What This Straight Man Who Does ‘Gay For Pay’ Porn Wants You To Know
The latest episode of MTV’s “True Life” tackles a complex topic: straight dudes who have sex with men for money.
Titled “True Life: I’m A Gay For Pay Pornstar,” the episode follows two straight men who struggle to balance getting paid to star in gay porn films with their lives as straight men with girlfriends.
In order to get a more nuanced understanding of the realities of this profession, The Huffington Post chatted with Ben, one of the performers featured in the episode, about his experiences as a “gay for pay” pornstar.
The Huffington Post: Why did you decide to do the show?
Ben: I decided to do the show for a number of reasons. The biggest reason was so when the time comes, I would want my kids to understand that what I’ve done for them says nothing negatively about me as their father. Secondly, my reason for doing this show was so that I can relieve myself of the weight and burden from keeping this a secret for so long.
What would you say to someone who says you have to be gay (or can’t really be straight) to work in this profession?
Since this episode has aired, I’ve received a lot of hate because so many people have felt offended by what I do and that I do it as a straight guy. However, what I do sexually does not speak for my romantic preferences. Having sex with men does not speak for the love I have for my wife, romantically or sexually. My response to it all is we don’t need to constantly feel the need to label ourselves of our preferences, sexually or romantically, and even I myself am coming to terms with this realization day by day. Engaging with someone sexually is not always a representation of who we love or how we love. Love can charge you romantically and passionately, which is what I share with my wife, so naturally the same cannot be said for what I do and separate myself from on screen.
What do you want people to take away from the show?
I want people to understand that for some people, there are no limits to what you can do to provide for your kids. I also feel people should take away the unnecessary need to be placed under some kind of label for their sexual or their romantic preferences.
Check out the trailer below to see more from this episode of “True Life.”
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33 Comments
ken
December 20, 04:56Ok I was going to say something totally nasty about the 2faced 2timing sexually confused gay man living in denial in the deepest recesses of the closet.
But then I mistakenly clicked play and, dayyum! That guy is soooo cute! Honestly am so happy he made the decision to do gay porn. Lemme quickly go search for his rumpy sessions…ciao ladies!
Pink Panther
December 20, 05:06But he’s quite the character though. Not a very nice one.
http://str8upgayporn.com/vadim-black-bareback-gay-porn-star-fag/
http://str8upgayporn.com/vadim-black-now-promicing-to-murder-people-on-twitter/
ken
December 20, 05:13Pinky durling, u are just the best!
#GrabsVaseline 🙂
Pink Panther
December 20, 05:14LOL! Idjit. That’s not porn. That’s me showing you how conflicted the dude is.
ken
December 20, 05:28Whatever you say sistergurl! Lol
*winks
Dennis Macaulay
December 20, 05:13Why does this shock us? Aren’t there gay men who marry women and play straight man to the world but are still gay?
Sexuality is not who you sleep with Bikonu! There are straight men that will bang the bejeus out of a man for some cash or job opportunities, some will even take on up the ass for some favors and still pull up their jeans and bounce away like nothing mega!
Anyway I agree with Ken, dude is foine
ken
December 20, 05:33Dennis dear, a gay man who marries a woman (probably out of pressure and what not) is different from a gay man who sucks cock, gets fucked and still claims to be straight.
If you read his twitter comments from the link supplied by PP, you’ll be pissed. Referring to some other players as “bitchy gay queens” and “FAGS”! Just goes to show that not even gay pornstars are immune from homophobia and living in denial!
Dennis Macaulay
December 20, 05:49And if I as a gay man decide to act straight porn nko? What difference does it make? I’m still gay AF!
ken
December 20, 06:09Really??? Does that sound rational to u? Of all the jobs in the whole wide world, a gay man chooses to do str8 porn??? Pls where have u ever heard such biko
But just for the sake of argument (however ridiculous it may sound) that a gay man chooses to do str8 porn. How does that translate to showing hatred for str8 men, abusing them and even threatening to shoot them with Ak rifles?
