‘Buy-sexual’ and ‘cashsexual’ are the new labels for straight men who have sex with men for money
Gay-for-pay is so passé. These days, it’s all about buy-sexuality and/or cashsexuals. Evidently, those are the new labels for straight-identifying menfolk who have sex with other menfolk for money.
“We assume that these men are gay, or at the very least bisexual, and simply in denial about their sexuality,” certified sex and relationship therapist Joe Kort, Ph.D. says.
But that may not actually be the case.
Kort is the author of the book, Is My Husband Gay, Straight or Bi? A Guide for Women Concerned About Their Men. He says straight-identifying men who have sex with other men for money aren’t necessarily turned on by the guys they’re boning; they’re turned on by the money.
“They have eroticized money, and the sense of value they derive from being admired and paid for performing sex acts with men,” Kort explains.
For example, he once had a client who described himself as a “cashsexual.”
“Having cash put into his hand or his PayPal account or Google Wallet, as well as the exhibitionism and accolades he received, turned him on.”
It didn’t matter if the cash was coming from a man or a woman.
Kort continues:
“In fact, increasingly in gay porn researchers have found straight men who enjoy participating in it. Often, they’re able to exact higher pay for performing because many gay guys are turned on by seeing men straight having gay sex—and gay men are quick to spot them. Then, when the scene is done, the straight man goes home to his wife or girlfriend, and once again immerses himself in the world of heterosexuality.”
Hear Kort give his two cents on the matter below…
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Delle
July 27, 08:18I still maintain: The feelings may be nascent at the very least but that’s just about it. They can’t be completely unattracted to men and get turned on by just cash abeg.
I wonder why the supposed ‘straights’ are the flexible ones in that regard. ?
Kenny
July 27, 09:17All these labels just to convince themselves they’re not gay or at the very least bisexual? I find it very hard to believe that a truly heterosexual man will have gay sex for money.
Foxydevil
July 27, 10:50People kill for money. Sex means nothing, just an exchange of fluid and sweat and some pleasure in between. It is the least some desperate person can do in exchange of some cash.
Pink Panther
July 27, 14:53Well Kenny, gay men get married and have sex with their wives. Does that make them straight?
doe eyed monster
July 27, 14:09It’s true, that’s why health providers group this key population as “MSM” meaning Men who have Sex with Men …it could be for whatever reason, what we know is there is sex involved. It could be someone older enticing a younger person with lots of gifts and money… The younger person will likely consider, might not necessarily be attracted to the same sex but knows how much he will get if he indulges. He could be very straight.. .or that’s what he identifies himself as.. .this is the case with most gym buddies.. They say they are straight, but will get down if they get something in return.
It’s like gay men having sex with women to get children, not everyone can do it, but people do. Will you now say they have tendency to be straight or are now bi?
Ray
July 28, 06:14That makes me a Weedosexual…. Nice
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Gad
August 27, 05:46Is it when a man says he is gay that he becomes gay or when he involves in gay acts? If a man robbs people at gun point but says he is not an armed robber because he only does it for money, what should we call him? A saint?