THE PARANOIA IS REAL

One of the things you get as the person in charge of Kito Diaries’ editorials or the person behind the social media accounts of Kito Diaries is you become the hub of many people’s stories and experiences, both good and bad. When it is good, I find myself either chuckling or reacting with a feeling of warmth over the good

Lessons Learned From ‘She Called Me Woman’ (Entry 18)

LESSON 18 From the chapter, ‘I Can Still Love More’, NT has this to say: “I believe everyone can love many people during their lives. I have loved three people deeply and I can still love more.”   I do not believe there’s any one love of a person’s life. I believe instead that life affords us different situations for

WHERE THERE’S A WILL

I wasn’t in the mood to even have penetrative sex. I had gone to meet him in the guest house where he’d be lodging for the short period he’d be in Abuja only because he sounded really good over the phone, was quite engaging in his chats and had sent a presentable face picture. But sex wasn’t on my mind,

Dear KD: How Do I Ask My Closeted Colleague Out?

There is this cute dude in my workplace who is a closeted gay guy. I, well, accidentally read his chats with some guy he wanted to hook up with (he’d given me his phone to hold for him as he underwent a task; I don’t know if he did it deliberately though). We have this chemistry between us. We talk

Gay asylum seeker denied visa for not knowing the meaning of the Pride flag colours

A gay Iranian seeking asylum in Austria had his application rejected because he couldn’t explain what the six colors on the Pride flag meant. Navid escaped Iran in 2014 because he feared for his life based on his sexuality. He arrived in Vienna where he has since lived and established a life in Austria. But in June, his application for

Unlearning Homophobic and Transphobic Behavior and the Fear of Labels

People are afraid of labels, even when the labels fit them perfectly. What happens when you call a racist person racist? They’ll probably start crying, after calling you the n-word. What happens when you call a homophobic person a homophobe? They’ll probably start crying, after calling you a faggot. Donald Trump, who accused Mexicans of being rapists and drug-pushers, claims

#EndSARS: Acting President Yemi Osinbajo orders the ‘overhaul’ of notorious anti-robbery unit

Nigeria’s acting president Yemi Osinbajo has ordered the immediate “overhaul” of Nigerian police’s special anti-robbery squad (SARS). Osinbajo’s directive came after months of street and social media protests against the police unit which has, over the years, become synonymous with brutality, wanton arrest and extra judicial killings. “Following persistent complaints and reports on the activities of the Special Anti-Robbery Squad