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  1. Dennis Macauley
    July 4, 2014

    Absalom, 1Million likes! I like this guy, he could totally get it.
    I have often wondered what it is with us and Labels and why we have the desperate need to classify ourselves. Ultimately it comes from the point off accepting that you are in the minority, the “deviants”. So to reach into the “normal folk” and snag up one of them is like winning a prize complete with bragging rights.

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  2. JustJames
    July 4, 2014

    I’ve always wondered as to how a “straight” guy can suddenly become gay. I believed there was a huge misconception of the whole idea of conversion. Was going to write about it during one of my ramblings but absalom beat me to it and has done a better job.

    I think the smugness that most guys get from sleeping with a seemingly straight guy is from the fact that what people thought was unattainable has been attained… Other than that I don’t see why anyone should be glad they slept with a straight guy. It’s not like he’s turned into a sex slave that will open his legs for you at your command.

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  3. damitajo
    July 4, 2014

    And the rambling continues……..

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    • chestnut
      July 4, 2014

      Oh dat was loooooow! Lol.why u gotta shade dat niqqah like dat tho?

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  4. Zing
    July 4, 2014

    You couldn’t have put it better. ..even as a diagonally bent person, I still have issues with the labels. I think we can just allow the ‘straight’ guy be ‘curious’ until he decides otherwise. This piece makes for great discussion. Can’t wait to see what the intellectual gods here have to say…just saying. First time commenter by the way. ..*grabs chair and sits patiently.

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    • chestnut
      July 4, 2014

      Er…”diagonally bent”?…

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  5. kendigin
    July 4, 2014

    We as humans can’t help but place everything in boxes- “gay” “straight” “bi” etc. It helps us relate with one another. Such relatnship may be sometimes good or terrible.
    I often wonder, why can’t we just be people. Why does it matter who you sleep with. Look at the so-called “lower animals” they care less about who sleeps with whom. Must we all be defined by sex?

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  6. victor
    July 4, 2014

    Love this post

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  7. trystham
    July 4, 2014

    Thank you Absalom. You empathized with the homophobe. In the aftermath of Jonathan’s faux pas, arguing with straight guys always had them bringing up that issue of being converted like it was every gay guy’s mission.
    Curiosity is fine, but I do not approve ‘converting anybody’ n like u have pointed out, it could be the reason for extreme homophobia. Well done.
    HOWEVER, gloating after a conquest, ANY conquest is a human thing. We all have that player friend who crows after he/she has bedded a particularly hard-to-get babe/bloke. That overly spiritual christian friend who boasts cos he converted a staunch atheist or Imam. Just because we are gay or because homosexuality is a dreaded topic doesn’t mean we should blame ourselves for all thefaults of humanity.

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    • Absalom
      July 4, 2014

      Applauding your comment, Trystham! 🙂

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  8. SomethingBorrowed
    July 4, 2014

    This is really good. Really.

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  9. Milli
    July 4, 2014

    Been following this blog for a while now.
    Thoroughly impressed with a majority of the writings.
    This is my first comment here and it serves as a huge vote of endorsement/approval on the Author.

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  10. chestnut
    July 4, 2014

    Well,dis article might be longer than Lexington Steel’s cock(y’all know u were thinking it too,lol),but it’s a really good read; very insightful piece. I’m sure we’ve all,at one point or another,indulged in fantasies of getting it on with a straight,hunky guy (some are lucky enough to turn those fantasies into reality, d rest of us,not so much). I can’t count how many straight crushes I’ve had,but I try not to linger on them too long cos I know at d end of it,nothing will come out of it,since I hav neither d patience nor skill(nor lliver) to “convert” a straightie.how I wan take start d waka? How will I explain myself if it all goes awry.I no fit,biko!

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  11. Rapum
    July 4, 2014

    “Gayness is not a cult – never has been – and outside of the clamor for equal rights, is not a movement/religion. So homosexuals are not seeking more members/fresh converts/new initiates.)”

    Now, that got me. Anybody ever wondered at the word, GAYISM? Started hearing it mostly used in discussion about the bill, mostly by people in support of the bill. Like, maybe we’re now running a movement.

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    • pinkpanther
      July 4, 2014

      A movement. LOL! That word tho…has it crept into the dictionary yet?

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  12. Chizzie
    July 4, 2014

    I think anyone that reads this from start to finish has alot of time on their hands. Certain things in my opinion aren’t worth discussing.

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  13. Absalom
    July 4, 2014

    Rapu’m, most people still suffer hangover from their fascination and horniness around lesbianISM. Forgive them!

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  14. Dominic
    July 5, 2014

    Most time I see gays who claim they’ve converted straight folks as lunatics. You claim u r born this way and preach acceptance yet u say u r converting straight people. Isn’t that contradictory? I don’t know about conversion. Its either u r more straight than gay or more gay than straight. Having the opportunity, confidence or being adventurous enough to experiment is another thing entirely.

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  15. sensuousensei
    July 5, 2014

    Why am I just seeing this? This is absolutely brilliant! And omg you just said my mind when u said “gayism” is not a movement or a cult. I have been having that thought for a while. Sometimes we act like we are this special group of people with special needs. A homosexual is no more special or unique than a heterosexual. If this is a movement of sorts, its only a pseudo-movement, one that formed natually due to the oppression we suffer. The opppressed tend to bond together. That’s the beginning and the end of it. Infact, sometimes I think that the reason why there is so much focus on sex among gays is because we have been repressed so much that sex become an outlet for our frustrations. If we had freedom to express ourselves, date and marry like everyone else, this “party” would break up and this “pseudo-group” would no longer exist. I dream for such a day…

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    • pinkpanthertb
      July 6, 2014

      so true.

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  16. Daddy Yo!
    January 6, 2018

    This post reminds me of one straight dude i made out with, some years ago…
    I got him in bed and easily had anal sex with him. Asked him why he didnt feel much pain, he said he do finger himself sometimes.
    But if you want to get him vexed, call him gay.

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