BBNaija’s Prince Enwerem Implies That Homosexuality Is A Consequence of Sexual Assault On Young Boys
The fifth season of Big Brother Naija is currently on the air, and the airwaves are rife with the antics of the housemates in Nigeria’s most watched reality show. When they are not hooking up and forming alliances, the housemates are also having discussions over societal issues.
And during a recent conversation yesterday (August 10) regarding gender based violence and gender equality, homosexuality (of course) came up. And at the helm of this topic was the housemate, Prince. The 2018 winner of the Mr. Nigeria title talked about how, as a cadet with the highest ranking upon graduation, he was tasked to “deal with homosexuality and all of that” in a secondary school.
“At a point, I know I spoke to some boys and six out of every ten boys I spoke to had been sexually assaulted,” he said. “So now, it becomes a vicious cycle, because they tell you that they were sexually assaulted, and they continued. Because it’s different for girls and guys; when guys are sexually assaulted over and over, the tendency that they continue to do it and prey on the next set of people that are going to come is there. Girls may not turn out that way, but it’s often that way for the guys.
“And I’ve seen it happen. When you have people who have been in that scenario and you’re talking to them, and you’re like, ‘When did you learn this?’ And they’re like, ‘It was when I was in JSS1… some SS3 student.’ And now, he’s in SS3 and doing the same thing to the JSS1 student.
“So it’s a vicious cycle. You talk to a lot of people and they tell you, ‘It was the house help… It was some uncle, some aunty or some big sister that used to come around.”
While sexual assault is a culture in most secondary schools, especially boarding houses, what Prince has done is add to the harmful misconception about homosexuality that is perpetuated by the Nigerian society: that boys getting molested by males is the reason they are homosexual. That exposing boys to sex through sexual abuse in the hands of another male figure is the cause of homosexuality.
What this viewpoint fails to take into consideration is that a lot of these boys already had a feeling that they were sexually different long before any senior student made any moves on them. It is blind to the scenarios where the junior boys were themselves consenting participants in whatever sexual activities that transpire between them and the older students. And it fails to address the question of how the homosexuality of those boys who weren’t sexually assaulted by anyone came to be.
These were nuances to the topic that Prince should have raised to better talk about issues surrounding homosexual acts in secondary schools. Instead, by leaving them out, he effectively left this message in the minds of Nigerians who don’t know any better and who are watching the show: that homosexuality in boys is a consequence of sexual abuse.
The discussion did go on to address issues of gender based violence and how bringing up boys differently from girls is the reason why boys grow up to be men with lots of bad behaviour.
Check out the video clip of that discussion below:
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52 Comments
Audrey
August 11, 07:27Jesus be a fence oh?♂️?♂️?♂️
Nelson sef is talking about homosexuality, like Nelson Enwerem wey no Dey use eyes see man is talking about homosexuality. Nawa oh
If not that I sold my previous Facebook account I would have shown the world what this goat has in between his legs or was it the time he came to see me in 2019 and was begging that I follow him to somewhere in Ajah to spend the night but I couldn’t cos I was on duty. This GOAT was even accusing me of choosing Cornelius(Second runner during his time) over him cos Cornelius was a closer friend to me than he was Andre he has the boldness to say this. E be things oh
Ejike
August 11, 07:50E. B. Things
Don’t mind him. If you don’t know what to say, keep shut. Prince should stop contradicting yourself and making things difficult for himself.
I will personally carry his matter for head if he says any other thing against the LGBT ever again.
Infact, I’m not voting him again.
Sage Philip
August 11, 08:32*Sips tea, crosses leg.
Enhhheh, Nna isi n’ogini*
Kenning
August 13, 10:59Not necessary dude…
Dolorès
August 16, 12:14Really. I knew there was something fishy about him. But how could we believe what you say, when there is no proof?
S.Freude
August 17, 06:15I sent Pinky a note. I’d like to establish contact with you.
