Woman hears that her husband once bottomed for another man in college and wonders what to do
A 27-year-old woman heard a shocking rumor about her 28-year-old husband and now she’s not sure what to do or say or think or feel, so she’s turning to Reddit for answers.
“I consider myself a non-homophobic straight woman,” the woman writes. “I got married a few years back and been with my husband a total of five years.”
Things have been going great, she says, except for one thing…
“I recently heard through his best friend that back in college before we were together he apparently got drunk invited an openly gay man to the bathroom and was the bottom in a gay encounter. His bi best guy friend (not the one who told me about this) apparently was in the room and pleasured himself to the whole encounter. His best friend (guy who told me) didn’t witness it but was told about it by the gay guy. His best friend questioned the bi guy in the corner and he confirmed the story was true.”
Now the woman wonders: “Could the whole story be made up? Obviously it’s possible but it just seems odd that two people would just…make this up. There has to be some truth to it.”
She continues:
“Is he hiding it because he is ashamed? Is he hiding it because he is actually bi or even gay and our whole relationship is me pretty much being a beard? He doesn’t act homophobic. Maybe he doesn’t even remember it? Could I trigger some sort of issues if he doesn’t remember it? … Should I just f*ck off and think the past is the past and this is none of my business? If he is bi I would accept that I just want honesty. I don’t know what to do or how to handle this.”
Luckily, her fellow Redditors have lots of opinions on what she should do.
“I mean… does it matter?” one person writes. “He had one drunken night of gay sex in college. … Let it go.”
“Should I just f*ck off and think the past is the past and this is none of my business?” another person adds. “Yes.”
“I mean, like, I don’t understand what the point of trying to urge an answer out of him,” a third person says. “I actually think it’s best for your relationship if you just drop it.”
Someone else questions the woman’s motives in wanting to confront her husband about his past: “Think about what your end game is with this. Are you looking for some kind of ‘gotcha’ moment? Because that’s what it sounds like.”
Another person suggests that maybe the reason he never mentioned anything about it to her before was because he didn’t think it mattered: “Some people just flat out do not care. You don’t have to recall every encounter in your life, brief or otherwise, to your partner before you marry them so long as it isn’t going to interrupt your lives in any foreseeable way. If he had a love child with someone that he never sees, that’s one thing. Boinking some dude ages ago? Meh.”
How do you think this woman should handle the situation? Should she confront her husband about the rumors or just let it go? Share your thoughts in the comments section.
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8 Comments
Ken George
October 23, 05:29A wise woman will just let it go, except she is no longer interested in d marriage. Marriage should be more than sex and rumours that might (not) have happened ages in the past.
trystham
October 23, 08:29has he cheated since u got married? I think that’s what counts if you are that desperate to take stupidly drastic action
himbo
October 23, 08:44Ahaha! Do what my ex did and buy a strap on!
Foxydevil
October 23, 18:19SMH.
What about the viral story of the boy? Arrested back then at the gay party. Apparently his parents drove him out of the house, now he is currently homeless, screwing men to survive and living like a destitute.
Can’t we be more here???
Instead of posting these random shits ,and people dropping unbearably rehearsed comments, can’t we also find a way to help others in need, any little way we can?
Shouldn’t this also be the agenda of this group ?
All talk and no action bores me to death !
Just like stagnation.
I rushed in here, thinking there would have been a story about the boy and instead this is what I see, a dumb broad that got hitched to a closeted bottom.
What’s the use of the slogan we are here, if we are never actually there when it matters.
Mtchew.
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Black Dynasty
October 23, 20:31Perhaps you should make your own blog rather than continuously moan & complain like a little bitch with your pretentious intellect.. not to mention the hypocrisy of all talk and no action, when you are exactly the former.
Grow up man…
PS, I won’t read your response(s), save yourself the essay like replies.
@ the original post, I wonder if she would question as much if she found out the man was the top instead of the bottom.
Black Dynasty
October 23, 20:34If the man hasn’t slept around whilst they’ve been together, then she should let things be as they are. Some men experiment and decide it isn’t for them.
Cleopatro
October 23, 22:29reminds me of that Insecure episode.
quinn
October 24, 01:04Seems like she might have a problem with Gay people. I understand how hurtful it would be to find out she’s been his beard. She should tell him buy carefully she seems reasonable.