63 responses

  1. Colossus
    February 19, 2015

    “What if I say I don’t want it? What if I want to set you free?”

    Oya, you have been set free, fly pretty bird, fly away from your cage.

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  2. Pete
    February 19, 2015

    Love story! *goes back to sleep *

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  3. simba
    February 19, 2015

    My dear he dumped u…. he was looking for a lame excuse…

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  4. Mercury
    February 19, 2015

    Bull shit, Rotimi is so full of shit, I can smell him from a mile away, what’s all that Undeserving bull…..Honey it was d clichéd “its not you,its me” style dumping. Thank goodness, your heart solidified oooo.

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    • obatala
      February 19, 2015

      hahahaaaa. I tell u. the excuse was just too lame. its the age old excuse joor. he probably wanted to tap some other ass. love blinds u so u don’t see the tell tale signs until its in your face. sorry Santa. nice name though.
      u gat any gifts for me?
      *winks*

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  5. Max
    February 19, 2015

    Wow, just wow. The way some people choose to end this thing is really surprising.
    He has a deeply rooted self esteem issues. And inferiority complex. And also, he doesn’t love you the way you love him. Its hard to ignore someone’s calls when you’re in love with them. Even if they cut off your finger 5seconds before.
    So there we have it, another heart broken gay Nigerian who might never find it in his heart to love again because an asshole broke his heart. Someone who might just choose to be pessimistic towards love. Believe it or not, he ll start spreading the word about “no love” in the gaybourhood. And then the cycle continues.
    Pls don’t forsake love @ Santa. Believe it or not, it ain’t easy for straight people too. The only difference is they have a wider range of choice to make.

    Pls don’t forsake love @Santa.
    Rotimi is a human being and acted the way he thought was best. Doesn’t mean everyone is that way. Love is beautiful, when you find it, protect it. But don’t let it consume and compromise you.
    Have a nice day.

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    • Oluwadamilare Okoro
      February 19, 2015

      Nice…

      I am getting to see why everyone is usually all about MAX.

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    • pinkpanthertb
      February 19, 2015

      I love this comment!

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    • Santa Diaba
      February 19, 2015

      Thank you Max.
      I promise not to forsake love, although I don’t know when I’ll be ready for that again.
      It’s always difficult dealing with heartbreak, but thankfully, we always heal.

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      • Max
        February 19, 2015

        Yeah we do.
        **warm hugs**

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    • Ace
      February 19, 2015

      This page is gradually turning me to a commentator. People be dropping comments
      that are just kissable. Max baby! I feel like I know you.

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      • Max
        February 19, 2015

        Lol, you never know.

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    • paytong533
      February 20, 2015

      I LOVE the part ‘even if they cut off your finger 5 seconds before’ that was awesome. I totally agree with you. If you love someone you don’t just ignore them because you can’t. You may yell or get frustrated but you will answer them

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  6. Absalom
    February 19, 2015

    What do you mean by he wasn’t good enough for you but not in the way he thinks? Ha.

    I can relate to Rotimi’s story; no one likes to feel that others are moving while they themselves remain stagnant. It’s good you realised your (then) boyfriend had self esteem issues and you thought it didn’t make sense that he would ask for a breakup because of that. But emotions are what they are, they are not embedded in logicality; sometimes we simply feel what we feel, for “no reason” and nothing anyone says or does will get us out of that mood until we are ready. It’s our right.

    Rotimi is a man worried about his dreams. He needed space. This was not about you or what you think. The least you could do is be there for him, show understanding and support and believe in him (you don’t have to be lovers to do this).

    Love is not always when we have a person’s tongue in our mouths; it’s also recognising when to give them space or simply hold their hand without judgement even when we don’t understand their journey.

    So, Santa, are you sure YOU deserved Rotimi? Think again.

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    • Oluwadamilare Okoro
      February 19, 2015

      I don’t agree with this comment…

      Rotimi’s tone and actions did not seem like som1 who was willing to accept help from Santa… and that inferiority complex has obviously consumed him.

      Santa was heartbroken. He tried to be there incase u did not notice and offered encouraging words. Haba absalom, what else will be poor boy do?

      Not once in the write up did Santa say he can’t let him go because of sex. He seemed to genuinely love the guy.

      Coming from me, who doesn’t love love… pls read through again!

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      • pinkpanthertb
        February 19, 2015

        Thank you, Dami. This was my exact response when i read Absalom’s comment.

