jaqs
    January 01, 08:16 Reply

    I like to believe that New Year’s are a cliché and if I want to make certain changes I can do them at any moment on any day. However I couldn’t but feel a surge of happiness as we crossed over into 2015. The excitement around was infectious and I found myself making resolutions again!
    Damn the clichés. There is just something about 00.00 01/01 that inspires and gives the world HOPE regardless of circumstances around.
    On that note I wish every one on Kito Diaries a Happy New Year! Hope we all continue to grow and do things that make us genuinely happy!
    Nicely written Colussus, you writing depicts how beautiful you are…

    • trystham
      January 01, 09:45 Reply

      Infectious kwa? It was too cliche n I was jaded. The new year is just ANOTHER day abeg…or maybe I was just mad cos they clamped down on my movement. I kept chewing gum like an Allen whore in church. Nobody noticed or prolly conveniently ignored cos it kept coinciding with all them fireworks.
      I can decide to change at any point i. the year. That’s when a new year does start for me. But as most of us kuku like tradition n routine, Happy New Year. Sorry for all those carry over resolutions that will still be carried forward still

  11. Andrevn
    January 01, 08:35 Reply

    My festive celebrations certainly would not be complete if i do not wish my fellow dear K’Dsians a Happy,Merry and Prosperous Nu year in this ’15….

    To you Tigress,you never will know what you’ve done for me/us not until posterity starts paying you back in measures over flowing…
    To Shifu chestnut Chief Shade Emeritus the succulence of your wit is incomparable…
    Rapu’m our very own Lil’ Ms Adichie
    Mrs Dennis Macauley the perfect Gentlewife…
    Gad and Lord the Dogged Opiumites i salute your perseverence…
    Max, oh Max! May your IQ soar above the Northern Stars..,
    To Sensei the shrink who shrinks all arguements to a fullstop..
    Her Dragonic Grace,the Queen Regnant,Her Majesty Khaleesi I of K’D…
    To the Queens’ regent,Countess Kryxx who is a warming ray of sunshine…
    To Justjames my very own K’D crush #oops.
    To colossus the ever sturdy pillar..
    To peeps living positively with HIV…In your pain may you grow stronger…
    To Absie,Vhar,XpressiveJboi #duffing Hat!
    To my very own home gurls: Princess Illuvmua of K’D,Duchess the Dramatis and Victor who piles up posts for abundant of laughs..
    To the medics Dennis,Simba and Co. on here..
    #TeamKizito, K’Ds’ own lil’ Hmmming Bird!
    Jarch the airplane expert who exposes us to slutty experiences o’er cloud 9…
    To everyone who has worn a kito sandal with pink stockings…
    To you chizzie, the ice queen with overactive obsessions…
    To you my sidey (i know i’ld be getting a call when you see this)…
    To the Tiger behind the Tigress,well more grease… #coughs.
    Deola our very own MD in charge of R&D…
    Peak,IVANKO,De Metorsexual…….#genuflects!
    Paul, A-non,Ace ‘Viscountess De Hearts!
    To my fiance’ Henri, do come back soon Bae #missing you from this end..

    To every other commenter,follower,reader innumerable to mention…who has allowed me to take insightful peeks into their guarded closets!

    May we all share in the Joy of this season and this new year bring for us more laughter and happiness to cheer..

    We’ve been afraid
    but we are and will still be here.
    We are queer…Yes!
    But we are super Fabulous….

    PS:Ain’t shading nobody o!

      • Andrevn
        January 01, 12:02 Reply

        Gives you Orgasm inducing Hug boo!
        #pinches your butt!

    • simba
      January 01, 17:19 Reply

      Thank u dear…Woa am mentioned hahahhahaha..happy new year

  12. Samurai
    January 01, 08:38 Reply

    Colossal Colossus.
    Nice write-up.
    Just that I have this feeling it would have been better as poetry than prose.
    I don’t know!

