15 responses

  1. Gerrard
    February 9, 2020

    Its hard dear im in a closet with three walls its even becoming a daily routine for me to act straight me sha no dey erase my watsapp na lock I use


  2. Esso
    February 9, 2020

    Thanks for sharing your story. I’m not a good writer but I think I’d like to share mine as well. How do I do that on here?


  3. Henry Handelson
    February 9, 2020

    It’s perceivably true that 90something percent of us all had a similar experience, growing up in Nigeria as gay or bisexual. Some of us, in our 30s and 40s into 50s aren’t coming out yet, but we care little what others in the hetero majority think, or feel or say about us as we grow older and older. I’m not out in my mid thirties, not in a relationship too with any guy or lady…and had never been into any relationships at all anyways. But I still feel the scourge of the family and so called friends who pester with with marriage and shits. Truth is I’ve grown to become a very passive gay. Like it doesn’t freak me anymore but it’s still a reality waiting to unleash some discomfort. The other truth is I’ve developed enough shock absorber to handle whatever comes up in relation to my sexuality. So it’s always a phase for all of us, out or not, as long as we re from this part of the world. You, too, will be strong and you’d be happier as you live through this experience. All I can say is best of luck to you. One day, may be, I’d be delighted to share my own gay experience.


  4. Mandy
    February 9, 2020

    “…Tell me something, does he fuck you or do you fuck him?!”


    Is your brother for real? How do you create space in the middle of your homophobic outrage to still ask about the sex? I have a feeling if you’d answered that question and it was that Emeka fucks you, he’d have gotten apoplectic with his rage. Something about being the receptive gay partner is an affront on the masculinity of straight men.

    Or maybe it’s not that. Maybe your brother is an internally homophobic, closeted gay man himself.


  5. Olutayo
    February 9, 2020

    This part offed me.

    “She began to rebuke the devil and I allowed myself some relief that she was heaping all the blame on the Devil and not me.” LMAO!!!

    The day Satan will rise from hell to deal with all you Nigerians that keep blaming him for your iniquities… That day is coming.


  6. Gaia
    February 9, 2020

    “We’re Igbos and Homosexuality is not in our culture” I salute the Ndi’igbo.

    Welldone Dude. You go dey alright las las.


  7. Boochee
    February 9, 2020

    Oh dear mandy, l will never answer such silly question not from anyone ever. My brother is very homophobic and I think he asked that question for precision sake just so he can cajole me with it.


  8. Boochee
    February 9, 2020

    @henry, it’s something you have to do someday, maybe today, tomorrow or next. You just have to stay true to your heart and being.


  9. Higwe
    February 9, 2020

    I know this is your reality but the story was entertaining as hell .
    * Your brother’s overreaction *
    * Emeka’s text *

    I kept laughing like a goat 😂😂 people were asking me if I swallowed a laughing gas .


    I think one of the biggest scams in history is the quote – the truth shall set you free.
    I think some truths end up impending us rather than gifting us freedom .

    That said , you were basically forced out of the closet and I highly commend you for handling it pretty well.
    You’re incredibly young but a lot braver than I am .
    In your place I would have denied it till the very last minute .
    Yes , there will always be lingering suspicions but one pleasure I won’t give them is absolute certainty .

    I wish I can assure you that the worst case scenario is out of the window , but frankly I can’t ( life is rather unpredictable )

    But… you’re out , you’re out .
    You can’t go back in, but you can always keep going.

    So, tighten your seat belt young pal .
    Toughen your heart …cos the plot of your life is about to get a lot more interesting. 😎


    • Gif
      February 11, 2020

      Actually that quote about truth is not a scam! It’s just incomplete!
      “The truth shall set you free but 1st, it will piss you off!!!” Now that is the absolute truth!
      For the the other part of your post! I think he is free or atleast on the path to freedom.
      He doesn’t have to look over his shoulders or clear his chat history anymore. He doesn’t have clear his browser history infact he doesn’t even have to password his phone if he finds it inconvenient!
      That the is the TRUE FREEDOM!!!


  10. Rabble-rouser
    February 10, 2020

    ….. That I am unmistakeably gay.


  11. Viribus
    February 13, 2020

    I actually felt it when he said “ I’m a home boy but my home was denying me.hang on dear booche.with time everything would get perfectly better🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻


  12. Chetam
    February 14, 2020

    I apparently have a funny story to tell about a similar experience 😂


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