THE ISSUE OF BLOOD
My name is KingBey, and I’m twenty-nine years old. Judging from stories I’ve heard and things I’ve observed, I’d have to say I officially bloomed into an active gay man quite late. I had my first sexual experience, both with a girl and a guy, at age twenty-three, well after I had left the university. I’d had feelings for guys earlier though, but the most I did was smooching back in the boarding house of my secondary school days.
I had this habit of reading while sitting on the toilet seat when I was much younger. I only realized that it was a bad habit to stay longer than necessary on the toilet seat a little bit too late. I also used to have mad cravings for sweets and confectionary. My best snack even until early this year remained biscuits and chocolate flavored ice cream. I had such a sweet tooth.
I started out having penetrative gay sex by being the Top. But in 2009, I was into a lot of experimenting, and one of such endeavours was when I tried taking a dick up my ass. The other guy was much younger and I tried to sit on his dick. I had to stop when I felt a sharp bolt of pain shoot up my spine, and subsequently realized there was blood everywhere. It was not a funny experience. I simply decided there and then that perhaps I’m not cut out to swing both ways, and maintained my role as a Top.
Then three years ago, I noticed I had pains whenever I visited the loo, and sometimes a streak of blood would appear in the toilet bowl. So I went to see a doctor and after examining me, he diagnosed me with hemorrhoids. I was given medications and sent off with an advice on proper feeding and toilet habits. It was not really serious back then, the pain and bleeding only coming upon me say twice a year or less. When I told my mother about it, she consoled me and told me my father had the same ailment, as well as two uncles of mine, and that it was hereditary. Consequently, I had to study the ailment online to better educate myself.
And so, I continued managing myself and letting any guy who wanted my backside know that that couldn’t happen; sometimes, I let on that it was due to some health issues. Some guys never seemed to understand me, some of them expressing their annoyance by saying I was being too stingy with my ass, and all that kind of talk that comes when you say no to someone.
Then I met this younger, cute guy sometime this year. He told me at the onset that he was strictly Top, but I wouldn’t let go. I wanted him, and I wanted him my way. He was everything I wanted in a guy; well-built, young, slim, dark, tall and with a very long and big dick. When I say that, I mean about 10inches in length. The dude is endowed. He knew of my health concern and so didn’t bother me about spreading my cheeks for him. A few weeks into our dating, I cajoled him into taking my dick, and he did. And that first time penetrative sex between us was divine.
And then, one day in July, we went out for drinks. I must have been tipsy, because when we returned home, I told him I wanted to try bottoming for him. He was wary, warned me of the consequences, but I wouldn’t listen. In my inebriated state, I mounted that mammoth dick, and mere seconds later, an explosion of pain surged up from my rear. I quickly got up from him to discover that I had sustained a tear in my anus. That was how my days of regular pain started. When I went online, I was made to understand that I’d suffered an anal fissure. This situation brought back my hemorrhoids, and life became unbearable for me. I began to suffer a loss of my appetite, subsequently shuttling from one hospital to another, seeking opinions and second opinions. I tried all the home treatments the doctors recommended and the ones I read about online. All of these only gave me temporary relief. A doctor friend of mine advised me to go for a surgery as that would give me a definite cure, but I didn’t think I was ready for that. I basically stopped eating because I was scared of going to the toilet and suffering the pain of that exercise. This made me lose weight, and my light complexion became even more pallid. My life quickly became dependent on different kinds of pain killers. I took all sorts of tablets, lotions and ointments – Anusol, Xyloproct, Tramadol, Diclofenac… You just name it…I took them all.
Two months later, I explained my ordeal to a friend who, after examining me, said I had warts and that he could get rid of them with the aid of a chemical. I countered by explaining to him that I already knew what I had – internal hemorrhoids and anal fissure, a diagnosis a surgeon had confirmed after his examination. But due to the pains I was suffering at the time, I was open to any cure that could bring relief to me. I paid for the chemical – a huge sum, that – and upon application, it was as if I had drenched my entire anal area with acid. The pain was horrific. I even started to have a sore. And I was too scared to tell my mum as she had already warned me against the chemical I wanted to apply.
