Woman Bemoans Her Dying Relationship After Watching Her Boyfriend Have Sex With A Guy
Sometimes an open mind is all you need to tear your life asunder. A young woman thought she’d see how the swinging side lives, and found herself in gooey unchartered territory that turned her every waking moment into a steamy cesspool of uncertainty.
Seeking out advice on Reddit, a certain Forreasons-throwaway sings her song of woe:
“My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. Our relationship, in general, is really good. He suggested a MMF threesome, saying that he would like to also try things with the other guy. We did it. The threesome was going really well at first but at one point the guy we did it with engaged my boyfriend in anal sex. I had no idea that my boyfriend wanted it to go that far and it was a huge shock to me – I thought he only wanted to try soft-core type stuff. Seeing him in that position… was quite unattractive to say the least. I am having a lot of trouble seeing him the same way I saw him beforehand and I really need some advice.”
They wanted to try this experiment with a stranger, so they found a guy online named John. Things started off awkward, then they got hot. And then they got soul-bendingly awkward. She writes:
“It became clear that John was trying to have anal sex with him. It was at this point that my bf rolled off me onto the bed beside me. I expected him to be angry, but he simply laid back with his eyes tightly closed…. As it went on, my boyfriend just pulled me really tightly to his chest and made quiet grunts until John finished.”
Things have changed. Now she feels “really conflicted.” She didn’t think her boyfriend was “that type of guy.” It’s all been “incredibly jarring”.
“Seeing him laying there on his back, quietly moaning, while being penetrated by another guy… it was just… not attractive?”
Now it’s been three weeks and she “can’t get the memories out of my head.” She’s having trouble seeing him the way she used to.
As you might have predicted, Reddit commentators had much to say. (The post has been locked due to the overwhelming amount of comments that broke Reddit rules.)
“Bad communication led you and him there,” scolds LV106.
Invader_zero agrees. “You really should have discussed boundaries before you did anything.”
“If you leave him, just know that you’re not wrong for doing so,” says WillWorkForLTC.
“It comes off to me as a little homophobic,” says wantsemall. “Sort of a ‘oh, he’s not one of those kinds’ vibe. There might be a good opportunity here for you to unpack how you feel about that.”
“This is one of those really, really normal pitfalls encountered by people who are first trying nonmonogamy,” writes andthecrash. “Did he have the anal sex planned in advance? If so, he should have communicated that better to you.”
On and on.
Anyway. Obviously threesomes can be consciousness-raising adventures in self-exploration and even reinvigorate a relationship that’s getting a little pain-by-numbers. They can also be meh, whut, or blecch. And sometimes they’re a good way to weed out garden-variety narcissists and sociopaths, who can be relied upon to use triangulation as an airy ploy to keep themselves at the center of attention and turn everyone into a big mess.
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#TeamKizito
September 09, 08:14That moment when the bitch is sidelined and the dogs do their thing. Woof! Woof!
Pink Panther
September 09, 09:00LMAO
Keredim
September 09, 08:35I think the important question here is “Did he douche before getting fucked?”????
ambivalentone
September 09, 08:43Loool. This helps us assume whether or not the bf had thot of this long and hard b4 then. Good observation my good man
Pink Panther
September 09, 09:02????? Very important question right there.
Mandy
September 09, 09:59And he had to be the bottom. ? ? ? ? The babe saw her man submit to another man. Even bottoms don’t want to use their ear and hear that their Top lovers bend-down-troway for another guy, let alone a woman seeing it for herself. Oh no way are they coming back from this.
Delle
September 09, 10:27Lol. I know right? Probably if he had been the one doing the penetration, she would have seen him in a different light. The Alpha Male. Oh well, shit happened and she couldn’t handle it. Lmao!
Btw Mandy, quit being the pessimist. They would come back from this….
WITH JOHN!
Pink Panther
September 09, 17:01LMAO @ with John.
Delle
September 09, 10:20I’m trying my best not to fault this woman or to blame her, cuss at her for being overly irritated at her boyfriend cos that’s just a natural response to what she witnessed. I mean, a woman who’s known her boyfriend, accustomed to him penetrating her and all what not, probably not fitting into any gay stereotype suddenly sees him spreading his ass cheeks, receiving dick and LOVING it. That’s quite a lot to gulp down.
It’s obvious he is bisexual or possibly a straight man who loves to have something in his asshole? (Huh? Hmmm).
I feel she should discuss things over with him. Ask him what he thinks his sexual orientation is. Is he attracted to guys or was that just a one-off thing? Ask herself questions also. If she’d be comfortable dating ‘that kinda guy’. Is it rational feeling some type of way just because you found something you may probably have been oblivious of all the while? Apparently, he has been doing it without her knowing (no guy moans excitedly during his first anal experience). You know, if she could probably agree that they have the MMF threesome, she just may adjust to things…or not.
You know what they say about ignorance being bliss? This is a classic example!
Brian Collins
September 09, 21:04How is it obvious that he is bisexual? Abeg goan sit down. Couldn’t he just be bi-curious? The guy said he wanted a MMF threesome and would like to try something’s with the guy too. She put herself in the position she is abeg.
Delle
September 09, 21:55In your haste to crucify Delle (as always, not like I care though), you totally missed where I wrote, “It’s obvious he is bisexual or possibly a straight man who loves to have something in his asshole?”…doesn’t this read ‘bi-curious’ to you? Or do I need to spell it out in the word you know it as before you comprehend? Conveniently, you picked up ‘bisexual’ and threw the remaining into your bin, right? Sigh. Pls Brian, don’t come for me.
It’s a plea.
Colossus
September 09, 10:24She suddenly thought of all the laundry she had to wash. So much painting, so humongous a bed spread.
pete
September 09, 11:22Lol
john
September 09, 15:19I am gay and I know what threesome is in the gay community. Without preset boundary, anyone can go for anyone. Would she have submitted herself to the same guy if he reached out for her for virginal sex?
Keredim
September 09, 16:24Before or After fucking the guy??