A Case For The Bisexuals
September 23rd was Bisexuality Day. And writer Elnathan John had a few things on Twitter to say in favour of bisexual men and women. Check on his tweets below, and let us know your thoughts.
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Metrosexual
October 06, 06:39Sexuality is not just abt having sex…….. Bisexuality is not screwing everybody at the same time. These are true facts…Really Nice…. Happy Bisexuality Day….
Paul
October 06, 06:40Bisexuals can b monogamous?
I so doubt.
pinkpanthertb
October 06, 06:43Lol. Paul, is that the voice of experience?
Paul
October 06, 08:26I prefer Bisexual guys n in all my sojourn I hv nt seen a monogamous 1
There’s also ds tin abt dem
Dey c dia queer side as a dysfunctionality
There’s ds internalised homophobia in dem
I sometimes tink,if U c it as somtin u cn shove off y hasn’t ur ship sailed to pure heterosexuality
IMO-dey r often confused bt enjoy d confusion
pinkpanthertb
October 06, 08:38Paul, you’re weird, you know? lol
Dennis Macauley
October 06, 06:46Sexuality is not just about sex! You can be gay and celibate! You be Bi and monogamous.
A lot of gay men don’t like bisexuals, cos it can be quite confusing dating them. What I don’t get is when a Bi-guy is dating a gay man, in a committed relationship and still wants to fandango with girls, “afterall it’s not a guy”. That’s when it gets tricky
maxonex
October 06, 06:52I hate that too. Eating two different shades of cake @ the same time ..I always say: eat one type of cake at a time…
enigmous
October 06, 06:50Seen…Pinky what happened to Declan na???
pinkpanthertb
October 06, 06:51My dear, I had a wild weekend. I’m just recovering, and I’ll use today to find out what happened to Declan. Tomorrow, you’ll know what I know. 🙂
Dennis Macauley
October 06, 07:05#WILDWEEKEND
We await details
pinkpanthertb
October 06, 07:06Keep ‘awaiting’. LOL
Khaleesi
October 06, 10:10bitch talk joor … ***filing nails and waiting patiently for details*** ngwa start talking ***brandishes sharp file menacingly***
chestnut
October 06, 07:04OMG! Do u know I had COMPLETELY forgotten about Declan and co? #TrueStory
maxonex
October 06, 06:50“Sexuality is not just about having sex”… Love that part…
JArch
October 06, 06:53“Sometimes the peddlers of misconception about bisexuals are gay…..”
“Many Gays are suspicious of bisexuals……”
This reminds me of an article posted here some months ago, and a large volume of people of who commented that day, were suspicious of bisexuals.
Then again, that’s not surprising since the piece was based around a guy who went to a friend’s mum’s party or something and met a guy whom he assumed was straight, but later loved sausages. Then he got dumped by this same guy, cos apparently he’s bi.
But let’s be truly honest- as much as I love Elnathan’s standpoint- I love his twitter activism, which I have been following for about 2yrs now- he can’t expect me not to be suspicious of something that’s neither hot nor cold.
Some might argue there’s warm, but warm water is most times 55% hot & 45%cold or vice versa.
So really pardon me for not being slightly wary of Mr 2face (and am not talking about the music artist).
chestnut
October 06, 06:59So I’m guessing Elnathan is bisexual? I’m ashamed to admit that I used to believe “bisexuals” are really gay ppl who just want to “please mainstream society” and “cover their tracks”…*covers face*; I stand corrected.
Lol@ “a bisexual is a person who reaches in front of someone’s pants and is happy with whatever they find there”
Dennis Macauley
October 06, 07:08Chestnut, so you assume he is bisexual because he is talking about Bisexuality?
All animal rights advocates are animals?
Wangari Manthai, the Kenyan woman who fought to protect our forests? She is a tree too?
chestnut
October 06, 07:30Hehehe…why did I have a feeling that u would come for me,Dennis? Anyway, I’m sorry,I can be myopic that way, but I think it only makes sense that when one is so passionate about a topic, well…*shrug*
Animals and trees and children and etc cannot speak for themselves,so it only makes sense that humans and opportuned advocates would do so for them. But bisexuals, unlike Koala bears and Iroko trees, have mouths and twitter accounts,and can speak…
Anyways,how’s calabar? I’m sure u guys hav met lots of “Akpans, the fufu-pounders”,lol. If u see that outrageously sexy Liyel Imoke,tell bae I said “Hey boo!”(That man is tooooo dangerously HOYT!)
pinkpanthertb
October 06, 07:32Who is Liyel Imoke? *looking from Chestnut to those in Calabar*
pinkpanthertb
October 06, 07:34Werreminute, after a check with Google, that salt-and-pepper-haired man is who you call ‘tooooo dangerously HOYT’?
chestnut
October 06, 07:42Pinky, have u ever looked into that man’s eyes? That dangerous glint in his eyes…maybe u didn’t notice him b4 today.