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    • pinkpanthertb
      February 19, 2015

      Absalom, this is quite patronising, this comment. There’s nothing here that said Santa didn’t want to love and support Rotimi whether they were having sex or not. Rotimi didn’t want support. He wanted to cut off from Santa. Simple. Emitions are not ligical, yes. But Rotimi was not illogically asking for Santa’s understanding. He was breaking up with him, and in the most insincere way imaginable.

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      • Absalom
        February 19, 2015

        I understood the story and wasn’t trying to patronise anyone nor did I mean to imply the relationship was about the sex they were having. “Tongue in our mouths” was metaphor was closeness as opposed to space.

        Dami, I get your point. Santa tried to help, I saw that. But I think his conclusion about Rotimi not deserving him seeemed too narrow. I got the sense he was lashing out because his ego had been bruised – I hope I’m wrong.

        Santa, I’m not trying to take away from your experience or downplay your hurt or tell you what your story is. Personally, I find Rotimi’s behaviour perfectly normal and human. It’s possible that the help you offered wasn’t what he needed and YES, we could say he owed you – at least – a clue as to what you could do to help, but sha…like I said, human emotions are not as straightforward as maths… That Rotimi behaved “irrationally” does not mean he set out to be cruel – an impression I got from the story and some comments.

        My comment was simply asking if you have considered other possible explanations to what happened, because this “undeserving” thing…I’m not sure I see how that conclusion followed from the story above.

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      • Santa Diaba
        February 19, 2015

        Hi Absalom,
        I totally understand your line of thought, and I also understand Why Rotimi did what he did.
        However, my whole “undeserving ” standpoint is that He should not have let his insecurity end our love, and the fact that he did proves he didn’t deserve that love.

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      • trystham
        February 19, 2015

        I don’t think there was anything patronising anywhere. I see that Rotimi has pride, a commodity sadly lacking in many men, both gay and heterosexual these days. Let us assume Rotimi accepts help from Santa, he will resent him much later because he may feel he is being forced to be in a relationship because of assistance previously rendered. Let him find his way.

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      • pinkpanthertb
        February 19, 2015

        Santa wasn’t offering him any help. Santa was offering him unconditional love. And who says you cant find your way whilst being in a relationship?

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      • Oluwadamilare Okoro
        February 19, 2015

        Ahhh thank u pinky. U shall live long.

        … who even says he ll find his way outside this/a relationship. it was a lame break up move. Shikena.

        If he’s truly not comfortable with Santa paying for everything and buying everything… he can as well contribute with the little things…

        … first maybe reduce the trips to “the palms”… they could stay home and enjoy each other’s company and talk abt “the future” (his future).

        He could also buy somtin for Santa once in a while. No matter how small… na the effort matter for relationship abi?

        I might be wrong o… bcos I have never been in one.

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  7. Queen Blue Fox
    February 19, 2015

    *rolls eyes from Oguta lake to Atlantic ocean* I’m not deserving you? which of my long line of exes gave me that line again? Mscheew! that’s before he starts screwing someone else. Let’s just say you showed so much heart and guys always take advantage of too much heart, I would know it’s a wisdom that comes from so many relationships.

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  8. Oluwadamilare Okoro
    February 19, 2015

    … hmmmm well there’s nothing u can do abt another person’s self esteem most times. just sad.

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  9. Lothario
    February 19, 2015

    The Great Divide! *sigh* I can write a thesis on this…. from the ones who, like Rotimi, leave because they feel they’re undeserving, to the other end of the spectrum where you have those that hold on to you because you’re their hope for a better life.

    It’s no joke, gay people really need to work harder at being on top of their game, a lot of us don’t push ourselves.

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  10. kendigin
    February 19, 2015

    i think everyone has insecurities and some even have self esteem issues. But in rotimi’s case this has nothing to do with the above. You dont break up with someone u “love” just like that.

    Love has nothing to do with material possessions. I think in this case rotimi’s ego is far far bigger than any imaginary so called “love”.

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  11. Lord II
    February 19, 2015

    Well if I look at it from another point of view I think Rotimi just wasn’t comfy in the relationship anymore and truly wasn’t giving his best even though he knew you loved him die.

    However doesn’t he also have the right to feel just as good as you do in this same union? If truly he wants the best for you AND CAN’T GIVE you that…then you got to see from his angle that the boi is not where he should be..i mean he’s the man and SHOULD act like the man and not wait for you to do all the giving…

    However that said..it’s still his fault for jetting out of school…wrong move brava wrong move. Sigh..facts of existence.

