What This Straight Man Who Does ‘Gay For Pay’ Porn Wants You To Know

What This Straight Man Who Does ‘Gay For Pay’ Porn Wants You To Know

The latest episode of MTV’s “True Life” tackles a complex topic: straight dudes who have sex with men for money.

Titled “True Life: I’m A Gay For Pay Pornstar,” the episode follows two straight men who struggle to balance getting paid to star in gay porn films with their lives as straight men with girlfriends.

In order to get a more nuanced understanding of the realities of this profession, The Huffington Post chatted with Ben, one of the performers featured in the episode, about his experiences as a “gay for pay” pornstar.

The Huffington Post: Why did you decide to do the show?

Ben: I decided to do the show for a number of reasons. The biggest reason was so when the time comes, I would want my kids to understand that what I’ve done for them says nothing negatively about me as their father. Secondly, my reason for doing this show was so that I can relieve myself of the weight and burden from keeping this a secret for so long.Vadim-black_640x345_acf_cropped

What would you say to someone who says you have to be gay (or can’t really be straight) to work in this profession?

Since this episode has aired, I’ve received a lot of hate because so many people have felt offended by what I do and that I do it as a straight guy. However, what I do sexually does not speak for my romantic preferences. Having sex with men does not speak for the love I have for my wife, romantically or sexually. My response to it all is we don’t need to constantly feel the need to label ourselves of our preferences, sexually or romantically, and even I myself am coming to terms with this realization day by day. Engaging with someone sexually is not always a representation of who we love or how we love. Love can charge you romantically and passionately, which is what I share with my wife, so naturally the same cannot be said for what I do and separate myself from on screen.

What do you want people to take away from the show?

I want people to understand that for some people, there are no limits to what you can do to provide for your kids. I also feel people should take away the unnecessary need to be placed under some kind of label for their sexual or their romantic preferences.

Check out the trailer below to see more from this episode of “True Life.”

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  1. ken
    December 20, 04:56 Reply

    Ok I was going to say something totally nasty about the 2faced 2timing sexually confused gay man living in denial in the deepest recesses of the closet.

    But then I mistakenly clicked play and, dayyum! That guy is soooo cute! Honestly am so happy he made the decision to do gay porn. Lemme quickly go search for his rumpy sessions…ciao ladies!

  2. Dennis Macaulay
    December 20, 05:13 Reply

    Why does this shock us? Aren’t there gay men who marry women and play straight man to the world but are still gay?

    Sexuality is not who you sleep with Bikonu! There are straight men that will bang the bejeus out of a man for some cash or job opportunities, some will even take on up the ass for some favors and still pull up their jeans and bounce away like nothing mega!

    Anyway I agree with Ken, dude is foine

    • ken
      December 20, 05:33 Reply

      Dennis dear, a gay man who marries a woman (probably out of pressure and what not) is different from a gay man who sucks cock, gets fucked and still claims to be straight.

      If you read his twitter comments from the link supplied by PP, you’ll be pissed. Referring to some other players as “bitchy gay queens” and “FAGS”! Just goes to show that not even gay pornstars are immune from homophobia and living in denial!

      • Dennis Macaulay
        December 20, 05:49 Reply

        And if I as a gay man decide to act straight porn nko? What difference does it make? I’m still gay AF!

        • ken
          December 20, 06:09 Reply

          Really??? Does that sound rational to u? Of all the jobs in the whole wide world, a gay man chooses to do str8 porn??? Pls where have u ever heard such biko

          But just for the sake of argument (however ridiculous it may sound) that a gay man chooses to do str8 porn. How does that translate to showing hatred for str8 men, abusing them and even threatening to shoot them with Ak rifles?

          Bro lets be realistic pls

          • Colossus
            December 20, 06:14 Reply

            Gay men do straight porn. That fact is already established.

            • ken
              December 20, 06:34 Reply

              Established on what planet?

              Any links?? Evidence to buttress ur point? No??

              And pls we are talking GAY men, dont come here to supply bisexual porn. Cos vadim never said he is bisexual. Strictly str8.

              • Pink Panther
                December 20, 06:56 Reply

                ken, the answer to your question is two words: Ace Rockwood. Gay man who switched to straight porn.

                • ken
                  December 20, 08:30 Reply

                  Em, PP thats not quite correct. Ace Rockwood did gay porn. John Johnson is doing straight porn. So we can safely say he is bi. And besides, I dont remember ace now claiming to be straight! So no, this doesnt apply.

  3. Delle
    December 20, 06:40 Reply

    First thing…THAT GUY IS SMOKING!!!
    Then…I don’t know how it’s done but I really can’t see someone who acted gay porn (and all it’s charade) and still call him straight. It’s all confusing to me and I know someone would say, ‘But it’s just porn, there are no emotional attachments’, but then again, to act even in porn there has to be a level of chemistry between (or amongst) the actors. Abeg, lemme not give myself brain damage trying to decipher how it’s done.

    OAN
    Why is it that most of these ‘straight’ porn actors always end up being the bottom in the copulation?

      • Delle
        December 20, 09:48 Reply

        I’m serious. The much I’ve seen though, the straight guys always end up getting dicked. Except of course, they may not be straight

    • Bobby
      December 20, 07:52 Reply

      I was jus about to ask same thing….very soon labels like “str8 bottom” would start surfacing during conversations.

  4. sinnex
    December 20, 08:51 Reply

    I know a gay guy who sleeps with old women for money and he is very good at it.

    So, why can’t a straight guy sleep with a guy for money?

    This is something we face daily in Nigeria. There are some people who can do anything for money, that doesn’t make them gay.

    People on this blog are funny sha. Sometimes I wonder if it is in the same Naija we live in.

    • Chizzie
      December 20, 09:39 Reply

      He’s probably bisexual, I don’t know if you’ve heard of that term before but they sleep with both sexes, most for free.

      Plus I don’t even understand why you’d know such a person. Where do you meet these ppl from? Is there like a third class citizens conference you guys attend?

      • Delle
        December 20, 09:50 Reply

        Oh Chizzie! Lawd, u mean…lol!

      • Pink Panther
        December 20, 13:04 Reply

        Third class citizens conference. Heheheee. Oh Chizzie. Don’t you have an off button?

  5. Mr. Fingers
    December 20, 09:58 Reply

    The thought of anyone having gay sex for pay just pisses me off. But if telling himself he is doing it just for the money makes him feel good about himself and helps him sleep well at night, that’s good for him.

  6. JustJames
    December 20, 10:01 Reply

    Show of hands of you agree that having sex with a woman doesn’t make you straight.. ???

    I’m pretty sure the same things can be said for men having sex with men.

    Last last he is bi.

    Or maybe he is just selling his market. Lots of people love when a “straight guy” has gay sex. Hmmmm.

  7. GAG
    December 20, 13:16 Reply

    Castro and Acerockwood are now starring in straight porn now, claiming they weren’t gay. But I know some straight guy that won’t have a boner at the sight of a man or a man trying to please them sexually. Pls visit justgagging.blogspot.com

  8. SCR
    December 23, 05:32 Reply

    Can you guys just shut it already! There’s tons of Nigeria gay men I see getting married just to keep up appearances and they have kids (which means they’re getting some). We go against the arguments againt labeling if we now start criticizing a guy who says he’s straight and is cashing in on you perverted ways (the need for porn).

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