Straight Man Talks About Why He Hooks Up With Guys – Even Though He’s Not Attracted To Men

Straight Man Talks About Why He Hooks Up With Guys – Even Though He’s Not Attracted To Men

We keep hearing stories about “straight” guys who experiment or just have fun with guys, because they’re curious. But this guy on Reddit says he’s not even attracted to guys – but he has sex with them anyway, because… he likes the intimacy.

“I’m not physically attracted to guys,” he writes, “but hook up with them because they are easier to have casual sex with and I love the intimacy.”

And he explains further:

“Even though I only see myself with a woman, I’ve hooked up with way more men just because I love the intimacy and because it’s so much easier. Whenever I get the urge for some intimacy or just plain sex, I’ll arrange to meet with a guy or just go to a bathhouse in order to hook up.

“I have no intentions of dating or many times, I don’t even really care what the guy looks like as long as he is clean and respectful.

“If I was only gay, it might be easier but I prefer women more than I ever do a man.”

What are your thoughts on this? Do you think he’ll “find out” one day that he is, actually, gay? Or maybe bisexual? Or is it possible to have casual sex – with men in this case – just because it’s… easy?

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  1. Lorenz Mac
    November 08, 06:08 Reply

    If you aak me he is in denial and he isbtrying to explain away his feelings

    • ambivalentone
      November 08, 06:19 Reply

      Seeing as its Reddit, the cyber-land of anonymity, I don’t know if he were only just confused and not in denial. I mean he has enough latitude to vent how he wants to, to no one who knows him.

      • Spectra
        November 08, 06:55 Reply

        Except when he’s not ready to embrace the truth in any form. That moment u tell urself d lie so many times that u can’t even separate it from the truth again. There’s an attraction, Biko!

      • bruno
        November 08, 07:21 Reply

        that’s not how denial works. if people can lie to themselves inside their own heads, they will also do it anonymously because they genuinely believe their own lies.

  2. bruno
    November 08, 07:28 Reply

    i did know a guy who used to say similar things… including the part about wishing he was actually gay because it would make things easier…
    eventually turned out he was as gay as the rest of us and was just having a very hard time accepting it… I’m tempted to reach similar conclusions here too.

  3. #Chestnut
    November 08, 09:29 Reply

    people will tell themselves anything…

  4. Delle
    November 08, 09:50 Reply

    You can’t love the intimacy and still claim to not feel anything.
    The height of confusion. People would do lots to subdue their gay side

  5. Khaleesi
    November 08, 10:48 Reply

    This is the most weird and confusing thing I’ve read all week! How can you enjoy intimacy with persons you’re not attracted to? Is that even a possibility? This is a brother who’s confusion has affected his self acceptance … A hot mess… #WetinConcernMe

  6. Promise4all
    November 08, 10:51 Reply

    He is just waiting for the bisexual spirit to call him. He hasn’t received the call clearly, someday he’ll have a threesome with his boyfriend & girlfriend and reddit us to confirm the calling of the spirit.

  7. peaches
    November 08, 13:57 Reply

    Ayam not evun hondastanding bikonu. All I see in all that is physics and no chemistry.

  8. .•*Sugaar.•*
    November 08, 15:52 Reply

    h̶̲̥̅̊a̶̲̥̅̊h̶̲̥̅̊a̶̲̥̅̊h̶̲̥̅̊àh̶̲̥̅̊aáh̶̲̥̅̊a̶̲̥̅̊a̶̲̥̅̊h̶̲̥̅̊a̶̲̥̅̊ Lwkmd… That guy is truly waiting for his call to the Kingdom.

    What I think about everything is, if you don’t like something, you’ll just hate everything about that thing… So, he only needs Some therapy if not he’s gon kill himself of something he don’t know.

  9. Mitch
    November 08, 17:58 Reply

    Fix this one, Jesus!

    This is beyond our power

  10. Bain
    November 08, 21:25 Reply

    OK lol….confused nigga…are you waiting for us to hand you a rainbow before ul realise your gay/bi…just accept yourself n be happy….that’s an easier route.

  11. KikiOpe
    December 13, 21:33 Reply

    Mbok! If this is his case, then I’m NOT gay o! I just love guys with nice phat asses, and great physiques.

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