I have wanted to write about this topic for a while but I have held back for a number of reasons.
I do not want anyone to think I am trying to force an opinion, so I will try as much as possible to break it down. Even if I go off point, just stay with me.
This topic remains a serious issue for people of faith (Christians or Muslims) who are in the LGBT community – the struggle to hold on to a faith that has seen them through the highs and the lows. On one side, the religious people are telling them eternal damnation awaits them, and on the other side their LGBT brothers and sisters are calling them confused and hypocritical.
The Christ-believing ones among them go to church or they read their bibles and they see it written in clear text:
“If a man has sexual relations with a man as one does with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable. They are to be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads.” Leviticus 20:13
Oh and there is this one:
“Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural sexual relations for unnatural ones. In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed shameful acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their error.” Romans 1:26-27
There are other scriptures that talk about homosexuality and they are not very flattering. This is the reason why it is hard for anyone to reconcile their faith with their sexuality.
But here is the deal. What is faith? How do you expect someone raised in a particular religion for decades to walk away because of sexuality? The Bible states clearly that it is important to deny yourself and focus on Heaven (Sorry I have been away from the Church for so long I am finding it hard to quote scripture).
This is how I reconcile my faith and sexuality. I believe there is a God that holds the entire universe together. I believe in the Historical Christ. I do not think the Bible is invalid; however I feel it was written from the experiences of different people who lived in a different time. Quick example, there are things one is not supposed to eat as a Jew in the Old Testament. In the New Testament, God tells Peter to eat them. Different times. Different actions.
Based on that I pick and choose – the same way I look at the history books and learn from the good and the bad is the same way I read the Bible. There are different accounts of the Biafran war. The way an Igbo man will give his account is different from the way a Hausa man will give his account. It does not invalidate their accounts. It is just written from different experiences.
There is no blueprint or guide when it comes to faith and sexuality, but everyone will have to make a decision someday on what they want to live by. What is important is finding what works for you and living by it.
If you feel you cannot find a way to reconcile your faith and your sexuality, it is OK. Some people have found a way to and it is fine. In the end, the Bible has said, “Nothing can separate you from the love of God.” And that is good enough for me.
To further buttress my point, here is a video from The Rhodes Brothers channel, a vlog update titled: CAN YOU BE GAY AND GO TO CHURCH?
Written by Tony Odekunle-Brown