“How often do we really consider the B in LGBT?” Bisexual Broadway actor Andy Mientus address the stigma
It’s Bisexual Awareness Week. To mark the occasion, Broadway actor Andy Mientus has written a lengthy but powerful Instagram post about the stigma many people still attach to bisexuality.
The 29-year-old Spring Awakening and Les Misérables star says he is often contacted by young people still coming to terms with their sexualities, and “it breaks my heart to learn that they are denying their hearts, bodies, and souls just because of what other people will think of them.”
“I try to be visible all the time just by being true to who I am,” Mientus says, “but I know many people struggle with this because of the stigma associated with bi-ness.”
Check out the full post below:
“Hey so it’s #biweek- the week for the Bi kids to be visible. I try to be visible all the time just by being true to who I am openly, but I know many people struggle with this because of the stigma associated with bi-ness.
“I know that some of you, probably friends even, are reading this and rolling your eyes- “oh he’s still holding on to that? Who is SHE kidding?”- and I don’t blame you. Not many are open about it so we appear to be very rare creatures, maybe even mythical. I’ve definitely felt the pressure to just accept being lumped in as gay when I meet new people- correcting them feels super political and unnecessary in the moment but then later I realize that it’s my own shame.
“I don’t write this to position myself as an activist or a role model. I try to be the best person I can be always but I am just an actor, not a queer-studies professor, and I am learning along with everyone else. I have and will continue to put my foot in my mouth on issues so I won’t pretend to know everything.
“What I do know is that because of my platform as an actor, kids reach out to me almost daily confused about their sexuality and it breaks my heart to learn that they are denying their hearts, bodies, and souls just because of what other people will think of them. We now talk about LGBT+ issues constantly but how often do we really consider the B in there? Have you ever doubted someone who tells you they are Bi- “Sure, Jan”- or debated the validity of that claim behind their back? Do you have a preconceived idea of what bi “really” looks like based on what TV and movies have told you? Do you think of it just as a sexual kink or as a true identity? When I encounter ignorance about my identity, I always try to approach it from a place of warmth and education, so this is not me lecturing the monosexuals out there.
“I’m inviting you this week to think about your own feelings towards bisexuals and ask yourself if there is any lingering doubt or prejudice there. If you think you could be bi, ask yourself what is holding you back from accepting it- is it your own developing feelings or your fear of society around you? Together, we can end that stigma.”
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real
September 22, 07:27Me that I wish I was bi.
Mandy
September 22, 07:31I dont understand biphobia. I really don’t. I especially dont understand gay men who say its unnatural. Like really, when i hear that from a gay man, i want to tell him: ‘Are you listening to yourself?’
The sheer irony.
Keredim
September 22, 07:44I think it is a case of the “bullied now being the bully”
It beats me too why they feel superior. I guess it’s largely due to insecurities.?
bruno
September 22, 10:32never met a gay person who feels superior to a bisexual… cynical and distrustful, yes but certainly not superior
Keredim
September 22, 17:09Eh?! Eziokwu?!???
Mr. Fingers
September 22, 07:38I hope the message gets to the right persons. I pray we all see reasons why we should love each other and not discriminate based on who we decide to sleep with.
Delle
September 22, 08:52Oh so there’s bisexual week? Hian.
Sometimes I feel bisexuals actually occupy a greater percentage of the world’s populace.
Pink Panther
September 22, 09:27There’s an awareness period for every arm of the LGBTIQ. It’s not just bisexuals. Google LGBT holidays, you’ll find the dates.
ambivalentone
September 22, 11:47my dear, this homophobia is norray small something. It is that switch helping gay people think they are bi and bisexuals, straight. But sexuality is still fluid sha *goes back to corner*