    • Colossus
      January 01, 11:08 Reply

      I don’t know poetry, I don’t know prose. Quite frankly, I know not the difference.
      Happy New year Samurai

  13. Andrevn
    January 01, 08:41 Reply

    #smacks head

    How come i forgot you Dear Dubem!
    In our pain we will be stronger and shine brighter than Diamonds!!

  14. xpressivejboy
    January 01, 08:51 Reply

    Nicely and beautifully put together, Colossus. Thanks for those words…HappyNewYear Everyone.

  15. Nuel
    January 01, 08:57 Reply

    So so love d ending part. Happy new year all.

  16. Max
    January 01, 09:16 Reply

    This post has shades of different color.. It spreads far n wide.. But in all, a good piece..

    • Colossus
      January 01, 11:04 Reply

      No shade, truth as it should be. Happy New year max.

  17. KyrxxX
    January 01, 09:19 Reply

    *Jumping up nd down while clapping in glee* Yaaaaaaaaaaaaay! This write up is awesome/amazing! Thank you for such a wonderful summary of last year! Spot on! Particularly loving d religion nd sexuality part!
    I thank Obinna 4 introducing me to this blog without even knowing he did! Getting in here gave me hope nd a new perspective to life! I learnt to stand up 4 myself nd not hide anymore just becos of dis blog.
    Was never one to get a new year resolution but with my wealth of knowledge 4rm in here, I chose to give it fire 4 fire to anyone who thinks the have an opinion over my life nd choices! If you feel u can pull me down with ur words, am gonna pull u down into d gutters b4 u do. Nd by d time am done soaking, washing, rinsing, squeezing, drying nd ironing u, u see me nd u think twice b4 spewing trash! Bitches beware!
    And to those human beings that feel they r too fine, d world revolves around them thus very proud nd aloof, get ready to bite d dust this year(You know urselves!).
    That said, thank you Andreven for the title! Am gonna uphold d standard of this kingdom!

      • KryssS
        January 01, 11:22 Reply

        Yeah! It is coming from a very angry place! One idiot felt he has an opinion about me this past week nd after giving him a piece of my mouth(Chizzie has nothing on my dark side!), I decided to change my stance on keeping quite.

  18. Andrevn
    January 01, 09:43 Reply

    Yea some persons really need to take several back seats this new year…
    you are so welcome babe!
    #Raising KD standards high up in the Sky!

    @ Colossus…i just hope what i think is what you name implies cos i am so gunning you down!……#meow!

    • Colossus
      January 01, 18:39 Reply

      Hahahaha. What did I say about the thirst not bring quenched by the Living waters? Apparently you’ve got it.

  19. Dennis Macauley
    January 01, 09:58 Reply

    I do believe in resolutions; but for me it’s like a bucket-list for the new year and mine has serious stuff and goofy stuff!

    However I have ONE main resolution; TO BE HAPPY, BY ANY MEANS NECESSARY

    OnASideNote: all those sending wishes to Mrs M and conveniently forgetting to extend same to me, I am watching you guys closely! Ask PP I have vicious dogs

    • Vhar.
      January 01, 10:26 Reply

      Dogs?
      And that ought to what, scare us?

      Try.

      • Dennis Macauley
        January 01, 11:17 Reply

        Vhar? You too?

        Don’t let the devil use you

        *dials breeder to order more dogs*

      • Colossus
        January 01, 18:42 Reply

        Breeder? Ok. *continues sipping the vodka not offered*

    • Andrevn
      January 01, 12:15 Reply

      And you acknowledged the kiss i gave you on chrismas day!……Yes!

      Take some seats DM…. The Missus is the new Black!

      • Dennis Macauley
        January 01, 14:31 Reply

        Sweerie don’t vex biko! Mayb I did not see it!

        Where can I kiss you back?

  20. Aproko Pikin
    January 01, 10:07 Reply

    This came out like a PR Speech in summary…

    Nice one Colossians.

    Happy New Year KDians!

