Dear KD: I Have a Bowel That Won’t Let Me Have Sex
Hello guys, I have a serious problem.
Finally, a guy who I’ve been crushing on indicated interest in hooking up with me.
But I cannot go to see him for that to happen because my bowel isn’t in support of anything going up into my bussy.
Even when I do something as small as fingering myself, I feel so much pain and then the urge to use the toilet overwhelms me.
Today was the limit. I douched and douched until the water was clean. This was after spending hours trying to clear my bowel – only for me to finger-fuck myself and boom! It happened again: the irresistible urge to use the toilet.
It seems as though anything going up my hole triggers my bowel, hence the urge to use the toilet.
I used to find this very distressing, but these days, I have gotten tired of complaining and seeking futilely for respite. This issue is the reason I don’t do hookups; I simply lie that I am celibate, when the truth is that no matter how much I clean my hole or prepare my bussy, once anything is stuck up there, I get the instant urge to poop.
But ever since this guy I’ve had a crush on forever began reciprocating my affection, I have revived my interest in a solution. What can I do? Are there any medications I can take? Because this is frustrating; I want to be fucked real good, but I am scared of ruining what should be a beautiful thing with my unreliable alimentary canal.
Submitted by Raine
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14 Comments
Johnny
November 26, 09:42Honey, you’re okay. That’s how the human body is designed. The reason people get dirty during anal sex is that if your lower rectum widens, a signal will be sent to the Large intestine that you’re ready to pass something out.
Now when you’d bottom, try to not eat anything 6 hours before that time. Visit the toilet and douche. Douching is unhealthy though. Just stick a finger up there a bit and clean it up.
Oche
November 26, 09:47Douching is unhealthy?
Please explain. I’m curious. Thanks.
Mitch
November 26, 10:28*excessive douching is unhealthy.
Not normal douching.
Don’t generalise it.
Mandy
November 26, 10:32Your comment is funny. First of all, I don’t think he has a problem with cleaning himself up. Whether douching or sticking a finger up there, that’s not his problem. His problem is that no matter what he’s done to prepare, once a dick or finger goes up his ass, he gets the urge to poo.
DeadlyDarius
November 26, 10:14You could explore medications. Loperamide 4mg at once. Then 2mg if you have any subsequent loose stool ( I expect you not to need that further dose). This is some hours b4 the tryst. It will stop any feces coming down into your rectum. It can be taken before or after douching.
Then good quality poppers should help relax and put you at ease. Cos I think its partly psychological.
PS: While douching can help, you shouldn’t do it too often as it reduces the protective lining of the anal wall making you more susceptible to small anal tears and thus, STI’s
Bliss
November 27, 18:54I totally agree with DeadlyDarius, i had similar issues. Infact, i still have issues like this once is been long i had 🍆 up their. So i just douch.
During sex when the urge comes, i let him slow the pace. That’s it, You will get over it.
Eat light and you can take imodium if yhu want..
Mandy
November 26, 10:34Everyday, one learns on this blog sha just how different our lives and issues are. This is a problem I’ve never imagined exists for bottoms. Can’t even imagine how frustrated you must feel. I’ve already read Deadly Darius’s solution and it seems workable. Hopefully it works for you. All the best, Raine
trystham
November 26, 10:51If u come out clean after douching, its just reflex then. Besides, u didn’t even say whether or not actual poop came out when u were triggered to go to the toilet.
Demi
November 26, 12:02Bless u trystham.. We all have that urge.. It simply means your sphincters are opened/relaxed.. That’s how it feels..
Now if poop comes out.. Then its a different issue. And you might consider Taking imodium/loperamide prior to sex..
I think ya fine, av had similar feeling but nothing came out.. Its just that way…
Pezaro
November 27, 17:26I think the alimentary canal feeds on what you’ve stuffed your stomach with? Suffice to say that if you ‘starve’ for a better part of the hook-up day, there’s no reason you should feel the urge to poop. If you must really get down with this guy, then you’d need to sacrifice your day’s meal, you could do light snacks and voila! You’re good to go.
Raine
November 26, 12:42Thanks so much guys ❤️ I sincerely appreciate 😩🙏🏽🙏🏽
Pezaro
November 27, 17:26I think the alimentary canal feeds on what you’ve stuffed your stomach with? Suffice to say that if you ‘starve’ for a better part of the hook-up day, there’s no reason you should feel the urge to poop. If you must really get down with this guy, then you’d need to sacrifice your day’s meal, you could do light snacks and voila! You’re good to go.
Jason
November 29, 01:05I think you should practice with an anal bead or butt plug first, it worked for me and I bet it would do so for you too.
YoMama
December 01, 06:53Maybe its a sign, convert thyself into a Top