Bright
September 08, 01:03Sir pls prove I wanna tell my friends so dey will believe
Lopez
August 11, 07:27“It is blind to the scenarios where the junior boys were themselves consenting participants in whatever sexual activities that transpire between them and the older students” a minor having consent?
Pink Panther
August 11, 07:37“sexual activities that transpire between them and the older students”.
Please contextualize that line before you fly into an outrage. They’re both minors.
Veennaa
August 11, 07:34Funny enough he just dragged himself backward.this will affect him in the show as well. Fans like us will definitely pull him down .
slender
August 11, 07:35Fool!!! to our brothers out there, if you dont know how to defend your existence, its better you shut d feck up! i realized when DL guys are being caught up in this kind “conversation”, they tend to do more damage than good, biko resist the Urge to shalaye.
who else noticed that these bbn guys brought all their bumshots, i dont really like fair guys but Ozo and his bumshot(S) are turning me on oooo!
Ejike
August 11, 07:47Nelson should just respect himself if not we will open our nyash o…
I have chats and read receipts o. He will have to explain to the whole world if his own Homosexuality was as a result of sexual assault.
Nonsense and iberibesim
Lorde
August 11, 08:54Receipts oo…… we? want? receipts ?
Lopez
August 11, 07:49There’s no consent there Pink, even if they are both minors. And please stop this spree of harsh replies because one did not see it your way, it won’t hurt to be polite. Please.
Pink Panther
August 11, 07:55So me correcting your twisting of what I said is now a harsh reply? Kindly point out to me where the impoliteness of my response to you is. Please.
Look, dude, if you can’t take someone disagreeing with you in whatever form, then don’t speak your opinion. And if you didn’t attend a boarding school to understand the dynamics of sex between secondary school students, then please don’t speak your opinion on that either.
Blackie
August 11, 09:14Where is Higwe? hope all is well with him!
Pink Panther
August 11, 11:22I can only assume he has decided to dedicate his time on BBNaija like he did the last time. I don’t know. I’m not his keeper.
Mandy
August 11, 08:23How is it that you’ve been a part of the KD community all these years and read all the stories that have been published here about sex in boarding schools, and not understand what that statement about consent among students meant? Seriously, sometimes, we need to not always jump on a soapbox. Sometimes, there’s sexual assault in boarding schools. That much was said in the article. And other times, these are students, both junior and senior, acting out their hormonal urges. THAT is what Pinky meant by consent. This entire exchange between you two needn’t have happened if you understood this simple fact. If you didn’t go to a boarding school, maybe ask those who did before you bring out your crucifixion torches.
Williams
August 11, 07:53I forgive you, Prince. The sparkle in your eyes and your smile radiates much more positive vibes that the thrash you spewed. Let’s just pretend you were in awkward position and a difficult conversation.
Pink Panther
August 11, 07:57Um, HE brought up the “difficult” conversation. Did you see anybody put a gun to his head and say, “Speak trash about homosexuality now or I shoot”?
lonz
August 11, 08:08We can see your hard on. Tuck it in
Mandy
August 11, 08:25????????????
This killed me. lonz, you bitch!
Loveland Seyram
August 11, 08:13He just don’t know what he is saying or maybe he was forced to have sex with a guy that’s why he is saying all this rubbish
Phyneasphuck
August 11, 08:26Well if two minors are involved in sexual activities in school who gives consent? This is something that actually needs discussion or I’d rather I’d need clafity.
Well truth is he made too much generalization and that is harmful. I’m one of those persons that was never assaulted, i had sexual encounters with young boys my age, older and also younger while we were all minors. I had my first penetrative encounter while less than 18 and it was i who actively seeked out my partners.
I always felt guilty for the two younger guys I was with while i was 12/13 and that’s one reason I hardly do younger guys.
But there’s a handful of guys who had these experiences in school with other guys and are today not into guys and see those times as just childish play and won’t indulge today.
