5 Tips For the Single Gay Guy
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Being a single gay man is not the worst thing in the world. You have the time to do the activities you enjoy without compromise. You have the freedom to go on as many dates/hook-ups as possible. You don’t have to worry about someone else’s social media activity. But regardless of all the reasons you can come up with to feel good about being single, you may be secretly hoping that your soul mate is right around the corner. So while you enjoy the wonders of being single, here are the top 5 things every single gay man needs to do in preparation for meeting his other half.
5. Have A Sense Of Humor
The gay man is known among his group of friends for his witty observations, sarcastic comebacks and brutal honesty. So chances are you already have a sense of humor, which will come in handy when you go on a date. Mainly because all single gay men will inevitably experience their fair share of weird, awkward and just plain bad dates, and a good sense of humor will help you recover from the disastrous dates. And also because a good sense of humor makes you attractive and fun when you meet a potential match.
4. Work On Your Physical Appearance
Let’s be honest here. A gay man on a date will judge you by your looks. And you can’t blame him; he hasn’t had a chance to get to know your amazing personality yet, so the first impression he’ll have about you is the size of your waist and your fabulous outfit. Make sure you have a gym membership (and actually show up to the gym regularly), and also work on your personal style.
3. Be A Good Listener
We all know you have a talent to enlighten and entertain a crowd with your passionate conversation, but it’s also important to let others enlighten and entertain you with theirs. So, once in a while, listen to what others have to say and be an active listener. Being an active listener means that you stay on topic and comment on what the other person is saying. When he’s telling you all about one of his exciting experiences, don’t interrupt him with a similar tale of your own. Most importantly, don’t throw in unrelated remarks or compliments. If all goes well, there will be plenty of time to compliment him on his good looks later when the clothes start to come off.
2. Embrace Solitude
Now we’re getting to the serious stuff. Before someone else can enjoy your company, you need to learn to enjoy your own company. There’s a difference between being alone and feeling lonely. We want you to embrace being alone. There’s a good chance that most single gay men out there take advantage of the vibrant scene the city has to offer. But after all the fun, don’t be afraid to spend time with yourself. Do activities that bring personal satisfaction and make you happy. Once you feel comfortable in solitude and know all the insights of your life, you’re ready for the number one aspect you need to work on to put yourself on the dating market.
1. Nurture The Most Important Relationship You Could Ever Have, The One With Yourself
Frankly, this is the only one that truly applies to everyone. Having a good relationship with yourself is the foundation to having a successful relationships with others. Start by embracing your strengths and weaknesses, then work on connecting with your own emotions. This will help you become emotionally available to your future partner. And like any other relationship, you should have respect, trust and love for yourself.
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12 Comments
Mandy
November 07, 07:00That number 4 though… lol. You see this thing where they say that six-pack isn’t as important as the wealth when it comes to dating women, well, the opposite seems to be the case for gay men.
pete
November 07, 07:03I disagree. Money still rules especially in these parts
ambivalentone
November 07, 07:57These parts ke? You don’t even have to go far. Our very own defender of Bobrisky is a prime example. Be an ugly, bleached, heavily accented yoruba warrior but let him just know u have a car. Your sins are forgiven???
Pink Panther
November 07, 08:56Lol. Fishing for trouble, are we?
Delle
November 07, 09:57???????
Oh Ambi
Terra
November 07, 12:43In this recession? Are you sure?
Jide
November 07, 09:12Sigh
Stein Macaulay
November 07, 09:22Yeah, money generally negates the body rule
Delle
November 07, 09:54I don’t have to register at a gym to be in shape
pete
November 07, 10:15Lucky you.
peaches
November 07, 13:27This is sooo me (apart from the gym stuff) but ayam single AF, and I feat my battay is sagging a lil bit. anyways I know why…
Francis
November 07, 20:54???? Who gym epp? I’m glad I don’t obsess about body type so much. Once the face and personality reach my standards, game on.