THE SEX OF THE MAN WITH A BIG DICK

THE SEX OF THE MAN WITH A BIG DICK

Sometime ago, I was reading on a foreign blog a story about the tendency for white gays to fetishize big dicks, especially big black dicks. It was something I found so surreal, that I imagined myself in a room with three or more white twinks, each of them ferociously coveting my gbola. 😅

And that is what I want to talk about: the life of the man who has a big dick.

I have read on several social media platforms the pontifications of randy Nigerian men as they bragged about what impressive members they have, and I have observed women fawn and fall over themselves to gain some of this masculine affection. And this has had me a bit confused, because the general reception I get to my dick is one of alarm.

There was this guy who’d always be on Facebook, boasting about the things he could do with his nine-inch dick. Every time I logged onto Facebook, I’d see him on my timeline, rolling my eyes at his regular lewd posts that never failed to update us on how girls loved to get down with him – and I would find myself thinking about the first time I attempted to have sex. I call it an attempt, because that was what it apparently was.

The guy I tried to have sex with couldn’t take me, but because he’d been thirsting for nearly more than seven months for the D, coupled with the fact that he obviously didn’t want to disappoint me, we went on forcing the sex. It never really happened, but I came out of that experience with my first paint job. We knew it was time to call it a day when my penis emerged from his ass coated with particles of his excreta. To me, it was fascinating as much as it was awful.

This experience and some others like it have had me debating within myself over just how big what I’m carrying really is – because, you see, I have seen a lot of penises on porn, both gay and straight, and it has made me aware that my dick doesn’t measure with a majority of those I see in action, leaving me to wonder whether I really all that or have only had the misfortune of meeting guys who cannot take the D.

Early last month, I finally decided to measure my dick size to know exactly what I had on. I got a ruler, expecting to find it measuring at 10 inches or thereabout. However, I was met with some disappointment as I struggled to get close to 7 inches.

I’ve been in five relationships – four with guys and one with a girl – and have had sex in about three of these relationships. My last same-sex relationship lasted just six months. To be honest, I shouldn’t have even gotten into that relationship in the first place after the way he reacted when he first saw my penis.

“T-man, is it my womb you want to scatter with this weapon?” he playfully said, causing me to laugh before we went on to have one of the best foreplays I’d ever had.

It turned out that the foreplay was going to be as far as we would ever go.

He was someone I really fancied and actually still care about: intelligent, sensitive and caring. However, the fact that he was unable to take me in and that I was getting exasperated from being committed to him with no sexual gratification meant I eventually got to the part where I began to try to see what else was out there. He came to visit me one time, saw my risqué chats with these other guys, and so the relationship had to end. I still wanted him, but my hormones wanted more than just foreplays.

After that relationship ended, I met someone. Let’s call him Basil. We chatted for a while before we decided to meet. He was interesting and brilliant. Thankfully, there were no surprises when we came face to face, as he looked exactly as he was in his pictures. The fact that he was nearly as tall as I am (I am 6’3) and that I’d never met a partner that tall added to his appeal.

We had a good time. Cooking, gisting and even attending a literary club together. Eventually, he left without me making any sexual contact with him. When he got home, he texted, telling me how he really enjoyed his stay with me and how he almost didn’t want to leave. He talked about how I was a real gentleman who didn’t try to get into his pants, something that was not usual with “today’s tops” – his exact words.

I smiled and explained that it was my policy not to have sex on the first date. But deep down, I wondered if what had held me back from trying something with him was because I had a policy – or was it me being scared of finding out that we were unmatched sexually? Perhaps, I had enjoyed Basil’s company so much, found myself being attracted to him so much, I was afraid of being disappointed that he too could turn out to be yet another guy who couldn’t take me.

We eventually did have sex, and it turned out that I didn’t have to worry so much. It was one of the best sex I’d ever had. Must have been for him too, because I frequently had to place my hand over his mouth to stifle his unrelenting moans. And what was more? It was a three-rounded package. That had never happened for me before.

At some point after Round Two, he’d said, “T-man…” – and I nodded, as I could barely respond, apparently still struggling to catch my breath following a cataclysmic ejaculation – “…this is the best sex I’ve ever had.”

I was beyond elated. Finally! A testimonial that I could tender as part of my resume should I decide to go into a career in porn, where at least, I’d be guaranteed the fetishization I know I deserve. LOL.

Well, how about you, oh brother with the big dick? What has your sexual experience been as someone who serves the D bigger than the average?

