MY KITO STORY
Kito /kI:to/ – noun: the forceful outing of a homosexual individual from the closet either involuntarily by his own hands or through the spiteful acts of others.
My name is…well, Pink Panther, and this is my kito story.
This happened several years ago, a story that belongs to that distant past I would like to tuck away in that part of my mind reserved for things I don’t want to remember, but still want to nudge me into alertness should I find myself in similar circumstances.
I was young, impulsive, and giddy with hormones, all those unsatisfied passions waiting to be slaked by the touch of brawny arms, sensuous lips and a throbbing dick. I had long since come to terms with my sexuality; I did so at a very early age. It helped that I attended a boarding school, where I kissed and smooched my way up from SS1 to SS3. At this time, I’d even dated twice. Yes, twice. And not the I-have-a-boyfriend-but-I-can-screw-other-people-on-the-side kind of relationship Nigerian gay guys are known for. I exclusively dated these guys and exclusively broke up with them. I was young, starry-eyed and still looking for love.
But while searching for love, I was willing to be bold and adventurous along the way. And when you combine an adventurous spirit with naiveté, what you have is a kito moment waiting to happen.
I remember I went with my most recent ex, himself just a couple of years older than me, to his friend’s place. We hung out with the bunch, all of them interesting-looking guys. I use the word ‘interesting-looking’ because I looked at them and I saw the prospects for hot, sweaty sex, that we’d have just one time and forget it ever happened afterwards. I felt no spark. No chemistry. But I was certainly interested in the possibilities.
The afternoon ended. And I returned home. In the evening, my phone rang. I answered, and a husky treble hummed in my ears. He was Paul. He was at the hangout earlier on. He got my number from my ex. Actually, he took my number from my ex’s phone without his permission, could I please not tell him? He liked me. He would love to get together with me. How does tomorrow afternoon sound?
I was thrilled by the call, the proposition, the sudden scent of sex in the offing. And he actually went through the length of stealing my number just so he could get down with me?! The notion that anyone would go through such an effort for me made me giddy with delight, so giddy I disregarded the still, small voice that said I should call my ex and quiz him about this Paul. For heavenssakes, I didn’t even know what he looked like, couldn’t place his face out of the group of boys I met earlier on. The alarm bells trilled, very gently, oh-so faintly, at the base of my neck. But I was thinking about the sex, and the thirst for it was very real.
So the next day, when I finished my chores at home, I dressed up, tucked my phone and novel inside the man-bag I slung over my shoulder, and started out of the house. I called Paul, and he directed me to his house in the suburbia of the Housing Estate. An okada conveyed me to my destination, and by the time I knocked on the gate, waiting to be let in, my heart was palpitating with excitement. Oh, the thrill of the testosterone, the thickening scent of nasty sex, the heady sensation of skin against sweaty skin.
I couldn’t wait. Literally. He offered drinks, and I told him we should just get down to business. We were in one of the rooms of the compound’s boys’ quarters. He nodded at my enthusiasm, and told me to give him a minute. He walked out of the room, and moments later, he returned. He seemed on edge then, skittish even, but I was so consumed by my hormonal urges that I mistook his edginess for anticipation. I was so blinded by my passion that I didn’t even notice that he didn’t LOCK THE DOOR! And then he encouraged me to strip while he was still clad in his boxer shorts, shirtless though.
Just as I slid the last stitch of clothing from my body, the unlocked door slammed open.
“HEY! WETIN UNA DEY DO!” someone growled nastily.
Shock. Disbelief. Panic. These were the emotions that slammed into me at the sudden intrusion. My hard-on deflated. My passion dwindled. And I found myself staring into the cold, stark hateful eyes of an intruder.
“WETIN UNA DEY DO?! HEEEIIIII! HOMO! SO NA HOMO UNA DEY DO! SO, PAUL, YOU BE HOMO!”
Oh gawd! I found myself frantically and silently begging God to tear the ground open and have it swallow me up. I snatched at my boxers as this guy started shoving us about, lashing out with his fists at us, catching me with a punch to the temple here and a slap to the cheek there. He beat me. He beat Paul. He was a one-man mob. He ransacked my bag and pockets, took my phone and the spare change in my wallet. And then he beat me some more. And beat Paul some more. I felt humiliated. I sobbed. I begged. I cried.
And then, sometime during the ruckus, I suddenly realized that there was a certain fakeness to the aggression he directed towards Paul, that the punches he lashed out at Paul seemed forced. Acted. Like a charade. The entire incident began to take the form of a scripted performance in my head.
Mark boy as victim.
Seduce him to the rendezvous.
Leave door unlocked.
Get him in a compromising position.
And have someone else barge in and ‘discover’ the abomination going on.
I suddenly realized how foolish I’d been so far. Why was I even crying? What was I begging for? For all his aggression and threats of exposing us, the guy didn’t seem too keen on dragging both our semi-clad selves out to the streets. He fumed and raged, and yet his voice was subdued every time he said the word ‘Homo’. Why? I wondered. Perhaps because the plan was to shake me down and get me blinded so much by my panic I’d do anything, give anything he wanted from me?
My tears dried up and I became mad. Mad at myself. Mad at this two-faced, lying sack of shit called Paul. Mad at the other guy for obtaining the phone my mother had recently bought for me. Mad at the society that made it so that situations like this could exist. Mad at the world. Mad at God for not opening that ground already so I could get swallowed.