  21. enigmous
    January 01, 10:18 Reply

    I accidentally bumped into KD when I was stalking someone’s wall (can’t even remember his name) on Facebook. Since then, it has been helluva ride.

    I learnt, I reformed, I grew, I understood, I wisened up…thanks to all of you. My prayer this new year is that you find joy, happiness and LOVE (if you are still searching like me).

    May God bless and keep you and yours this 2015.

    • A-non
      January 01, 11:31 Reply

      @enigmous, just when I was considering you for a seat in our grapevine-in-council, you make it known that you are stalker?

      Do you promise to stop stalking in 2015?

      *folds hands and taps right foot on the ground in anticipation of an answer*

  22. Handsomely Inclined
    January 01, 11:01 Reply

    Wow….colloss,nice one,with this piece,I am sure my new year is already made,you couldn’t have put it any better….

  23. A-non
    January 01, 11:19 Reply

    Very well written Colossus! Managed to cover a lot of grounds but remained true to itself…

    Amongst all my hopes and dreams for 2015, the one I hope to not forget is social work.

    To be a blessing to those who can never pay me back…to bring smiles to the faces of those who gave forgotten what it means to smile…to be a source of hope to those whose light of hope have long dimmed. Not sure where to start from, but the urge to even do it seems a good place to start…can only hope the cares of this world doesn’t make me sweep it under the carpet!

    I may not have my life all figured out yet…I still struggle in many more ways than family and friends may think but I am alive, better than I was yesterday and have been blessed with all that I need!

    I want to be a blessing to someone who least expects…that is my challenge in 2015…less of me and mine!

    • gad
      January 01, 14:16 Reply

      So selfless and angelic. This must be coming from a beautiful heart. May God bless you and give you the enablements to carry out this duty of love

  24. Arabian Princess
    January 01, 11:46 Reply

    “I’m not an aberration, I’m not a reject. I’m queer, I’m here and I’m fabulous.”
    This will be a mantra this year.

    2014 ended on a rough note (disowned at 20, two days ago cos I chose my happiness over family) but 2015 will be greater cos I’m free from family and religion.
    But I’m still standing cos my friends have turned to my family. (talk about water being thick as sludge n blood as thin as vodka)

    I plan on doing something big on KD. I don’t know what it’ll be yet – maybe chronicle my Six family kito stories or write a fictionalised edition of my life. Whatever it is, i’m sure it’s gonna be good n accepted.
    Thank you very much, Pinky, for this blog as it has been a pillar of support from Day One. I love you sooo much.

      • Arabian Princess
        January 01, 12:23 Reply

        girl kwa. just a boy with fantasies of having a Bahamas wedding with an Arabian Prince

    • gad
      January 01, 14:26 Reply

      Now this is shocking! A family can this own their child at 20 due to his sexuality? I don’t know what to say but Arabian princess, I will really like us to talk. If ok by you drop your contacts with Pinky.

      • Arabian Princess
        January 01, 20:50 Reply

        I have already. I might not answer immediately cos ryt now, cos I think my life is in grave danger. Some people have been following me since morning

        • gad
          January 02, 01:31 Reply

          I do not know the details or nature of the problems but I will advise that you apply a lot of caution for now. I don’t see how you could be traced through picking of calls. I’m sure the matter hasn’t got to the level of tracking your location via your calls. On the average,we still lack that capacity as a nation except for high caliber security issues. Just be careful. I will send an introduction to you when I get your contact to assuage your suspicion/fear. Be strong. Its well

    • Lord II
      January 01, 15:55 Reply

      Wow….so sorry. But it will just be for a short while my dear.

    • pinkpanthertb
      January 02, 03:52 Reply

      I am just seeing this. And i got your mail. And believe me when i say my heart goes out to you, Arabian Princess. It may be dark now, but you’ll rise to the light in quick time. Just believe in yourself and stick to that pursuit of happiness

  25. Andrevn
    January 01, 12:43 Reply

    Can i ask a Question?!!