Written by T-man

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  1. Persimmon
    December 19, 08:45 Reply

    Hmmmm… You have the gift a lot of men pray for. Honestly, I like big dicks as they are a beautiful sight to behold, especially for black men. However, for most of my adult life I have been horrible in handling penis for some wierd reason.
    I really don’t understand how this works for everyone, because I have been in sexual situations where I had to play the bottom and despite the penis being like a pimple I still felt uncomfortable. I have also been in a setups where the penis is humongous and my behind parts like the biblical red Sea. It just makes me wonder at times how the body works.
    Better keep Basil close tho…🙃

    • Demi
      December 19, 09:44 Reply

      Ohh how u echo my thoughts persimmon.. But one thing as solace is the style of sex really matters as well as d frequency of d pounding.. Lmfao..

  2. Faeqhar Ibn Waziri
    December 19, 08:47 Reply

    This big dick thingy is quite tricky. I always believe that everything is really in the technique. 7″ is actually quite just right if both parties play their cards well. But then again, people do have their range of comfort.
    I’m an above average dick bottom, 7.3″ actually & I typically get that omg, you got a big dick, you should try topping Gist. But some of us still do not know how to play the top card. I have also met one or two people who just want a big dicked bottom, because the sight of your dick bobbling while riding his dick, is quite erotic…😆😆

  3. Higwe
    December 19, 09:01 Reply

    I can’t relate. 😁😁😂

    Thank the Lord I have a great body and of course my philosophical quote – it’s not the size but the zeal .🏃🏽‍♂️

  4. J
    December 19, 10:23 Reply

    Most people are bad at foreplay that’s why they struggle with penetration. If the arm can penetrate the anus (fisting), then I see no reason why the penis won’t… Your bottom partner has to be comfortable and relaxed. Give him the kind of foreplay that can make his anus wide open even before you penetrate him.

    You need a good lubricant too, water based lubricant preferably. Some tops don’t kiss and they don’t suck talk more of rimming. They will just bring their huge cock and expect it to be sucked and received by the poor bottom’s anus without reluctance. Why be so selfish? A bottom that is well treated, wouldn’t hesitate to relax the muscles of that hole as fast as possible.

    And about excreta, I wonder why it turns so many tops off. Why? Don’t you poo? Have you ever tried taking a dick? A big and long dick can explore faeces that are not due for excretion. It’s the anus for God sake, the end of the alimentary canal not the Virgina… A little poo should be expected at anytime, you can always clean it, it’s not going to stick to your cock for a week. Seriously bottoms need credit because it’s not easy taking a dick and coming out clean and what what… Those porn stars go for days without eating some certain food and they undergo a thorough cleaning and you don’t expect your bottom to be doing the same because you would need sex every day if you’re together.

    • Tman
      December 19, 10:59 Reply

      I should probably come to you for a class or two of Rudimentary Foreplay seeing how you seem to be an expert at knowing what tickles the anus into easy widening.

      Just so you know also, getting turned on or off by excreta is not something you willingly control, at least for me. The human mind is naturally configured to react in an irregular manner to distasteful, unpleasant unattractions, unless of course you’re of a different essence and all ghoulish. There’s a difference between having poop particles straining against your girth and pulling a full morsel of fresh poop out.

      • J
        December 19, 14:47 Reply

        A class or two in Rudimentary Foreplay 😂 In what institution of learning? I also need to know whether you would prefer a certificate, diploma or BSc because it definitely has to be a science course as there will be series of practicals. Other interested tops can apply too. PINKY opportunity has come, we’ll need all the unemployed KDians to come work in this new institution of ours. I believe the salary would be promising 😂

        Hmm a full morsel, brother wasn’t ready for you at that time frame I guess. The anus gives you pleasure and it’s your major point of interest, anything that comes out of it should be accepted with two hands. When you said distasteful and unpleasant unattractions, I kind of feel bad for the poor anus, because it ought to be rewarded with gratitude for everything, not displeasure.

        My point really is that you can be romantic and take your time to make your partner feel relaxed and at ease. Kissing and sucking does magic, make him feel loved for the moment even if it’s a one time kind of love. Put him first and he will be comfortable enough to give you pleasure.

    • BRYAN PETERS
      December 19, 14:56 Reply

      Erm, darling, we all know it’s the ass but that’s why one should douche before sex. Painting is messy. The said pieces of faeces or the “paint” of it can stain stuff. And then there’s the foul smell too.

      I was talking to a fellow bottom recently and I was kinda shocked to know he didn’t know how to douche. He said he just “washes” and I’m like “beht why?”

      Do you know how much more sexy the sex is when the ass is clean? And you were also talking about rumming. But that’s not so cool when the ass was not douched. That’s why some people come down with sorethroat or breakouts or more severe infections after oral sex.

      Quick one to my bottoms out there, you could get an actual douche. You could purchase one online. It’s reasonably priced. For those who can’t afford it and don’t need the hassle of online purchasing, a simple 20ml syringe (costs less than N100, totally portable and reusable) can do it. Fill it up with clean water (no soap), squirt it up your ass and push the water out. Do this a couple of times and then you are good to go.

      Even when you are on the go and do not have a syringe, you could use a plastic bottle. Just go online and research safe and cheap douche options.

