What do you do when you’re sleeping with your boss and he’s married to a woman?

What do you do when you’re sleeping with your boss and he’s married to a woman?

As a general rule of thumb, it’s usually best not to fool around with your coworkers, especially your boss. But we’re all human. And we all make mistakes.

In a juicy new confessional published by Gay Pop Buzz, writer “Mike in the Midwest” says he knows what he’s doing is wrong, but he just can’t quit.

“It’s not like I planned any of this,” Mike says. “Honestly, I didn’t.”

To make a long story short, 35-year-old Mike and his 33-year-old boss “Nick” both work at a large industrial company. Mike is gay. His boss is, as Mike puts it, “well, he doesn’t know WTF he is (but to the outside world, he’s straight).”

During their first year working together, the guys would occasionally flirt with one another, but nothing ever came of it, mainly because Nick was married to a woman.

Then last fall, Mike’s car broke down in the parking lot and Nick, who Mike describes as having a “scruffy face, hairy chest and bad boy vibe,” offered him a ride home.

“I could sit here and tell you that I should have said no and declined the offer,” he writes, “but the truth is, I didn’t. There’s no use is me trying to pretend otherwise.”

On the drive back to Mike’s place, Nick mentioned his wife was out of town. The conversation turned flirty and when they reached Mike’s apartment, he invited him in.

“Call me a whore, stupid or both but I knew that if I invited him inside, something would happen,” he says. “And folks, that’s exactly what I did.”

“That first time didn’t last long – maybe 20 minutes,” he recalls. “We ended up messing around on my couch in the living room. Obviously, I knew he was married when I did it. And yes, I should have been a better person.”

Mike says he felt guilty afterwards, but that didn’t stop him from doing it again. And again. And again. And again.

They’ve hooked up at Mike’s place. At work. At a local shipyard. Pretty much whenever and where ever they can sneak away for 30 minutes or so.

But lately, things have taken a turn.

“In recent weeks, it’s started to dawn on me that I may be in over my head,” Mike confesses. “I’ve started to develop feelings for him. Seriously, I have. Worse, they seem to be growing more intense. … Honestly, I think I’m in love.”

He continues, “I know where this is going. I’m going to end up getting hurt because in the end, he’s an emotionally unavailable man. And maybe that’s part of my attraction to him? Perhaps there’s some part of me that is attracted to guys who are impossible?”

Then there’s the issue of Nick’s wife that keeps Mike up at night.

“I wonder when he’s inside of her, if he thinks of me?” Mike writes. “In turn, can she tell that her man is unloading somewhere else? Women always have a sixth sense. You know?”

He concludes: “At some point, something is going to happen because this can’t go on forever. I should stop this. But I don’t want to. At least not right now.”

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  1. Ken George
    August 07, 06:08 Reply

    Oh shit!

    Impossible love is a big no no. That said, just bcos a guy is married doesn’t mean he cant fall in love with another guy (while still being in love with his wife)! When it comes to love there are all shades and colours. Tho I suspect in Mr mike’s case, its one of infatuation and deep irresistible lust.

    My advice? STOP F**KING YOUR BOSS

  2. Mandy
    August 07, 06:53 Reply

    Three things that have doomed this fucklationship:
    He’s married.
    He’s your boss, and
    He… “well, he doesn’t know WTF he is (but to the outside world, he’s straight)”.

    No way will this end well.

    • Brian Collins
      August 07, 08:43 Reply

      Seriously, those three are a serious combination for heartache and disaster.

  3. trystham
    August 07, 07:44 Reply

    Don’t I just love the looming scandal? I’ll bet one or both will lose their jobs when the woman finds out *claps excitedly*

      • trystham
        August 07, 17:16 Reply

        Haba Briana! U cannot be happy for me? God dey o

  4. Mitch
    August 07, 10:55 Reply

    This is an absolute no no!
    Some people would say “the heart wants what it wants” but that’s not an excuse for stupidity.
    Involvement with (1) A married man
    (2) Your boss
    (3) One who doesn’t know who he is or what he wants is a pure recipe for disaster

    • El
      August 08, 14:25 Reply

      So you mean we can’t date married men? Even when the married men treat us better than single men???

  5. JImmy
    August 07, 14:07 Reply

    lol…i am presently shagging my married boss, never felt an inch of guilt, he owns the company and ive always known how to separate work from pleasure, and i was trained properly to respect the elderly, so my behavior with him in public comes naturally and yes i enjoy my job.

    • trystham
      August 07, 17:13 Reply

      Ur village pipu have not yet gotten the internal memorandum. Kindly furnish us with ur current locale and home-town name. We will do the rest.

      • El
        August 08, 14:27 Reply

        LMAO. What would you do? End it?

        • trystham
          August 08, 17:02 Reply

          End ke? That’s Common sense’s portfolio. Our speciality is in disgrace, insults, embarrassments, loss of future opportunity etc.

          @Bryan I can humbly say that I am head of operations. Nurray small sontin

        August 08, 16:49 Reply

        Lmaoooo. Na u one go give them the internal memorandum ey? @trystham

  6. Black Dynasty
    August 08, 21:23 Reply

    Of all the men in the world to mess around with, a married man.

    I noticed a good chunk of people think it’s ok to mess around with married men or those in rships…. but I humbly disagree.

    You reap what you sow, a hundred times over is all I can say.

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