August 6

So recently I’ve wondered if it’s not a bit unsettling to tag a whole religion violent because they have a high rate of terrorism.

This argument has been going on around me and I used to sort of tune it out or sit on the fence because I didn’t know what to think and wasn’t interested in having anything to think about it. However exams are done with and I have a lot of time on my hands and a lot of space in my brain to use since I’ve de-crammed it.

So I decided to treat being Muslim like being gay. Many (ignorant) people equate being gay with being a pedophile. That narrative is so not true. Sure, we have pedophiles that are gay, but they are not gay because they are pedophiles, and vice versa.

The same could be said for Muslims. The fact that a number of bad eggs exist among them doesn’t necessarily mean they are bad or that they are all terrorists, right?

However as I thought I’d gotten the answer about how it’s bullocks to associate a whole group of people to something bad, I realised my argument is flawed (yes, I argue with myself).

Using gay people as an example might not be the most feasible or steady example to use. It’s a shaky support.

Also the problem, as much as it has to do with people being violent, is the fact that the religion enables it. There are places that preach peace in their holy books and those that also talk about violence. So it can’t be entirely absolved from the blame.

In the case of the Christians, the most you’d find Christians doing nowadays is hate speech. But then again, this doesn’t mean they’re absolved of being cruel. Sticks and stones may not break my bones but names will still hurt me. Verbal abuse can still be as harmful as direct a use because it leads people to do things like take their lives. Also parents have kicked their young ones out of the nest and done harmful things to their children all in the name of God.

These religions seem to have their bright sides and dark sides.

I personally believe in the bright side of Christianity. I won’t however pretend the dark side doesn’t exist or claim that everything is all about love just like Islam claims to be about peace.

However I will still come to the conclusion that to label a whole group of people terrorists because of some of the people practising it wrongly is to keep making the same mistake of prejudice humans can’t seem to stop making.


Sometimes I think wanting something is a function of many things including the options placed before you and what you have been programmed to want by external factors such as society and past experiences.

I’ve seen gay men say they want to marry a woman. They’d be quite happy to marry a woman, they say. They don’t want to marry a man. It is their choice to marry a woman and not the result of what other people think.

Sometimes I laugh when I hear this. Sometimes I feel pity.

Let’s switch things around. Let’s say you were born overseas into a more tolerable clime and you are gay, would you still decide to marry a woman? If tomorrow, your mother and father and all of society say they don’t mind gay marriage at all, would you still marry a woman? Let’s say it is proven beyond reasonable doubt that the deity of your religion (if you have a religion) doesn’t mind gay marriage, would you still marry a woman?

It’s your business to want to marry a woman as a gay man, but when it’s portrayed as something that you’re doing with your heart, body and soul, as something that you genuinely want, I find that very hard to believe and laughable.

Seems more to me like you’ve convinced yourself that what you’re settling for is the best.

It’s kind of something like this. I wanted a Nokia E71 when I was younger. Mother got me a chinco phone because at that moment, she couldn’t afford to get me the Nokia. I convinced myself that my chinco phone was way better; the music was louder, it could use two Sims, etc. I started to believe it was better till my mum asked me if I still wanted the E71, that she could get it for me. I promptly discarded the chinco phone in less than a heartbeat.

Anyhoo, this is just what I think when I hear a gay man’s desires to marry a woman and how he is doing it because he wants to. (Please note, I said gay man, not bisexual!).

I probably sound like Judge Judy. I probably am judging (bite me). But at the same time, I realise people get married for different reasons and I guess no one reason is greater than the other. But I (will) only take offense or be indignant if all the important cards aren’t laid on the table. But then, again who is to say what cards are important and which cards aren’t? I’d say let the conscience judge, but people have different degrees of consciences.

This is a slippery slope.

I guess in the end, my opinion on how someone is running their life is inconsequential, unless the person makes it otherwise.

Okay, I’m done contemplating.

Written by IBK

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