Random Questions II

Random Questions II

IMG-20170429-WA002There are people who shrug off their breakup like it’s just another event in the life of a Nigerian. And then there are those who practically go through the valley of shadow of death just to get over an ended relationship.

Do share with us the experience of you getting over a broken heart.

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Post-deadline for the submission of entries, which was on December 30 2020, and after working through the acceptance of the entries whose submissions met the guidelines and whose storytelling followed


  1. WhoIsUgo
    May 08, 06:21 Reply

    I usually forget as soon as I find something interesting to do

      • DI-NAVY
        May 08, 07:27 Reply

        That i love the guy I am with doesn’t mean I will kill myself if we break up.. I crawl into my shells lot more faster more than I crawl out. Cancers are unpreductable boo.???. I easiky get a dustraction after a break up or wulk I say its lot more easier for me because na me de use my hand break my heart???

    • Francis
      May 08, 07:51 Reply

      I week and 4 days after so much investment?! People hard oh

      • DI-NAVY
        May 08, 08:20 Reply

        Yea oh Francis because before the break up. I must have been seeing the signs. I am that intuitive and sensitive .i give chances upon chances. While I give the chances, I must have cried a lot. The more you dwell on the investment, you will never move on. You end up losing yourself . I will cry oh. But after crying. Shikina. You become that one thing that just happened. Its that easy for me to move on becuase emotional wahala can drain me. I will not give it such chance .

        • Francis
          May 08, 08:24 Reply

          Phew! Now you’re making plenty sense. lol

  2. Johnny
    May 08, 06:37 Reply

    Heart of stone , only my crushes break my heart. I would have found another crush in 24 hours. I like dreamland bad bad

  3. Simba
    May 08, 07:02 Reply

    My 1st was about 4wks…and I have never been that vulnerable again.

  4. Delle
    May 08, 07:22 Reply

    Never been heart broken before.

  5. Sense8
    May 08, 07:23 Reply

    Heartbreak? Does it feel like you’ve been constantly punched in the gut, have a constant ache in your heart, not wanting to get out of bed ever again, cursing the other party when they come to pick their stuff? I wouldn’t know. I’m just mentioning all the things my exes told or did to me. Funny that we are still friends though. All but one.

  6. ambivalentone
    May 08, 07:30 Reply

    The rest of my life I think. Now he’s back, I can’t even trust he will be out the door in a flash well enough to be comfy in the ‘relationship’ anymore.

    • Bryce
      May 09, 00:06 Reply

      You are back with someone that broke your heart?.

      Somehow,somehow,you didn’t give the impression of someone who could settle in a relationship,not to talk of being heartbroken.
      That’s the impression I got of you,since I started reading kitodiaries.

      • Francis
        May 09, 07:25 Reply

        Bad beeches go off track once in a while na

  7. Francis
    May 08, 07:49 Reply

    Roughly 2 years but I’m happy it happened sha. Made me realize shit always happens. Just be ready for it and to move on as quickly as possible.

    • Johnny
      May 08, 08:17 Reply

      2 years. He has washed out your brain. No pun intended bro

      • Francis
        May 08, 08:28 Reply

        Let’s just say he ticked most of the boxes and I was already planning our future together in my head. He was everything I wanted and still want. Funny enough it was one of those relationships you just fall into without words. IH kept smiling at me from time to time but I chose to ignore hoping oga would receive sense one day……..

      • Pink Panther
        May 08, 08:29 Reply

        It’s not unbelievable. I went for a year and a half before I could say that I was over my ex. There is no prescribed period for the healing of a heart. And there’s no shame in taking your time to get over whoever meant that much to you.

  8. IBK
    May 08, 08:54 Reply

    Heartbreak abi… Longest was a couple of years and then some if I’m being honest. Most of what was left was anger though. Anger that he moved on so easy and acting like we never were a thing though we were together for over a year and me i was jejely miserable on my own before he came around acting like Mr perfect and making me think I’d reached my last bus stop.

    At least during that time I learnt the valuable lesson that my happiness rests largely in myself. So the next time I was heartbroken I was mostly over it in two weeks.

    • Pink Panther
      May 08, 09:32 Reply

      There’s nothing so painful as when in the event of a breakup, you see the ex acting like you didn’t mean that much to him when your own world has been destroyed. That’s gotta hurt.

      • Jo
        May 08, 11:43 Reply

        Ah…Sometimes it just makes it harder entering the next relationships. Imagine breaking up and the person doesn’t even behave like it meant something, it just breaks your heart all over again..

  9. Bain
    May 08, 09:13 Reply

    6months….I promised myself that it would never happen again.

  10. Colossus
    May 08, 11:27 Reply

    Two years I think but if I’m honest, way more than that. I couldn’t really know if I had gotten over him until he visited me about 3-4 years later and I offered him my living room couch to lay his head.
    I slept peacefully that night, didn’t long for him at all. The next morning, I dropped him off at his sister’s place, went about my work without so much as a thought of him. That was when I knew I had succeeded in flushing him out my system.

  11. Jo
    May 08, 11:46 Reply

    I’ve been heartbroken once. More like I broke my own heart. I timed it so it coincided with the christmas holidays so I wouldn’t see him in school and the festivities would help me forget. Little help it did. It took all of three months before my heart stopped doing me somehow.

  12. Omiete
    May 08, 12:31 Reply

    When you’re six years old and your lover outs you to your family simply telling them you seduced him simply because he is tired of you….. You can’t be heart broken again. So when the new guy dumps you, you’re like ‘okay!!!! So when is HTGAWM returning’

  13. Fauntleroy
    May 08, 12:50 Reply

    I never knew what pain really felt like, until i experienced love and lost it….years ago. That moment of my life was just pure catastrophe, and it didn’t help that i was in school then.
    Took me a year and six months, good friends, and three months supply of Blue Bunny to get over it.

  14. Omiete
    May 08, 13:04 Reply

    Lol!!! Yes PP Six, my libido came very early

  15. Lorde
    May 08, 14:37 Reply

    Sorry oo, I have a random question, why am I alwz turned on whenever I see two men fighting…i mean like full hardon on the road …

    • WhoIsUgo
      May 08, 15:07 Reply

      You need to ask a babalawo how to release yourself. I think ur under a spell

  16. DI-NAVY
    May 08, 15:06 Reply

    Please how do I get Daniel Kaluuya’s instagram handle. The actor in get out. Saw him on Mtv movie award red carpet. He is foiiinnnnneeeeeeeeeee. Melanin everywhere ?????????

    • Omiete
      May 08, 19:06 Reply

      Just type his name in Instagram and you will find him

  17. Vhar.
    May 08, 15:46 Reply

    Love? Heartbreak? What are they????

    • Bonaparte
      May 10, 17:47 Reply

      Lol yeah. Afterall you can’t get you’re heart broken if you never love so….

  18. Bryce
    May 09, 00:12 Reply


    Then I got things in hand and it never happened again.
    I see signs we’re heading for the rocks and can’t be salvaged……I walk

  19. Yazz Soltana
    May 09, 00:16 Reply

    Should I call it an heartbreak, just pining for someone that I knew will never love me , a straight friend, I’ve still never fully gotten over him…

  20. Gad
    May 10, 12:06 Reply

    Always having the consciousness that it’s in the nature of man to fail will help one recover faster from broken relationships. One shouldn’t expect much from others even while giving much. Such mindset will hardly get depressed.

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