What prince did with his assaulted analysis is rule out guys like me that knew of our sexuality early enough and were never assaulted or the guys that were assaulted or indulged and didn’t turn out gay.
Mandy
August 11, 08:27So the one opportunity you get to do something for your community on national television, Prince, you decide to do THIS???!!! This is very shameful. And the most galling part of this whole mess is the way he is speaking so “authoritatively”. His “I know what I’m talking about” attitude is what is going to imprint this message more on the minds of ignorant Nigerians. Such a shame.
Mitch
August 11, 08:31An idiot gay man!
What else is new?
Plis, NEXT!!!!!!
Olutayo
August 11, 08:34What disgusts me the most about this stunt Prince pulled is… I know his supporters and those thirsty for him are going to start saying that he was scared, he had to say what he said, he couldn’t afford to out himself on television… Well, REMEMBER that it was him who brought up the topic about homosexuality. Nobody forced him to. They weren’t even already talking about it. HE brought it up. And this makes it seem like a calculated move on his part to endear him to voting homophobes.
And THAT is disgusting!
Ejike
August 11, 08:38Very disgusting ???
Junior
August 11, 08:43This was not what he implied, I watched that particular scene, he was talking about how boys are also sexually assaulted yet no body tends to hear of it or consider It a problem too, then he stated how he was charged to uncover “homosexuals” in his high school as a cadet and that after talking with a lot of them he found that 60% of the boys had been assulted sexually by their Seniors and even mates, but pretend It never happened due to Toxic Masculinity
Pink Panther
August 11, 08:59That may not be what he implied. But that is the weight of what he said.
Lopez
August 11, 08:54“I flew into an outrage” where is the outrage?. And I went to a boarding right from js 1, so I know the dynamics. There are a lot of young people here, and you’re a role model here, if cracking nuts with a sledge is your way of doing things fine. Just know that lots of these teens are going to copy it.
Pink Panther
August 11, 08:58“Please contextualize that line before you fly into an outrage.”
THAT is what I said ooo! If you are going to quote me, at least quote me correctly. Jeez!
Let me just leave you to your feelings abeg. But just know that when you come and try to twist anything I’ve said, I WILL try to correct that impression. How you take my response is entirely up to you.
And PS: that part about being a role model? lol. You tried it, bruh.
Eric
August 11, 09:14Abegg, I just miss Eric serving me body and dick..
Rock
August 11, 17:55Which Eric?
Anoni
August 11, 09:17Maybe that was his own experience, I’m also on that table, was sexually abused by house boy from age 5 to 12 then went to the seminary (same sex) afterwards.. i kinda blame that experience that even pinky couldn’t get me to reason otherwise, then i came across guys that were neither abused or forced and across guys that were also molested that never liked it and didn’t turn out gay. I’m still learning and accepting myself too . I would have opined he kept away from any queer related or queer defaming discourse but shar he don talk am, let me just say he wanted to know their stance on homosexuality
Sterling
August 11, 09:28I have been looking at this guy and I know there is something fishy, well most of us outside tends to behave the same but I dont know why, look at what prince just said just to over up or hide behind the fence, well the community knows who is who
Emg
August 11, 09:48But why are we like this na didn’t see anything bad he said why can we safe us
Mafiaso
August 11, 12:04Prince Nelson just fall my hand, to think I have locked him in and support him actively. If you ever come across this post, just know that, Multichoice doesn’t care about your sexuality, homosexuality is not a crime in South Africa. In fact they are strongly against homophobic slurs. Prince, I will advice you thread softly.
Mannie
August 11, 12:30This generalisation is appalling. I have a male friend who was abused several times by his uncle and he’s as straight as a ruler.
Hippocampus
August 11, 12:48I don’t see anything wrong in what he said. He actually spoke the absolute truth. We just like to read meanings into things that aren’t there.
I have met people that have said exactly what he said :they are assaulting people because they were assaulted.
I do not think he implied that boys are homosexuals because they are assaulted. I think you implied that.