Dennis Macauley
October 06, 08:09@Chesnut Cross River state is great! This state needs atleast a week to discover all its hidden treasures. I will be back.
You know I don’t do Fufu pounding akpans, so no thankyouvery much I will pass.
I sha saw plenty fine pikin on the hiking trail, but erm the oda Mr Macaulay was right behind me, so I looked ahead, lest I get a screw driver in my neck
pinkpanthertb
October 06, 08:11And its not murder if you ‘slip’ and tumble down the hiking trail, is it? 😀
Dennis Macauley
October 06, 08:11You know me! I have a silver fox fantasy.
Mr Imoke is a gorgeous man! Anytime
JArch
October 06, 07:10Lol Elnathan’s sexuality is undefined. He doesn’t do labels hahaha
On twitter and on his blog, he openly admits to having crushes on men and talks about his penis and weight and vaginal disorders and gay rights. Then when he’s in a bit of a catch-22, he writes about his “lover”
pinkpanthertb
October 06, 07:15The guy’s an enigma. And enigmas are mighty interesting.
JArch
October 06, 07:27I agree, and then his sarcasm *sighs* I’ll rate it NSFW cos you’ll have to explain to your boss what’s tickling you if you’re reading his blog during a very serious management meeting
Dennis Macauley
October 06, 08:04He doesn’t describe his lover in terms of sex. I admire the guy, doesn’t do labels, something I am an advocate of
JArch
October 06, 08:11I don’t think he’s a fan of erotica, that’s why he doesn’t write of his lover in sexual terms.
chestnut
October 06, 08:20Dennis,when u say u’re an advocate of “no labels”, I find that a bit confusing; u’re d same person that implied b4, that we should always let our sexuality define us…maybe I I’m wrong, but I sorta interprete that to mean “don’t see urself as a non-labelled human being; always identify as a GAY human being”. Whenever I say “don’t let ur sexuality define u” I basically mean “don’t wear any labels”, so it would seem as if we had opposing views, but now, u’re basically saying d same thing I always think: “don’t wear any labels(whether gay or straight)”. I’m confused…if u find time,could u explain to me? Tnx
pinkpanthertb
October 06, 08:37Hahahahahahaa!!! I love this chestnut. You’re such a wily one. See how you pounced on Dennis and tied him up neatly.
Yes, Dennis, care to explain these distinctions that seem to be troubling Chestie…?
Dennis Macauley
October 06, 08:22I should have said gender and not sex. He doesn’t talk about his lover in terms of gender! Even for pronouns he writes (s)he! So quite a few people are curious about him.
Rumor has it tho that the D can kill someone. You did not hear this from me!
Dennis Macauley
October 06, 08:48Chestnut darling, it’s simple but two different contexts!
Now when I talk about labels I mean in terms of sexuality; top bottom, versatile, VB, VT and what have you. Even gay, lesbian etc. Human sexuality has been shown to be fluid, so we can all be open to sexual experiences without the burdens of tags.
As per letting your sexuality define you, we dealt with dat d oda day. Its more about the motive of the person who says it.
Having said that we should draw a line between sexuality and sexual experiences, cos they ain’t the same thing. This is where tags come into play.
chestnut
October 06, 09:05Dennis I don’t understand dis ur explanation jor! U just used big big english to confuse me…God dey sha.
Stickysly
October 06, 07:00“Bisexuality is not screwing everybody at the same time. That is Nigerian politicians…”
Beautiful…
#TeamKizito
October 06, 07:08Hmm. He doesn’t like Kim’s husband much. Lol. Hmm, hm.
pinkpanthertb
October 06, 07:15Lol. No one likes Kim’s husband much.
maxonex
October 06, 09:14(Y)
daniel
October 06, 07:12Words of wisdom…. But I don’t think my view on bisexuals will change.. #happyBisexualityDay
pinkpanthertb
October 06, 07:16What view is that, pray tell
daniel
October 06, 08:03The view is just below….. Ur comment says it all…
pinkpanthertb
October 06, 07:17It can be a real headache with dating a bisexual. You not only have to worry about his straying attention to other males, but females too.