And then, I met a guy online and we hooked up the same day at my place. He actually spent two days with me, and during his stay, he observed my anguished disposition. When he inquired about what was wrong, I opened up to him. Then he took it up from there. After he examined me (I’d become used to people telling me to bend over, and not for anything sexual, lol) he told me he has a surgeon friend who can take care of it.
And so, I found myself in the hospital. It was not an easy ride, as there were horrible stories of people dying due to this type of surgery going wrong. However, I steeled myself against my fear, and with help of family and my friends, I went through it. I had two surgeries; the first to remove the anal fissure and the second to remove the internal hemorrhoids. It was hell in the theatre during one of the procedures when I woke up midway and felt the surgeon drawing at my skin as he stitched me up. I spent five days recuperating in the hospital ward, and three days out of that, I had nothing but fluids. Recovery was truly a painful experience, in spite of the pain killers I was placed on.
This is a procedure or ailment I wouldn’t wish even on my greatest enemy.
Things I’ve learned from this?
Stick to what you feel comfortable doing. I guess I would still be managing my internal hemorrhoids if I hadn’t sat on a mammoth dick, got punctured and ended up having anal fissure. Although, that had to happen for me to get completely cured.
If you’re reading this and you have piles – and I know a number of guys do – don’t take a dick; if you must, let it not be those giant ones that are usually mouth-watering on sight, but destructive when they get inside. Anal fissure is something you most definitely do NOT want to happen to you.
Thirdly, maintain a healthy feeding habit filled with enough fibres, fruits and vegetables, and also drink enough water. Make your bowel movement to be routine and make sure you don’t stay in the toilet for an unnecessarily long time. Ideal time is 5 minutes or less.
And lastly, Piles is different from warts. Warts are found outside and around the anal area. They are generally painless and contagious, even with the use of condoms. My case was made worse because my friend mistook my anal fissure for warts and administered the wrong medication on me. If you have piles and you’re reading this, please get a good surgeon to perform a surgery to remove it, as it’s a sure way to cure it. It is a bit expensive though, but the aftermath result is worth it.
Written by KingBey
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Absalom
December 22, 05:46Sorry about the whole experience, KingBey. I’m glad you’re better now.
Khristopher B!
December 22, 19:19This story left me in shock. I have had my own fair share of big cocks, but some how after all the action, I take some time off and when next I decide to hook up in a few weeks or months its as tight as new!
°Here’s my advice as budding health professional.
Concerning Anal warts you can get vaccinated. Anal warts is actually caused by Human Papilloma Virus (HPV) and HPV vaccines are safe and effective. They can protect males and females against diseases (including cancers which can be the end result of warts). HPV vaccines are given in three shots over a six month period; it is important to get all three doses.
Usually the vaccines are meant for All boys aged 11 years, but atch-up vaccines are recommended for males through age 21 if they did not get vaccinated when they were younger.
The vaccine is also recommended for gay and bisexual men (or any man who has sex with a man) through age 26. It is also recommended for men and women with compromised immune systems (including people living with HIV/AIDS) through age 26, if they did not get fully vaccinated when they were younger.
For further preventive measures, If you are sexually active use latex condoms the right way every time you have sex. This can lower your chances of getting HPV. But HPV can infect areas that are not covered by a condom – so condoms may not give full protection against getting HPV or better still be in a mutually monogamous relationship, implying having sex only with someone who only has sex with you.
daniel
December 22, 05:55A very painful experience, I’m sorry u went through this..
Stick to what works for u..
That QueenBey received it isn’t reason enough for Riri to receive it mbok..
Finally, our roles should be defined by how we feel during sex not by our attitudes….
Ace
December 22, 06:22Oh my! I woke up for my late night reading and bowl of cereal only to see this. I almost puked! I am happy you took care of it. And this just reinforced my decision not to bottom. Foreplay is okay for me for now. Pheeew! Thank God for your health.
Max
December 22, 07:35I just visited the rest room in my office… Almost threw up… Had to go there to avoid making a mess..
FKA Chizzie
December 22, 06:28omg. I read this screaming and cringing at the same time. Wow.
