A HOE ABROAD (Episode 3)
“Konji na ba… Konji na ba… Konji na bastard!”
Dremo must have been in my shoes when he sang that song, because damn! It’d been just a few days past that I got dicked while being high as fuck, and most likely eventually slept off with spunk in my ass – and here I was, feeling like I’d been celibate for years.
Well, the body wants what it wants.
I try not to take my phone to the toilet, as I might end up spending way too much time in there. I mean, wouldn’t y’all agree with me that taking a dump while being on your phone is some sort of therapy? That depends on the kind of toilet sha. The toilets in my school are extra and always sparkling clean, as if they’re newly constructed and unused.
That day, while I was doing my business, I decided to open my phone, and there it was, beckoning on me to open it. My Grindr app! And I couldn’t resist.
It wasn’t long after I logged in, before I saw a profile that had plenty, plenty things on it. However, one word jumped out at me – ‘African’ – and I was immediately interested in getting to know the person. So, I messaged him.
We soon got chatting (after I left the toilet, of course), and after some time, I got to know that he was from Zimbabwe and that he was staying in the campus. We decided to meet. I got directions and soon found myself at his apartment, a visit that had me asking myself why I didn’t rent an apartment in school though.
As for Thomas, nothing prepared me for the Zimbabwean hottie that welcomed me into his place. Tall, slim, dark, pretty, with lovely jaw lines, a diva-like carriage and a very good command of the English language. He had a lovely accent too.
We settled inside and immediately connected as we just started gisting. I think the fact that we both didn’t have the role indicator on our Grindr profiles added an uncertainty to our meet that made us focus on connecting first before any other thing. We later got to know we were both bottoms, which was fine, because I was enjoying getting friendly with him. He’d been on the Island for four years; he was 23 years old and was out to everyone in his life. He was mostly different from me personality-wise, and I found him to be a very interesting person.
And soon, because that is the way these sorts of things happen, Thomas and I started talking about boys. Sis was gisting me about the guys on the Island, and I told him about the Igbo uncle I’d hooked up with. He said he knew him, and I wasn’t surprised, especially as we talked more and I began to come to the conclusion that the gay community here is almost the same as the one back home in Nigeria; everyone knows everyone, and they have all most likely slept with each other. Only that here, these guys aren’t internal homophobes; they actually want to have associations and interactions with other gay men beyond the four walls of their bedrooms. Thomas told me of dates he’d been on, the house parties he had organized, club invites he had gotten together with his friends, and how accommodating straight guys were, especially those whose girlfriends were his friends – because of course, he had lots of female friends. At the time, I had no idea I was face to face with one of the most popular gay guys on the Island.
And oh yes, Nigerian boys are on the low breaking people’s hearts here o! Apparently, Thomas had dated a Nigerian guy and they were together for two years, even though he (the Nigerian boyfriend) was sleeping around. Thomas really cared about him, and the picture he painted of the dates they went on and vacations they took had me wondering if this was the same breed of Nigerian gays that I knew. I mean, who knew Naija gays could be this romantic. Las-las, it ended in tears and they parted ways. I felt bad for Thomas, especially seeing as he was still feeling some type of way about the relationship, as he kept telling me, “Be careful with these boys, especially those on the Island. Let them not break your heart o.”
LOL! I wanted to tell the honey not to worry about me. I grew up a Naija gay; I know these boys and their ways, and I can handle them.
By the end of my visit, we’d exchanged Instagram handles and WhatsApp numbers. I enjoyed his company so much, I felt bad that this was his final year and only my first; I was hoping we’d have more time to become really good friends and create memories of my time here. Thomas was a sweet soul, a really kind person too. He didn’t just talk; he listened too. He wanted to know about my stories as well, and I told him about the gay community in Nigeria and the homophobia we experience. He wanted to know if I was out in my country or to my family, and I told him no. he may be out, but he was African enough to understand my reservations without me explaining much.
Na so gist sweet us sotay we no know say night don reach, and I had to say goodbye.
While on my way home in the bus, I went through his Instagram and liked most of his pictures. I also went through his followers and added a few people from there, even though most of the accounts were on private. By the time I got home, a few of them had accepted my requests to follow them.
And that was when one particular profile caught my eye.
#Sigh
Men might just be the end of me for real, because.
Written by Lanrey
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18 Comments
Dillish
May 11, 07:48No no no no. You can’t do this na??.
Because of what please?
Some Nigerians will still not change even if they travel out Sha. May excessive love for sleeping around not cost us the meeting of our potential life partners ijn
Lanre
May 11, 12:12Lol and what if there’s no potential partner. Biko
Keppsi
May 11, 14:17???????
Delle
May 11, 09:00Slept with spunk in your ass?
Okurrr!
I’m saying no more ???
Higwe
May 11, 11:55???
I like you so much .
You’re always radiating positive energy.
Enjoy your life dear .
Lanre
May 11, 12:15Thanks?
Mandy
May 11, 17:59Um, Lanre dear, seeing as his comment was under Delle’s, I don’t think Higwe was complimenting you. His comment was most likely something sarcastic directed at Delle.
*gasp* ??? Unless he’s given his life to Christ and he really means it when he says he likes Delle.
Higwe
May 11, 18:47I was actually referring to Lanre .
Pink P honestly needs to fix his site.
I’ve often found my comments under replies that weren’t intended .
When I dropped that comment there were like only two comments and nope , Delle’s wasn’t even there .
Now I find myself under his reply telling him like him …have I gone apeshit crazy ??
Even the last part of my comment ” enjoy your life dear ” would have made it obvious who I was referring to
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Pink Panther
May 12, 05:48Dude, please don’t lay this on me. It’s not a fluke, it’s not a Site issue.
It’s your mistake.
Be responsible enough to own it. You mistakenly commented below Delle; it’s okay to admit the mistake and not blame-shift. No other person has ever complained about something like this; I don’t even see how you’d think this excuse makes sense, that Delle didn’t comment and you commented on your own, and then abracadabra, there you are below Delle’s comment. ??
Seriously. It’s okay to admit that you made a mistake, and not make this another Pink Panther problem.
Owen
May 11, 12:48??a profile caught your attention.. men will surely be the end of you ?
Ayodele
May 11, 13:42You still dinno finish it ?
How do you want your thunder?
Lanre
May 12, 02:20You could send in a package with a tall man that looks like a cup of chocolate milk so I could drink all day ??
Usman abiodun
May 11, 14:04I love it
And am happy we both agreed that men will be the death of u???
keppsi
May 11, 14:21Lanre ooh Lanre ooh Lanre oh oh oh???? me I want to know the profile that caught your eye ooh???
Pls do and update ooh?
Mandy
May 11, 17:56And what have we learned today? That Nigerian men are trash, wherever they migrate to.
I was surprised by how this episode turned out. Thought it was going to be an fuckfest (not like I have anything against sex in every episode. It’s just… it was nice to read about you cultivating a friendship from an intended Grindr hookup as opposed to shagging.
Lanre
May 12, 02:21Thanks
Mikey?
May 16, 02:06Hoe abroad yet you’ve only slept with one man so far, and this is the third episode. Am I the only one noticing this?
Lanre
May 20, 10:21Lol you would be surprised, some arent just worth writing about, trust me.