Absalom
October 06, 07:48In a society that criminalises same-sex love, if you knew you had a valid “escape” from a life that exposes you to hate, ridicule, imprisonment and even death, you’d hold on to it tight. In that Khaleesi’s story we read here recently, the bi guy he dated said he didn’t want to do guys too much lest he gets too addicted and can’t quit. Even went as far as prodding Khaleesi to taste pussy “for his own good”. In a sane society that respects diversity, that will not happen. And gays and bisexuals are suffering for the insanity that’s our society but instead of us addressing the real problem, we are turning inwards to hate ourselves. Sometimes the person we think is a villain is actually a victim, if only we would look closely.
pinkpanthertb
October 06, 07:51I think that distrust or resentment the average gay man harbours for the bisexual stems from the fact that, Here’s someone who can actually escape with ease, who can validate his sexuality with ease when it is questioned… At the end of the day, he has what the gay man cannot have so readily.
Absalom
October 06, 08:16But that’s petty! Same way a bisexual who feels he is entitled to cheat because he has “more options” is being petty; he needs to be educated. But to stereotype ALL bisexuals…nobody has explained to me how that works.
Dennis Macauley
October 06, 08:26Absalom don write Thesis this morning!
*fetches glasses to read*
king
October 06, 08:38Oh Absalom sweet kisses I owe you for this my love….too true!
Rapu'm
October 06, 08:54Thank you, Absalom. I wonder how difficult this is for us all to see. Very simple truth.
s_sensei
October 06, 14:18Finally on this post, the voice of wisdom! Thank you absalom and pinky!
garrisso
October 06, 08:02Pls who will send me the link to the khaleesi’s story absalom talked about, it sounds interesting….pinky dear
pinkpanthertb
October 06, 08:04Here it is.
He Eats My Cakes And Has Hers: http://kitodiaries.wordpress.com/2014/08/27/he-eats-my-cakes-and-has-hers/
garrisso
October 06, 08:07Thankyouuu
enKayced
October 06, 08:15I’m perfectly bisexual.
I love it that way.
I see absolutely nothing wrong with sharing a girl with a fellow bisexual guy.
Maybe once in a while, as in the case of my last relationship, i’ld get jealous because I knew my guy had to go home to his lovely wife and her wide open bosom.
Right now, my ‘Oga at the top’ is on vacation with his hot wife in the U. S.
In the end, what matters is finding out whether the person is worth the headache, because the headache is not a variable in a relationship. It is a constant!
Dennis Macauley
October 06, 08:57All of you that are dating married men!
Okay
Continu
There is acid in everything that we do
#OkBye
Absalom
October 06, 09:20Or hot oil. #MyPersonalFavourite
#Bye
s_sensei
October 06, 14:22whenever the issue of bisexuality comes up, i always feel too much discrimination from the comment section. Thank you for being such impressive hypocrites and i wish you good luck finding tolerance from society…
JustJames
October 06, 18:11I don’t mind bisexuals.. I however detest the few I’ve met that feel superior cause they are bi or the one that expected me to understand his deciding to date a female and making me seem crazy when I acted jealous.
Khaleesi
October 06, 20:20oh gosh had a crazy day, followed the convo but was too busy in the head to structure and replies
bisexuals : hmmm I’ve always viewed that bunch with wariness and caution, I dont quite know what to make of them. I do know that I dislike and would NEVER sleep with the ones who try to act and feel superior to gays because They can sleep with women while gays will not or cannot. its also extremely distasteful when a bisexual guy keeps repeatedly trying to force you to taste pussy. Hello!!!??* if I liked pussy, I wouldn’t need anyone to tell me to find it and fuck it!! I stay away from it for a reason! because that’s how am wired! if you cant understand that — thats ur personal problem not mine …
all in all, its a good series of tweets, if only more of these homophobic brainwashed zombies that abound in this country exhibited such mental acuity and clarity of mind … sigh …
insidiousmissmeiya
October 06, 20:50You have no idea how much I worship this man. The day I managed to land in his DMs… I had a virtual orgasm. I can never praise him enough. He could put a leash on me and–oh dear. I’ve said too much.
s_sensei
October 06, 21:20hahahaha
insidiousmissmeiya
October 06, 21:41Lol he’s my boo <3
pinkpanthertb
October 07, 00:07Hahahahaa
Lothario
October 15, 06:38I feel like Elnathan is trying to say something…
pinkpanthertb
October 15, 06:39Lol. Do tell. Something like what?
RM
June 19, 08:24SOMEONE GIVE ELNATHAN A MEDAL!!!