    Shebi we are family? howbeit dysfunctional according to Dear James

    So i want Pinky to tell us (this Flambulous conclave)who this REDLIP entity i saw amongst the list of top commenters is.while going through #2014 in Review!

    So over to you Mama P(eace)ink….
    *sips Hollandia Yoghourt while waiting!

    #Where is Headmaster Chestnut just when you need him?……..#anyoneseenHim?

    • pinkpanthertb
      January 02, 03:59 Reply

      Andrevn i swear” i have been pondering the same thing. I have absolutely no recollection of who the dude is

  26. Khaleesi
    January 01, 13:53 Reply

    Colossus! This is beautiful, like Dennis, i also saw the small fire u started. Lol…
    My fellow kitodieriesians, like I’ve been saying over the last few days, am proud to live in the
    Same gaybourhood as you all. I wish that we join hands to help each other through this difficult journey – which we have no choice but to travel, we must be strong.
    I hope we get more of our silent readers to come out and make their voices heard.
    Enjoy your holidays, dance, laugh out loud, act silly, take lots of pictures, have wild passionate sex (preferably with someone you’re emotionally attached to and generally enjoy life for it is indeed short and fleeting and while you’re at it, make your own rules and enforce them, in the end it’s ur life …

    • Dennis Macauley
      January 01, 14:34 Reply

      That title “mother of dragons” makes me laugh!

      Who has read “We need new names by NoViolet Boluwayo?

      ***holds laugh***

      • Khaleesi
        January 01, 20:51 Reply

        Nne ehn, i think it was Kryss who coined that name lol … first time i heard it, it also cracked me up, but i guess i got used to it …

  27. Enny Da'diva
    January 01, 14:02 Reply

    Really lov this….every though it was a long article…I managed to read it…..HI 5 to colosuss..nd esp pinky for making this place so lively…CNT skip a day without checking on here……I’wld rather come on here than to have my breakfast.d name made me remember a rabbit in The thundermans

    • pinkpanthertb
      January 02, 07:38 Reply

      Do have a good day, Enny. And an even greater year. 🙂

  28. Bern
    January 01, 15:05 Reply

    Hello Pinkpantertb,

    Kindly help on how I can reach Kingbey.

    I don’t know how I missed his piece “THE ISSUE OF BLOOD” last month.

    Honestly, he presented every part of me and experience as well; much more to discuss ASAP (Please permit that Pinky)… I will appreciate if Dr. DM could keep in touch as well… gleeguy1@yahoo.com

    Thanks in anticipation.
    -SOS

    • pinkpanthertb
      January 02, 07:37 Reply

      I’ll pass your email along to them. Hope they can help you resolve your issues. Happy new Year, Bern.

  29. Mr Kassy
    January 01, 15:53 Reply

    One word:BLESSED.yea I am so blessed for stumbling over this haven.Thank you Pinky.Collossus nice writeup.Happy New year all of you KD’s!

  30. obatala
    January 01, 20:58 Reply

    I haven’t been on this blog in over a month
    #goodToBeBack

  31. Jason Ellis
    January 01, 21:38 Reply

    Happy New Year. This will be prosperous for all of us!

  32. brynix
    January 01, 22:15 Reply

    Happy New Year kitofamily. Just throwing this out there…… It’s my birthday

    • gad
      January 02, 01:08 Reply

      While we wish u happy birthday we pray that your positive aspirations come through. We also wish you many more years of laughter, joy and happiness. Please address us next time as kitodiaries family,Kdiarians or kd family and not kito family,biko

      • pinkpanthertb
        January 02, 03:57 Reply

        Hahahahahahahaa! Thank you gad. For that very succinct correction.

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  34. Lothario
    January 04, 08:50 Reply

    Very good piece to start of the year…..sounds like that Graduation Speech.

    Happy new year! Break out a glass of bubbly…you deserve it!

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