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    • Max
      February 19, 2015

      He’s the man?? Seriously?
      I’ve been praying to God about your case(and I hate praying). Don’t just let me start with you this morning. I’ve been censoring my comments on you for a while now, but its like you’re not taking the hint. If you have nothing good to say, pls shut your food hole. Anytime it opens, something foul comes out and covers KD with a dark cloud.
      King/Lord/#IDontevenWannaKnowYourName, stop it!! Just stop.
      You’re a grown ass man with kids. If you can’t respect yourself for us, then pls do it for them.

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      • Khaleesi
        February 19, 2015

        Am really in despair about this Niggah!! “he’s the man” … smh … I dont know if this twit wakes up everyday determined to sound like a weird jolt or if its just his natural state … either way, its pathetic!!! smh …

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      • Ace
        February 19, 2015

        Food hole? Max why?

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      • Lord II
        February 20, 2015

        Ofcoz U hate praying coz it never gets answered….am sure you pray to that ‘deity’ you call ATHEISM…smh!

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    • pinkpanthertb
      February 19, 2015

      He’s the man… Smh. And Santa is the woman, no? Do you see how stupid you sound?

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    • Pete
      February 19, 2015

      Lord,not only do your comment reek of insults,it is also sexist. This is 2015 & you still think females are inferior. I have tried defending right of females here & I was hounded left,right & centre with Max leading the charge

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      • Max
        February 19, 2015

        We never made any derogatory statement about females.. We were having fun joking. You just didn’t understand it. I’m a feminist. Take note

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  12. Tony Odekunle-Brown
    February 19, 2015

    Why didn’t he break up before the ice cream and the sex?

    Dear Santa, sorry but Rotimi is a dick and wanted to break up with you. He knew you’re a romantic and he used it to his advantage.

    So now, you get up, forget the loser (that he clearly is) and move on.

    There are many more guys that are 100 times the man (boy) Rotimi is

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  13. Dennis Macaulay
    February 19, 2015

    Well the world is a twisted place, sometimes people are not deserving of the love you give them. Some people are pond scum, no scratch that they are the plankton that is fed upon by pond scum. You give them the whole world but it is just never enough, they will still find a way to hurt you.

    Santa you deserve more! Forget that guy biko! Nonsense!

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    • Mitch
      February 19, 2015

      “Some people are pond scum, no scratch that they are the plankton that is fed upon by pond scum”

      Shade of life, Dennis! I saw what you did there…………I did!

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    • Pete
      February 19, 2015

      DM,this sounds personal. Come over for a bear hug

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  14. Mitch
    February 19, 2015

    Lord, I think your pseudo here should be ‘Idiot’ because that’s all you sound like daily. I mean, is idiocy all you or is it just your KD persona?

    Get some sense or borrow some! But by all means, get some sense.

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  15. trystham
    February 19, 2015

    I agree with Absalom and I do think he does love you. The complex issue will come up much later and destroy whatever relationship u wud av built by then. He just looked to such a future. A man cannot be a man if he is not pulling his weight financially. Everytime u pick out stuff for him, he will never be happy. Even u noticed that at the mall. An unhappy Rotimi will be an unhappy Santa. Outgrow him, but don’t forget him, Santa

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    • Double P
      February 20, 2015

      Trystham and Absalom, I love u both for ya comments… Keep being critically unbiased minds….

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  16. bade
    February 19, 2015

    Rotimi is a fraud.. he just used u, am very sure uve been paying for more dan ice cream. . He has found someone richer.. I was once a victim of spending money for guys.. I met this very cute guy recently, he is unemployed and I am a student buh my parents are okay so I always have extra to spare.. so, after sex with dis guy d second time, he wanted a relationship nd I was ready to date him until he asked me for money.. that shit turns me off

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    • Dennis Macaulay
      February 19, 2015

      I often have a different opinion about money mixing with relationships. If you two are involved, your finances will Most likely be interwoven!
      However try to ensure that its mutualism and not commensalism or parasitism

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      • Gad
        February 19, 2015

        I strongly disagree. Money shouldn’t come into relationships. It could lead to a lot of unpleasant situations even murder. Yes, I said murder.

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      • Dennis Macaulay
        February 19, 2015

        Gad money doesn’t mix in your marriage no?

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  17. Chizzie
    February 19, 2015

    This rotimi gaan is dramatic. Well the thing with relationships and I’ve learned, is there’s so much more that goes into it than the initial physical compatibility and attraction. Both partners have to be able to sustain a relationship by contributing thier own quota. its like a seed that constantly needs to be watered. In a relationship where one partner contributes more and by that I mean to a large margin then issues arise; especially with guys cause we have such egos. I bet you were the one that paid for the ice cream and the cab ride while rotimi just watched. And no man,no resonable man would feel comfortable with that…

    Frankly I think the rotimi’s of society should remain single till otherwise

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  18. Teflon
    February 19, 2015

    Dear Santa, this Rotimi you speak of sounds like my bf. Too much in fact I think it can’t be coincidental. he doesn’t happen to go by the nickname TK, no? #askingformysanity and peace of mind

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    • Dennis Macaulay
      February 19, 2015

      Ghen Ghen

      Two timing Rotimi

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    • R.A
      February 19, 2015

      Oh Abasi! I shall be sure to revisit this post much later for my peace of mind too.