Bro lets be realistic pls
Colossus
December 20, 06:14Gay men do straight porn. That fact is already established.
ken
December 20, 06:34Established on what planet?
Any links?? Evidence to buttress ur point? No??
And pls we are talking GAY men, dont come here to supply bisexual porn. Cos vadim never said he is bisexual. Strictly str8.
Pink Panther
December 20, 06:56ken, the answer to your question is two words: Ace Rockwood. Gay man who switched to straight porn.
ken
December 20, 08:30Em, PP thats not quite correct. Ace Rockwood did gay porn. John Johnson is doing straight porn. So we can safely say he is bi. And besides, I dont remember ace now claiming to be straight! So no, this doesnt apply.
Delle
December 20, 06:40First thing…THAT GUY IS SMOKING!!!
Then…I don’t know how it’s done but I really can’t see someone who acted gay porn (and all it’s charade) and still call him straight. It’s all confusing to me and I know someone would say, ‘But it’s just porn, there are no emotional attachments’, but then again, to act even in porn there has to be a level of chemistry between (or amongst) the actors. Abeg, lemme not give myself brain damage trying to decipher how it’s done.
OAN
Why is it that most of these ‘straight’ porn actors always end up being the bottom in the copulation?
Pink Panther
December 20, 07:00Are you serious with that last question, Delle?
Delle
December 20, 09:48I’m serious. The much I’ve seen though, the straight guys always end up getting dicked. Except of course, they may not be straight
Bobby
December 20, 07:52I was jus about to ask same thing….very soon labels like “str8 bottom” would start surfacing during conversations.
Teflondon
December 20, 10:53I’m a str8 bottom so Nigga Pls! ?
kacee
December 20, 14:59oh my lawd LMAO
Pink Panther
December 20, 12:58Straight bottoms… LMAO! Oh God!
Delle
December 20, 18:35Straight bottoms?! I aff die…lmao
sinnex
December 20, 08:51I know a gay guy who sleeps with old women for money and he is very good at it.
So, why can’t a straight guy sleep with a guy for money?
This is something we face daily in Nigeria. There are some people who can do anything for money, that doesn’t make them gay.
People on this blog are funny sha. Sometimes I wonder if it is in the same Naija we live in.
Chizzie
December 20, 09:39He’s probably bisexual, I don’t know if you’ve heard of that term before but they sleep with both sexes, most for free.
Plus I don’t even understand why you’d know such a person. Where do you meet these ppl from? Is there like a third class citizens conference you guys attend?
Delle
December 20, 09:50Oh Chizzie! Lawd, u mean…lol!
Pink Panther
December 20, 13:04Third class citizens conference. Heheheee. Oh Chizzie. Don’t you have an off button?
Mr. Fingers
December 20, 09:58The thought of anyone having gay sex for pay just pisses me off. But if telling himself he is doing it just for the money makes him feel good about himself and helps him sleep well at night, that’s good for him.
JustJames
December 20, 10:01Show of hands of you agree that having sex with a woman doesn’t make you straight.. ???
I’m pretty sure the same things can be said for men having sex with men.
Last last he is bi.
Or maybe he is just selling his market. Lots of people love when a “straight guy” has gay sex. Hmmmm.
Teflondon
December 20, 10:51Guilty as charged! ?
Dickson Clement
December 20, 12:10PP can I get ur email address
Pink Panther
December 20, 13:10pantherptb@yahoo.com
GAG
December 20, 13:16Castro and Acerockwood are now starring in straight porn now, claiming they weren’t gay. But I know some straight guy that won’t have a boner at the sight of a man or a man trying to please them sexually. Pls visit justgagging.blogspot.com
Wealth
December 20, 23:52Cool blog@GAG
SCR
December 23, 05:32Can you guys just shut it already! There’s tons of Nigeria gay men I see getting married just to keep up appearances and they have kids (which means they’re getting some). We go against the arguments againt labeling if we now start criticizing a guy who says he’s straight and is cashing in on you perverted ways (the need for porn).