I think ur condition really is hereditary, i guess some ppl’s anal anatomies arent wired enough to accommodate a dick …even the smallest. Cause I know guys dt get fisted and don’t even flinch. ( True story) and …*clears throat* I had a really big dick a few days ago and the next day, the bum was back to normal. So yeah, pls never ever ever take a dick up yr ass again.
aand the issue of anal warts brought back horrible memories. Ive had those a couple of years ago, in retrospect I think I got them from a really hot guy, who for some strange reason wouldn’t allow me suck his dick. Those things are the most disfiguring and disgusting thing ever! omg I do not wish thm for my enemies, mine also spread so rapidly. I was convinced I had HIV because to a large extent they r synonymous w HIV. A test proved otherwise. And the itching? God don’t get me started on dt.
I tried everything but they wouldn’t go.
One day…I woke up and they were gone. All gone! 8 months after tho.. The body eventually gets rid of them in the long run. Warts are the most common stds in the world. ive become an expert at spotting them and u wouldn’t believe teh amount of tops Ive seen growing a pair or two! I should write abt this..like I should.
pinkpanthertb
December 22, 06:34Yea you should. I get the feeling you should write about lotsa things. Your comments reveal how wealthy with experience your life is lol
Ace
December 22, 06:37Yeah shey!
chestnut
December 22, 06:52Lol. Chizzie,thank God ur warts are gone.like u said,d body gets rid of ’em with time.but u didn’t try EVERYTHING; warts aren’t technically meant to be “medicated” with creams or ointments(that would be like applying an anti-bacterial cream,hoping that u can make ur fingers disappear completely); u literally have to BURN them off with some very harsh chemicals. Warts are notoriously common in majority of sexually active individuals.
Good thing though, I read u can’t get them again once u’ve gotten them b4,just like chicken-pox.
Dennis Macauley
December 22, 06:58Warts are treated with Podophyllin! Which is an organic acid residue. The resin or the paint is about 15percent pure which is why it burns and should be applied ONLY by a medical personnel who will know how to protect the surrounding normal tissue with baby jelly or KY! However Podophyllin creams are available which contains lower concentration of the organic acid hence do not scald as much, but take longer time to clear the warts!
Speak to a doctor or a pharmacist before you begin treating them!
chestnut
December 22, 07:07@Dennis,yea. But a more convenient treatment – in my opinion- is ‘AVOCA'( don’t know if u’re familiar with it – a silver-nitrate preparation that comes in form of a caustic “pencil”, so u just rub d pencil on d warts and it burns them(usually takes not more than three treatments).
Dennis Macauley
December 22, 07:13AVOCA was outlawed in some countries I think, and I am not sure if it is available in Nigeria. I have not come across it, and based on my line of work I should have.
Also Warts grow and flourish very well with the cauliflower appearance when your immune system has been compromised. Which is why doctors usually send you for HIV test before they begin treatment!
chestnut
December 22, 07:19AVOCA still dey Nigeria wella o!most big pharmacies here,carry it. Why was it outlawed though?
Max
December 22, 07:39Silver Nitrate is a suspected carcinogen.. And its all sorts of harmful. That’s why it was outlawed..
Dennis Macauley
December 22, 07:45Max the nerd has answered!
I like nerds
Sexy!!!
pinkpanthertb
December 22, 07:57*rolling my eyes from the hospital to the lab*
chestnut
December 22, 07:48My God! They should have some way of stopping it’s entry here,becos dat thing is still available in many pharmacy stores here o!
Max
December 22, 07:55@Dennis, winks… @Chestnut, hello!!…waving hands @ you… Have u forgotten where u are?
NIGERIA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
KingBey
December 22, 12:26Errmmm….I didn’t have warts….but anal fissure…..why do guys mistake these two?
Dennis Macauley
December 22, 06:55Oh dear! Thankyou for sharing!
Glad you are better now!