Eventually, the tide passed. The guy took what he could get out of me – my phone and money, and then he stomped out of the room, leaving me bruised and battered – and not just physically – from the episode. Paul kept on apologizing profusely to me, but I couldn’t be bothered. I pulled together my tattered dignity, with my mind already concocting a story I’d give my parents as to the loss of my phone, and walked out of his house, relieved that the terror had ended, regretful that it happened, and hopeful that I should never find myself in such a compromising situation ever again.
So far, the Lord has been good, and this story has been my one kito story.
My name is Pink Panther, and this is my kito story. What’s yours?
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29 Comments
blue fox
April 28, 08:15oh my! You cud have told me that’s how that phone got missing then, it all makes sense now
pinkpanthertb
April 28, 08:21LOL! Oh well, can u imagine the shame I must have felt then? 🙂
blue fox
April 28, 08:24yeah till now I can’t bring myself to write about my kito story or even talk about it
pinkpanthertb
April 28, 08:26Be brave. Share. there’s power in anonymity 🙂
Regal Sweetheart
April 28, 09:04Are you kidding me?!! That happened to you?! *gulp*
lluvmua
April 28, 09:21Awwww so touching!!! And dat paul of a guy is just a BItch God!!! We all need to be careful.
lluvmua
April 28, 09:25Like seriously??? Dat happened? Whoa. Can’t still understand why gay guyz set their fellow gay guyz up???? Its absurd nd unheard of! Is it cuz f d poverty in nigeria or wah??? We all need 2 b careful!!! Would b sharing ma kito stories soon!!!(Have 2)
blue fox
April 28, 09:39I think I just might
tikky20
April 28, 10:10Dayumn!!! Dats horrific. Never been in that situation but I think I can relate to how u must have felt. Why wud sum1 think of taking advantage of another whom they both share sumtyn volatile to the society in common….
Chizzie
April 28, 11:09wow. At the first part of this story I was giggling and laughing hysterically and at the end I was sober and reflective which I think are the elements to an amazing read. and its sad that they are a lot of Pauls out there these days . the lesson to be learned is; One must think with ones head..not ones vajayjay, And get to know a guy before u meet up, usually after intense and daily WhatsApp sex. Hoping I never get to have a kito moment. . !
Ps : Why did u change the previous theme? really liked it
pinkpanthertb
April 28, 11:26Thanks Chizzy for reading and being entertained. Your advice is greatly appreciated too.
PS: it seems you’re browsing with your phone, right? Well the theme wasn’t changed. I simply activated the mobile view of the blog.
Cuame
April 28, 14:45Lol. My friend and I were got on a rooftop having sex. The guy didn’t beat nor extort money from us though. But he was extremely surprised.
pinkpanthertb
April 28, 16:02Lucky you. Lol. Rooftop, ei? Que fancy. 🙂
Archmage
April 28, 17:55I identify with that moment of weakness when being sex starved makes you lose whatever little reasoning one has had. Its why I’ve always advocated for Know-your-Date policy. If your date cannot be patient enough for at leasts monthS till when you’re comfy enough with each other, he should gaan die. My own kito story is not as dramaful, but I chewed my finger nails to stubs ehn.
lluvmua
April 28, 18:38Lol
I'm The Confession (@Jaded_Fire)
April 29, 02:31OMG,this is horrible.I’m so sorry this happened to you.UGH
I hope the universe kicked them in the ass for ya.
This world is filled with such nasty people who backstab others like it’s nothing.
I hope this terrible experience hasn’t made you jaded.
Thanks for sharing your story.You’re really brave to do so.
*HUGS*
kendigin
April 30, 02:01Terrible! Terrible! Such a shame we live in a culture where public humiliation and mugging of people are not only allowed, but encouraged. I have witnessed 1st hand the public beating of a friend of mine based on his sexuality, which eventually led to intervention of the police to quell the fight. Unfortunately, immediately the learnt my friend was being beaten because he was “gay”, the tables turned and the police blamed him for being a homosexual I.e “acting girly”. Its truly so sad!
pinkpanthertb
April 30, 02:18Can you just imagine! So it’s okay to beat him because of his sexuality, ei? Tsk tsk. This country sef
Jude
April 30, 06:26http://judedibia-jd.blogspot.com/2014/02/excerpt-from-abandoned-novel.html
pinkpanthertb
April 30, 06:51I read this. It just breaks my heart, stories like this when all the crime a victim has committed was love someone or desire someone different.
blue fox
May 02, 06:00this nearly made me cry
daprync
April 30, 16:33Sowi man, really feel ur pain. Am sure it must have made you smarter, karma is sure coming for them
pinkpanthertb
April 30, 16:38Amen to that. And thanks.
flamingphoenix
May 29, 09:44Such a poignant scenario… Can’t help but create mental pictures of such an ordeal. Likewise encountered such an experience and has taught me how to wield turpidity and affection, as well as grant absolution. Thanks for sharing your ‘Kilo Moment’ Pink Panther. Xx
pinkpanthertb
May 29, 09:52And thanks a lot for reading. 🙂
Dxavia
September 13, 21:55omg, touching and quite similar to myn.. just that myn was actually in a bush. how I ‘managed to get into that wicked plot is still a mystery,walahi.
bayelsaoffspring
September 25, 11:59Oh Lawd. This is exactly what happened to me when I was just 16. In my own case. I called my sis and she came with some Army officials to rescue me
Khlobe
August 29, 14:43wow… it took me about 2 days to go through all the kito stories and after reading all with yours being the last..i have decided to share my sad story to.. Please hoe do i go about it.. Am i to create an account or just send to you with the email provided
Looking forward to hearing from you soon
Pink Panther
August 29, 15:59Simply send your story to the email kitodiaries@gmail.com or pantherptb@yahoo.com