      Like Tman said, unless you are absolutely into scat and faeces, painting is a total disgusting experience for others and it is totally and easily avoidable.

      Please douche and keep that ass squicky clean

      • J
        December 19, 23:06 Reply

        Thank you Bryan, I have never used a douche… I’ve been using dildo, but it doesn’t do much to save the situation. I’m going to get it and it give a trial for my well-being at least. I’ve been celibate, there’s no need to wash out my anal lining – my OCD will over do it I bet you 😂

    • Lyon
      December 19, 18:02 Reply

      J dear, early this year, I hooked up with a top. The foreplay was good and he fucked me real good with his thick and long dick that had me thinking he’d actually hit my stomach. The second time we had sex was awkward. We were both tired that evening but he was obviously too horny to wait for me to visit the bathroom. I, on my part, trusted myself to a great extent. Halfway through the sex, my belly turned and grumbled. I had to force myself to enjoy the sex, eventually we both came simultaneously but I hated myself when I found out that I’d painted for the first time in years.

      Also, two days ago, I decided to break my three-month-long celibacy. Hooked up with an old friend, he fucked me first and came out very clean and fresh. When I started fucking him, he said he feared he would “mess” as he’d had dysentery for some days. That alone turned me off because (1) knowing my size (not too big though), I knew he wouldn’t be comfortable and (2) I didn’t want any stains on me (even when I had a condom on). Instantly, I grew flaccid inside him and when I pulled out, I almost barfed.

      My point: WE ALL POOP, YEAH, BUT FOR ME, PAINTING DURING SEX IS A BIG TURN OFF.

      • J
        December 19, 23:42 Reply

        Lyon, I wonder how married gay couples are coping then. You will have a tough time staying in a monogamous relationship if you easily get turn off… Like you really need to work on that.

        My first relationship was a complete mess, I was ignorant. My ex boyfriend did a lot of ass wiping, I was like a baby then, he did all the work… He paid a price for taking my vaginity, he wasn’t okay with the painting, but he kept hitting it anyway. I received a lot of bashing during the breakup, dude was quite a hypocrite. When you have problem with something, you communicate and help your partner look for solution if possible. Don’t be quiet and harming their self-esteem.

        • Persimmon
          December 20, 02:13 Reply

          In my case when I began bottoming in my early teens I rarely douched. I just used the loo and took a shower, washing my butt, this was for the few times I was penetrated then. I Learnt about douching in my late teens when I began watching a lot of gay TV series on my laptop, freshman year.

          However, douching is not enough. For me if I’m to bottom it is a WHOLE ritual and tiring process. Owing to my rigid schedule I always have my sex planned out days before… So eat wisely, begin taking the fiber drink (metamucil) or “PURE 4 MEN” the day before the sex. It helps bulk up the shyt so everything is pulled out and nothing is left. Douching then comes in hours before the actual sex…
          This explains why I get mad like a woman on her period when a hook up cancels on me 😩😁😁😁😁😁😁…

          I have painted before during sex and sometimes it can be embarrassing, very embarrassing, but SHIT HAPPENS 🤷🏻‍♂️

          Honestly, masturbation is the way FORWARD for me. Once every morning and my sexual appetite is locked down like a waist held under a girdle.

          • J
            December 20, 07:26 Reply

            Persimmon, I can imagine 😂😂😂

            Metamucil or Pure 4 men, I am learning a lot on this post. There’s going to be a great improvement in my sex life LOL

            I’m glad one can help themselves out, I would have imagined life without masturbation. My sex life is like Christmas, it happens once in a year because I’m too scared of having so many dicks.

  5. Lonz
    December 19, 10:34 Reply

    Dear T-man

    A 7 inch dick is just above average. As someone who has taken a 9inch dick (I measured), i have come to learn that there are tricks to the trade. That said, I am glad you had a good time, never allow your D stop you. Trust me, some of us can handle anything.

    Keep Fucking sweetie

  6. Mitch
    December 19, 11:15 Reply

    7 inches?
    And people are running away from it?
    What are they, wimps?😂😂

    Dude, your dick is average. Enjoy your fucking, Biko.

  7. BRYAN PETERS
    December 19, 14:43 Reply

    Personally, I have come to realize that it’s not a question of dick size o. The most intense sex I have ever had was with a 6inch dick guy. I kid you not. I’ve done 9inches with the thickness of a Sure deodorant can (and yes, I winced, but I took it) and I’ve done 7inches that hurt like hell.

    When I tell some tops about how important their “stroke game” is, some don’t believe. It’s all about the angles of penetration and general finesse actually. Once the top can locate the prostate, that’s it. And the prostate in question is not that far in. Even fingering (if done right) can pleasure a bottom to the point of a thunderous orgasm. I mean, haven’t you seen small vibrators that gets people all reved up, shouting and moaning and curling their toes?