Airdeecan
December 22, 07:07I know right!!!, I can relate, early this year I had d whole haemorrhoid thingy….twas hell,got so bad sitting was becoming a chore…..and don’t getvme started on having to eat spicy food……I’m managing ma stuff now……no penetrative sex for me anymore tho, no excessively spicy food……but I really miss being versatile tho….. I hope to try again someday….
chestnut
December 22, 07:15Hmm…airdeecan, b4 u try again,check urself b4 u wreck urself(literally!). Anal Fissures sounds like a very serious issue o! For those who have heamorrhoids, u can forgo d penetration,biko; it’s not that serious, and ur health(and life) come(s) first.
Dennis Macauley
December 22, 07:18One can enjoy sex without penetration abi?
chestnut
December 22, 07:27U can enjoy sex without penetration, but it might not feel “complete”. I meant Airdeecan should just give up on being penetrated, and just be d one doing d penetration,since he’s verse. D need to be penetrated is not serious enuff to risk his health.
Airdeecan
December 22, 14:17Abi ooooo, some people who are desperate for ma cakes are all forming doctor, prescribing all sorts of shit……then again I don’t blame em, even me sef want my cakes.
pinkpanthertb
December 22, 15:43Hahahahahahahaaa!!!
KingBey
December 22, 12:35Hehe….just make sure you don’t get punctured… Loll
Max
December 22, 07:31Omg… I couldn’t even read some parts of it …. I can’t be a doctor…. I’m quite imaginative while reading… Dear I just went through the pain with you… I think part of it is bcos I’ve had about 10% of the experience you had… I’m so sorry that you had to go thru this.. And doing the walk of shame to the hospital to discuss your anus with a doctor must have been humiliating/ embarrassing…
I totally feel your pain… Hope you’re ok now though… **sobs…
Deola
December 22, 07:48Once again the picture that accompanies the post is so onpoint its almost hilarious. Pinky you and Google must have some kind of mutual understanding…
Łearnt loads from this. Sorry for the experience KingBey.
pinkpanthertb
December 22, 07:58🙂 Lmao @mutual understanding
simba
December 22, 08:26Sorry dear, but thank God ur healed.. in ur case surgery is de definitive cure… also since ur predisposed u should avoid certain things, because hemorrhoids can be recurrent. also dear, hemorrhoids are common, especially external variants, some are as tiny as Anal tags, while some could be larger, small and uncomplicated hemorrhoids cannot prevent penetrative sex. But if there is pain or bleeding on contact, sex should be stopped, hemorrhoids or no hemorrhoids. Then Anal fissure, is not limited to hemorrhoids, Anal fissure is just the Anal mucosa attaching together,( abnormal communication) usually predisposed by fresh wounds, it’s a painful thing with lots of complications. Then guys pls, Anal warts should be left for Drs to handle.. its viral, chizzle own disappeared cus virals are usually self limiting, and chizzle wasn’t immuno compromised thereby his body mounted immunological response tht cleared the virus.. pls don’t try home treatment, or cryotherapy.. allow ur Dr to decide which option is better for u.. Cheers and God bless.
chestnut
December 22, 08:42…”Anal warts” AND “penile warts”…
FKA Chizzie
December 22, 09:07lol Simba its Chizzie…not Chizzle. Chizzie. .
*gives u sexually suggestive hug*
simba
December 22, 10:15Wink wink Hon…
JustJames
December 22, 08:58I’ve had haemorrhoids before.. It didn’t hurt much. But there was a lot of blood when I used the toilet. Funny enough it was only my ex I was fucking with and he wasn’t so big though a couple of times we went crazy and things got very rough. I was so worried I told my mum. In between her saying “it’s because of what you have done before.. why should a young man like you have haemorrhoids.. I beg you to stop this thing” she checked it out and gave me some weird pill to shove up my butt and have a bath sitz or somfin like that. When it comes to health issues I just put all my fears aside and tell her cause she’s a doctor.
And please.. if you’re thinking if bottoming, do it when you are SOBER. And don’t start with what you can’t handle. You don’t even need to start the day you think you’re ready. Make use of plenty lube.. It should be in excess. Get yourself relaxed.. get rimmed and fingered or play with toys, let the foreplay be as long as you like. If it doesn’t work out the first time there are other nights to try and different positions. Also try and make sure it’s someone you’re comfortable with or who has some experience in the area. I personally think a versatile gay man is the best person to start with cause he knows what it’s like to bottom.
pinkpanthertb
December 22, 11:40Word! @james
Handsomely Inclined
December 22, 11:31Na WA oh..
if I no kuja as I read this story,I would be lying….
