Kito Alert: More Lagos Kito Scum

In the time since I’ve been away, we have gotten a lot more reports about more criminals who make targeting gay people a choice. Here are some updates:   A Catfish This is a new catfish photo used by kito gangs in Igando, Lagos. It is always photos of “older, well-fed, rich-looking men” that they use for catfishing gay men.

The Beautiful Gift Of Having A Queer Sibling

I do not remember when it happened, but I remember how cold the couch felt the night I took my older brother’s phone and did the invasive thing of going through his messages on WhatsApp. We were seated together and having a conversation when he suddenly got up to ease himself, leaving his unlocked phone next to me. Looking at

Kito Alert: Lagos Thrives With More Kito Scum

Never failing to live up to its reputation as the kito capital of Nigeria, here are more reports of kito scum who operate majorly in Lagos. Emmanuel Onyema He goes by the alias, Emmy Scott, on his social media pages like Instagram, but Truecaller identifies him as Onyema Emmanuel. Numbers: 09122709554 and 09153227232 He lives and operates in Lagos, often

What Acceptance From A Loved One Should Look Like

Many a time, as gay Nigerians who are beset with homophobia from family, friends and the society around us, we often settle for whatever scraps we get from those who exhibit any form of tolerance toward us. We rationalize it. We make excuses for it. We say things like, “My sexuality does not define me. So my straight friends do

THE MEN OF PORT HARCOURT (The Audacity Of Penis)

Ugh!!! The Men of Port Harcourt are sneaks. And such very uncreative sneaks for that matter. Because, ahn-ahn!!! What is wrong with these men? How do you tell someone that you do not want something, and they start to look for underhanded means to get you to do these things? First was my friend, Boma — the one whose house

Kito Alert: New Reports of Scum From the South-East

In the past several months, we have had reports of kito scum, whether operating as a gang or on their own. And in this never-ending battle to keep the community safe from these criminals, here they are: Prince Val He resides in Enugu. Number: 08122118778 And he operates by luring gay men from hookup apps to a hotel in Abakpa,


Note: Spoilers for Heartstopper Season 2 ahead. I love you. Those are the words that most everyone who’s queer in Nigeria would agree is the most abused statement in the community. Not “I was born this way.” Not “I’m out and proud.” Not even “Are you top or bottom?”(Okay, wait, maybe this one is debatable). But yeah, “I love you”