Also, there’s a line in this write up that doesn’t sit well with me… “what this viewpoint fails to take into consideration is that a lot of these boys already had the feeling that they were sexually different long before any senior student made any moves on them..”
First of all, how do you know that? Secondly, do you want to deny the fact that there are also a lot of boys who know that they are straight but still get assaulted? Also, it’s more likely that the senior student is unaware of the fact that the boy knows he’s different. He’s just assaulting him because he’s seen something (someone) he likes. Regardless of what I, or anyone else, feels, assault is assault.
Pink Panther
August 11, 13:12First of all, how do I know that boys already have the feeling that they were sexually different long before any senior student made any moves on them?
Lol. Well, how about me. Is my experience fact enough for you? You’re obviously new to this blog because there are lots of stories that attest to that. You’re also maybe not gay, because if you are, you’d know that lots of little boys get to understand that they’re different long before they went to boarding school.
Secondly, I believe the answer to this question lies in the part of the write-up where I said that sexual assault is a culture in secondary schools.
Hippocampus
August 11, 13:23Well, I’m not disputing that. I also knew who I was long before my first sexual encounter in secondary school.
But my point is that that statement shouldn’t even be there because it’s not about whether these boys know how they feel or not. So because I know that I’m gay, that means anybody who’s my senior can sexually assault me? The statement doesn’t take away the fact that these people are sexually assaulted.
And contrary to what you think, I am very gay. And I’ve been following your blog since 2013,i just have never commented. But I always always read all the posts and comments.
You are doing a great job. I miss those times with Keredim, Dennis Macaulay, Jarch and the rest. I dunno if they are still here or if they have changed their pseudonyms.
Kudos pink panther. I appreciate you.
slender
August 11, 13:45the point is he had that moment to paint us good but he chose to paint us as people that are sick, need help and need to be pitied, hell no i dont want anybody to pity me for being what i am maybe he did that “unintentionally” but he ought to know better and the fact is if you are straight, no baba alawo can make you gay not even a secondary sch sexual abuse and vise versa.
Audrey
August 11, 13:32I repeat Nelson is a goat and the smelling breed of the goat family. I spit on your face Nelson
Haunty
August 11, 14:09Abeg rest….i can smell ur lies
T-man
August 11, 18:25Lmao. Please, if you don’t have read receipts too, kindly desist from ruining this moment and taking someone’s story away.
Thanks
Audrey
August 11, 22:08Receive sense haunty and just so you know I don’t clout chase.
Queen Acapel
August 12, 00:18Homosexuality is simply same sex attraction. It’s inate and people as much as they have tried to do opposite sexes couldn’t cos that’s the way they are wired.
Some are bisexuals sexually attracted to both sexes. There are also Pansexual, Asexual,e.t.c The LGBTQI persons have been sexualized. Being a homosexual is different from the sex practices itself.Their lives does not begin and end with sex. Who you are, sexually attracted and sexual intercourse are diffrent things entirely..e.g doctors, lawyers, artists…There are so many homosexuals out there who are celibate and others who still have not engaged in sexual intercourse but they are still who they are…..people’s minds are so dirty that anytime anyone mentions homosexuals their minds just goes to sexual intercourse…..it’s so bad. Give them some credits joor. This guy needs to be taught sexuality education cos he has lots of myths and misconceptions about about homosexuals
Danté
August 12, 10:09Well this is upsetting.?
To think when a gay man(or bi, whatever way he swings) gets to talk about the topic of homosexuality (which he brought up… Like Honcu… Who the fuck asked you??) on national TV, he would rather damage the image of an already much despised sect with so much bravado whilst wallowing in sheer ignorance.
I’m so un-Staning… Fuck you??… NEXT!!!
Jinchuriki
August 12, 10:18Wow. That’s a lot of ignorance for a reality TV show.
Tristan
August 16, 21:05The first time Prince stepped on stage with that pink outfit, I literally thought it was a telltale of sth he really wanted to let us know.
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