Haba,all this someone will go through because of sex..
Now,must I fuck?
With all this big big grammar and these medical words coupled with this eye opening piece,Let me see any reason why being a virgin is not the best for me.
Afterall,I am sure not missing out in anything because of this piece and other fearful stories I have heard…..
pinkpanthertb
December 22, 11:50Look at this man. Lol. My dear if you like, don’t goan fuck. Virginity equals missing plenty plenty thinz in the gaybourhood. 😛
JustJames
December 22, 12:10You’ve heard of ghastly car accidents but I’m pretty sure it never stopped you from entering one. You’ve heard of the dangers of junk food but it never stopped you from indulging in the occasional pastry. You’ve heard of porn sites giving computer viruses but I’m taking a guess that you still watch porn. Everything has its risks.. almost everything.. but that shouldn’t stop u from trying new things. Who even says you have to bottom. Anyhow it’s your choice.
pinkpanthertb
December 22, 12:25Preach, James! Preach!
Handsomely Inclined
December 22, 13:03@pinky….hahaha,Why do I have the feeling that you are trying to encourage me to do bad thing?
God is watching you oooo
Khaleesi
December 22, 13:50***shudders from head to toe*** this is truly the stuff that horror movies are made of … i also have the bad habit of sitting for long and reading in the toilet, sometimes u get carried away and realise I’ve spent 45mins on the ‘white throne’ … I’ve thankfully managed to break that habit! KingBey, thanks so much for sharing your story — I’ve learned so so so much!!!
Versatile men are truly the best tops, they know what its like to be a bottom as well as to be a top + they have far fewer inhibitions/rules in bed, sex with them is always more fun #teamdoandbedone#
I guess some people by reason of their peculiar anatomy aren’t designed to be bottom, if you’re in that category, please stick to what you’re built for or if you absolutely must take it up the mangina, go for the smaller or average sized ones … leave the monster dicks for the power bottoms queens who know how to handle them lol
Metrosexual
December 22, 14:10In all my stay in med school… Tis of recent that I realized that haemorrhoids are hereditary…*sigh*
Metrosexual
December 22, 14:17But tis good to know that you are okay now… KingBey. I once went with a friend of mine to the hospital over the same issue…and trust me, I was mentally crying on his behalf for the pain he was experiencing…
DeadlyDarius
December 22, 23:46Lol which med school is that? Hope you’re not an unserious student *runs off* #JustJokingOh
king de catel
December 22, 14:28I have had this chronic infection which affected my testis. it has lasted since 2010 and still going on..i have successfully treated it presently but I have very poor sperm count…close to nothing …i really wanna be a father…someone pls help prescribe sperm building therapies or a qualified medic that can help me
Lord II
December 22, 16:25Just talked to a doctor for you and she said you should try to wear boxers and not panties….coz too much heat can reduce your sperm count…..hope this helps a bit…sorry my dear…I feel you!
AC/DC
December 22, 16:39Since louis wan scatter my bum bum , I said no more bottoming.
The worst thing be when I scream , I ask am whether he wan destroy my ass, he said I go do surgery sew am.
‘IT’ came out ooo. But I don’t know it went inside after 3 months after crying while doing number 2, inserting cloves of garlic in my ass area and using baby wipes.
Sex can wait biko. I do kiss kiss and touch touch now.
DeadlyDarius
December 22, 23:50*mouth agape*
victor
December 23, 06:14Jesu! Which kind stories of nyash and shit and blood be this na? Pinky abeg use another post block this one cos e dey make me feel one kind-one kind.
Dominic Obioha
December 23, 07:42Wow! So sorry for the troubles u went through dear. The risks of bottoming mheen. Make sharpaly go order xmas hamper for all the bottoms in my life. They deserve more I swear.
KingBey
December 23, 12:25lmao ! order for me too !