Random Questions: What About A Porn-Star Bae?
A friend and I were recently talking about random gist, when he started gushing over the strikingly pink-capped dick of the porn star Damien Vasquez. We soon began bantering and laughing over the hotness of porn stars in general, and he very thirstily said something about wanting to relocate to a country where he could get to be with the porn star he so desires. This made me remember a time I could just sign off being single and searching should porn stars such as XL, Addicktion and Jason Vario ever come up to me and say: “Let me be your man.”
But really, how much of this desire is sustainable into a committed relationship should this dream become an actual reality? I asked myself.
If I met and fell in love with a porn star, could I ever be in a relationship with him?
Could you?
In the past, we have had conversations right here on Kito Diaries where the possibility of romantic relationships with adult film entertainers were debated. In a piece published here and titled “…About The Complicated Sex and Dating Lives of Gay Male Porn Stars”, gay porn performer compared “dating while working in porn to being in a one-sided open relationship that often feels unfair to the partner who doesn’t engage in sex work.” Even dating within the industry itself can prove to be challenging, as porn star Michael DelRay pointed out when he said in the article: “When you’re dating within the industry, yes, there’s a lot more understanding, but there are a lot of idiosyncrasies that are real pains in the ass, like, ‘Oh, you got to fuck my boyfriend.’ There’s a lot of little jealousies and a lot of bickering inside the industry.”
Little jealousies that perhaps made it so that porn star couples like Brent Corrigan and JJ Knight didn’t work out? Or Knockout and Fame? Or Cutler X and Adam Russo?
If the relationships in the industry are challenging, how much more those between industry performers and the commoners?
The question is: Could you date a porn star?
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17 Comments
Francis
January 03, 06:50Would I pay for sex with a porn star? Most likely YES (if I’m loaded and after ogbonge std screening sha)
Would I date a porn star, NO (high BP ain’t my portion. That’s basically a one sided open relationship to me)
Pink Panther
January 03, 06:57“High BP ain’t my portion.”
LMAO!!! Aswearigod! This is true. Date a porn star and high blood pressure will be your portion.
Delle
January 03, 08:02Kikiki hell to the No o! Hian! Inukwa m high blood pressure on a platter.
Especially that XL that likes to give all of himself in a shoot. Mba biko
Pink Panther
January 03, 08:07????? @ XL comment. I know, right? He is very committed to his acting. And that’s just not good for the mental health of a boyfriend biko.
Mitch
January 03, 08:13So far as it’s Rhyheim Shabazz, I’m good?
Persimmon
January 04, 02:06For some reason I don’t like him. Feel he’s too “acty” and kinda fake.
Plus too much of the same set of boys/scenes.
KRAVE MELANIN or KNOCK OUT anyday for tops
CHINO BLACK for bottom
Terra
January 03, 08:49Could do it, yeah. Long as the sex he has outside our relationship is only for work. I don’t really get jealous so I’m not worried about high bp. And in the case of STIs, most of these performers are far more aware of their sexual health than most regular people
Olamide
January 03, 10:11No as for me, i’m yet to ascertain how they go bareback on every scene…i need someone to prove to me that they are ALWAYS sti free.
Higwe
January 03, 14:43They get tested like every two weeks.
Sometimes mistakes happen and the production houses go on break till everywhere is calm again …but best believe that a pornstar is a lot cleaner than some random hook-up from Grindr.
To them is a profession and they ensure that they take care of themselves .
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POZ pornstars also do bareback scenes .
But the performers are very well aware of each other’s health status.
POZ work with POZ and Neg work with Neg .
Black Dynasty
January 03, 11:10Nah, not for me.
Far too much difference on personal values and views on life.
Higwe
January 03, 15:15I’ve been with my boyfriend for many years and we’ve both been sleeping around ( me more though ??♂️)
So I don’t really think I’d mind dating a pornstar.
As long as it’s just sex and you don’t go catching feelings I’m pretty cool with it.
Let’s just be sincere and honest with each other.
It helps when I know who you’re currently sleeping with.
Where you’re going and what you’re doing.
That way if anything happens , I’d know where to start looking for you .
Also tell me when you’ve been careless …those unguarded moments when you forget to slip on a condom.
And when the feelings start changing – when someone supposed to be used as a convenience starts becoming a priority …I’d like to know that too , so we don’t waste each other’s time any more than we need to .
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That said , we are really thinking of going exclusive.
I’ve been far too lucky , more lucky than I actually deserve and I don’t want to stretch my luck too far.
The devil actually threw a dice at me with this rich generous old man and trust me to catch it .???♂️
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Long story short – up until 2020 , I’ll gladly date a pornstar…now I’m not so sure.
A lot has changed:
Priorities.
Perspective .
And I won’t have the luxury of being in my early twenties in a few months .
So I guess maybe not …unless the porn star is Denola Grey of course ??
Fucking that beauty is in my bucket list.
Audrey
January 03, 16:36Have you met Denola in person(When I say in person I mean outside the camera lights)?
If the answer is NO then I’d ask you wait till you do and only then would you be allowed to insist on this your CHOICE but till then hang in there I have other HOTTER options for you.
Francis
January 03, 20:48Why are you like this? You should had to scatter salt and sand everywhere for us sha ??????. We stay admiring in one corner sha ?
Persimmon
January 04, 02:12D is strictly top, from what I’ve heard. Unless you’re willing to bend over.
Persimmon
January 04, 02:04I have only had an encounter with Cutler x. He works as an escort and I was attending a conference then in the big apple. Mehn that man’s meat is thick, but he looked sickly and way skinnier than in the movies.
No we didn’t fuck cos I wasn’t in the mood, STD PARANOID, not prepped or ready to take it. But we sure had a good time for the hr.
Top on my list now are knockout, Krave More, Krave Melanin, Red and Antonio Biaggi.
Krave Melanin is definitely number 1 and my type.
Alot of these guys are pretty much at all them small town backyard LGBT bars in major cities across the US, shaking their ass and picking them coins.
Lastly, personally the pornstar relationship thing will not work for me. I’m WAY TOO PARANOID FOR STDS.
Mike
January 05, 04:48Considering I’m top, would I date a porn, who would have to be bottom ?, Hmm nope. I’ll just die of jealous or the need to bunch someone. Unless he’d probably agree to only top on scene, that’s to never bottom at his job, I might be Kool.
They say love is a funny thing, I wonder which nigga is worst, the one who took like 8 tops in a sex party and still laid with a dog, like literally got fucked by a dog, or a pornstar ?
Mehn, Biko keep your headache of a life.
Zoar
January 05, 18:10Fame and Knockout are they still in a relationship? Thought they were supposed to be married at one point when Fame proposed to knockout?
Am I missing something?
Please I need enlightening…