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  1. Blackbird
    March 2, 2018

    This seems like the very thing my friend told me three weeks ago! I was in shock. It is just in poor taste when people treat others like they do not measure up or are not worthy to be called human or like someone once said to me “waste of sperm”!

    These things happen daily and the hate is real… If there’s a reason I’m not through with my medical clearance in school, it is because the woman in charge… The matron I presume believes that—in her words “I need Gods hands in my life!” She postponed my medicals after laughing with so much scorn in the presence of other students… saying that she wasn’t laughing at me but at the devil in my life! This happened last year and I had visited the medical center 3 times after only to be turned back but I resolved to go when I’m done with school and hopefully then, they’ll clear me. This is why we should resist! We are here and we aren’t going any where.

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  2. Quinn
    March 2, 2018

    Nothing person no go hear.

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  3. Rehoboth
    March 2, 2018

    Enough of the rhetorics, it’s time we match words with action.

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  4. Dunder
    March 2, 2018

    Nigerians get the government they deserve and create the mess they live in. Just imagine!!! If the police is the one screening your staff, enjoy your mediocre selection. I feel for this lady but I’m hopeful that there’d be other opportunities in her future.

    Maybe this is an area where those of vocation- the artistically inclined, doctors and lawyers have it a bit easier since their fields are more liberal your outfit is already picked out for you so you can be androgynous or undefined. Engineers too.

    I fall into this lady’s category. I have the clothes for when I’m back home and those for my everyday life. It would seem easy to just conform but even when in the closet, your body cannot deny who you are. After a while, you’ll be caught in a bounce. Your mannerisms are different. You’ve never heard of Rihanna’s lipstick or whatever. Toasters don’t get how you don’t get they were toasting you. Some guy would own the same shirt you are wearing. Even in your twenties, Mummy still has to knot your head-tie for church and her only reward is a detached and frustrated look that only lifts after returning home, washing the makeup off and stepping back into a jersey or collared shirt. Maybe being a lanky kid was an excuse but you can see that they see a difference.

    I don’t know what your friends qualifications are but I’ll advice she holds on to hope and seeks employment with companies where silly things as a bounce, limp wrist or unisex clothing do not override the importance of merit. Maybe something behind the scenes, technical etc. Or (And i don’t know if it’s good advice or not) but wear their mama-tie-me, walk like a robot (at least, that is not “gay”) since a crash course catwalk will fool no one, get the job and go back to what you were wearing before the exam, interview, meeting etc

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  5. trystham
    March 2, 2018

    My own question is “what do they really want?” You finally dress feminine, u get tagged as a prostitute. The other day thassau one girl jejely Dressed in her spaghetti strap gown was verbally harrassed in front of that ikeja police command by the police. Kilode na?

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  6. Mandy
    March 3, 2018

    This is why we are progressing nowhere in this country. Such a shame.

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  7. Rigor
    March 4, 2018

    I donn my swag like my skin. Andro like I was born to be, with my bounce and all,.aloof and everything. Repping my L community and the girls ogling me and loving it. Don’t change for no one. Know your trade wella though and they can’t help but tolerate you. Its a conscious effort to be the best in whatever you do, then you ll indispensable.

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