    So, even with a 6inch dick, you can have immense pleasure. Of course, a big dick on a top with good stroke game is a plus

  8. Realme
    December 19, 15:22 Reply

    So,yeah the first guy i had my first anal sex was like 9inches long and honestly he remains the best…not trying to sound high and mighty with myself or disgustingly odd or white LoL, but I have a thing for huge dick. My Ex dick was huge, the Ex before my Ex was huge.

    The things is you’ve to know just how to do it right.
    Communication is a nice way to start. Ask your partner how exactly he want you deep down on him..

  9. Black Dynasty
    December 19, 18:58 Reply

    I think length might not be your issue, but how thick the D is.

    I say this as you mention the issue is usually on entry… which would mean it’s on the thicker side.

  10. Audrey
    December 19, 19:42 Reply

    As a Size kween I’d say a 7″ is just there a size.There’s this extra turn on a big gives me and I guess it’s because my first,second and third sexual partners were quite BIG.

    Please is it just me that gets extra pleasure from a huge dick and excruciating pain when the size is smaller than what we are used to.

  11. Ahg
    December 19, 23:24 Reply

    I love big dick.

    It turns me on. With good foreplay, i am ready for a good sex but where the top doesn’t rim me. It wont open for him to penetrate.

    Moreover, i always douche because i love sex.

  12. J
    December 19, 23:38 Reply

    Oh wow, I wonder how married gay couples are coping then. You will have a tough time staying in a monogamous relationship if you easily get turn off… Like you really need to work on that.

    My first relationship was a complete mess, I was ignorant. My ex boyfriend did a lot of ass wiping, I was like a baby then, he did all the work… He paid a price for taking my vaginity, he wasn’t okay with the painting, but he kept hitting it anyway. I received a lot of bashing during the breakup, dude was quite a hypocrite. When you have problem with something, you communicate and help your partner look for solution if possible. Don’t be quiet and harming their self-esteem.

    • DeeDee
      December 20, 12:11 Reply

      J, relax… as a top…. I shower before sex and even spend time to wash my ass as some bottoms enjoy rimming . Note ..I will suck D… rim, kiss..lick…and do everything to please my bottom (its only reasonly to do ).
      Again one of the guys here said this

      “There’s a difference between having poop particles straining against your girth and pulling a full morsel of fresh poop out.”

      You dont get to link with someone and pull out fresh poop like no effort was made to douche at all.

      “That’s why some people come down with sorethroat or breakouts or more severe infections after oral sex.”

      For married couples.. i’ll say watch your diet ..its that simple …even if it all happened so fast.. it shouldn’t be so bad.

  13. David
    December 20, 06:45 Reply

    Yeah 7 inches is pretty average. I’ve gotten that it’s big comment too but abeg o no scam me. E go size you. It’s not too big. Let’s try. No one has ever really run away. I’m surprised you have been getting that kind of reaction. Try Igbo boiz. They know how to receive it big and then they are big too and like Waziri said, it’s sexy seeing something massive bob upandan and I stroke. @higwe is that your consolation for the pimple?

  14. Phyenasphuck
    December 20, 08:32 Reply

    Okay 7inch is just average,but i once had a 7inch in abuja, he was a tall man in his late 30/ early 40s, he said his dick is just above 7 inches and its not too big, I didn’t care, 7inches is right up my alley, infact I’d hv preferred something longer.

    Was I in for a surprise? We started for play and i could feel a brick in his loins, i brought it out and it was thick. my heart skipped, does he expect this thing to enter me? I panicked for a moment but my momma raised me to face challenges head on and not to retreat. I tried to give him a bj my mouth was struggling to succeed, i started sucking like it icicles. Dude said lets just fuck, it took ages for the dick to enter the pussy, he was pretty experienced at this, moving slightly and taking his time, this is one record the thickest prick i hv fucked, my walls were growling, one wrong move and the canvas will slash wide open. He was in there for close to 5mins without thrusting, and slowly he started, i couldn’t believe it, my ass is not tearing,it was enjoying it, my brain felt betrayed because logically this could only have ended in tears. Nigga could phuck. And phuck we did, the climax was explosive, I left abuja and lost his contact, I would end up going to phuck my on and off lover in that same estate a year later.

    Long story short, some dicks are just about 7inches long but they are still very huge based on their girth.

  15. peaches
    December 30, 22:53 Reply

    I could not bring myself to go through all of the comments because when you use ‘big’ and ‘dick’ in a sentence, you have assembled my attention. I am 6.2ft, and it would have been a thrill to have someone at least one inch taller, but life throws the shorter ones at me and I am expected to take it.
    Well, life’s not a wish granting factory, but then, a date in person in future will be kind. Don’t worry, DMs are easy to slide into just don’t forget to whisper ‘Its Tman’.

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