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  19. Chuck
    February 19, 2015

    Gays and low self esteem. Did anyone else notice how Santa thinks it’s ok to cheat if you see a hottie? And he called another gay man a dog for not “meeting his level of attractiveness”?

    Like minds act the same way, no wonder you’re in love with fellows like this Rotimi. Self esteem and emotional maturity are big issues oh. See Santa talking about love because of orgasm. Nkan be.

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    • Vhar.
      February 19, 2015

      This Chuck ehn…

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      • Chuck
        February 19, 2015

        Na so we see am

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  20. posh666
    February 19, 2015

    Lmaoooo drama..dis rotimi deserves an oscar abeg! Its eida he haz an extreme case of self esteem ish or he got sum1 richer dan U.d truth is no matter how rich n comfortable we r we humans always feel good if sum1 else spends on us n cater for sum little needs.Santa is so nice to know der r still guys like u out der who still want a real relationship n not just sex.for me seriously my heart haz bin broken a long tym ago dat rit now i cant even fake/pretend to b in luv.well i can stick to one person for long as per sex mate/bootycall with mutual understanding dat we r not goin beyond dat lets just enjoy d xplosive sex while it lasts

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  21. Khaleesi
    February 19, 2015

    i think Rotime was tired of the relationship and was looking for an easy excuse to back out, if he really loved you, he would stay with you while struggling to improve himself … he would fiercely maintain his independence while loving you … methinks he found a more generous/richer guy and drifted on smoothly … it’ll hurt like a bitch but you have to cut him loose and purge him from your soul …

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  22. Paul
    February 19, 2015

    Everybody just keep blaming Rotimi. Well u should take the time to consider wat if, wat if rotimi really loves him and is truely breaking up bcus of his insecurities, wat if rotimi thinks dat letting him go is d best thing he can do for him , giving him a chance to meet someone else who he believes would b a better man Dan he (rotimi ) is , wat if rotimi being wit him is actually part of d reason y rotimi feels so inferior and insecure. bcus me feels powerless and emasculated in d relationship bcus Santa keeps providing and he has nothing to contribute ( nt santas fault thou) relationships are complicated and I actually think dat him breaking up was d best wit time he will begin to resent Santa to lash out @ him to feEl jealous of him den d love will go sour. I think its better dis way give him time and space to work out his issues and b a better man if nt for Santa but for d next man he meets and Santa if its any consolation u should b happy u experienced love something most of us search for but it eludes us

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    • Lord II
      February 20, 2015

      U see….wisdom at last!

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      • Gad
        February 20, 2015

        Wisdom? Love doesn’t know class or status. If we are to go with Paul,s reasoning, we can only say that Rotimi saw Santa as a fuck buddy who he felt deserves better.

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  23. tightness
    February 19, 2015

    I am new on this block peeps. This is a cool story but if it’s real, then Roti mi has issues with self esteem. Some guys think if they are not contributing financially un a relationship, then they are I complete

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    • Oluwadamilare Okoro
      February 19, 2015

      Tightness???

      Lovely. welCUM

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    • Gad
      February 19, 2015

      Welcome to the Kd family

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  24. mirage
    February 19, 2015

    Lol can really relate just mine was well to do but was full of lies,tricks and deceit.When it all came to an end,I just slid on my ear plugs and punched on rihanna’s “cry” on my play list.Reminiscence,hmmm love is a fable…

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  25. jesuisnigeria
    February 19, 2015

    Ah, what a way to brake up with your boyfriend… One of the reasons I’ve kept myself from falling in love. I am in a relationship sort of…well it’s complicated really! Don’t know if i’mnsingle or not. Story for another day. Back to the Koko of the matter, you can’t force someone to love you, I’ve made this same mistake over and over. You. Can’t convince someone to love you. If you find yourself convincing your partner about your relationship then it isn’t worth it beleive me. You must hold out to the right one, but make sure that the life you are living in the main time is a full one, single or not! Wink wink.

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  26. paytong533
    February 20, 2015

    I’m really sorry that happened to you. That’s bs no matter what. It just ain’t right at all. I hope you find someone better soon though. Good luck my friend

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