Date Rape? A Violated Bottom Writes

Date Rape? A Violated Bottom Writes

I agreed to meet John at his friend’s place.  It was somewhat of a distance from my place but was a pretty direct route.

John was someone I had met briefly on Grindr, so yes, this was going to be a hook up. His friend’s place was ideal because there was privacy plus the faintest possibility of a threesome.

I finally got to the place on the rainy and wet evening. John was slightly better than his pictures and we soon established a rapport in the small but cozy one bedroom apartment that belonged to his friend. I noticed that his friend was awfully busy with something, so busy in fact that I still hadn’t met him after an hour of being in his place. I could tell he was probably in the bathroom, judging from all the noise coming from there

I was too lost in my conversation with John however to bother. The more I spoke with him, the more I began to see him as a friend. I wasn’t intensely attracted to him. Not that he was bad looking; the entire setup simply began to feel more like an actual kiki than a hookup. I didn’t see myself having sex with him. At some point, he leaned forward to kiss me. It was intrusive and clumsy, and I was glad when it was over. But I found myself in an awkward spot of having to avoid having sex with him, when from all indications, he seemed like he wanted to. Plus there was the teeny-weensy fact that I had come with my jockstrap on. And nothing screams “I came here to fuck” than a Bottom wearing a jockstrap on a hookup.

I was lost in my thoughts when his friend finally came out from wherever he was into the tiny living room to meet us. And oh-my-goodness, what a sight he was! He was shirtless, average-height with beautiful chocolate skin and well groomed facial hair; he had a tattoo on his chest, it looked cheap and locally done, still it contrasted perfectly with his bare toned chest. He was undeniably handsome.

I quickly glanced away to avoid staring for too long, and said a brief good evening. He replied with a smile. Let’s call him Umar.

Now it’s my thing to always feign indifference regardless of how much my punaynay aches for a man, and that was precisely what I did. Umar soon decided to fix us dinner. He asked if I was hungry (I always am); something in the way I said I was hungry made him laugh and then he proceeded to mimic the tone of my voice. Was that a hint of possible interest?

There were more hints to come. He complimented my skin complexion (new cream is working, fam), and then he mentioned how he really loves Igbo guys a lot (I happen to be Biafran). He sat down next to me while I ate, which I didn’t like because then I had to form, when in reality I wanted to lick my plate clean.

It was getting pretty late. John had showered and was complaining about a headache he’d suddenly developed. He decided he was going to pass the night in the parlour. Perhaps he could tell I wasn’t keen on sex with him. I was relieved as I was at that point really sleepy; my plan was to sleep on the couch and head home first thing the next morning. But as is customary with me, there was no way I could sleep without having my bath.

I asked Umar for a towel and surreptitiously proceeded to undress with the towel still on; I didn’t want to reveal the jockstrap. I felt foolish for having it on now. I headed to the shower and had just taken the towel off when Umar walked in. There was a mischievous glint in his eyes. He quickly proceeded to touch me, commenting on how good my body was and how light-skinned I was. Yes, Umar is hot and I was attracted to him, but I felt invaded and vulnerable in a way. I really just wanted to take a shower and sleep.

When he saw the jockstrap I had on, he went slightly mad for a second. What was initially playful fondling become rough dry-humping. I told him I wanted to shower real quick, and that I would join him later. I did want to have sex with him, but certainly not with the way he was going about it.

I showered, ensuring I took all my time. I stepped out and there he was, waiting for me in his room. He had locked the door connecting it to the living room. And he was naked. His dick looked like an angry, black serpent eager to release its venom. He dragged me to the bed and started dry-humping my ass in a vicious and lust-filled rage. He was eager, forceful and – I soon realised – much stronger than I thought he was.  He looked like a man possessed.  Foreplay was rushed and brief.  His main aim was penetration.  To my horror and utter disgust, I saw him bring out a bottle of Olive Oil – yes! The same type they use as Anointing Oil. He clearly intended to use that as lubrication.

Now I know I have mentioned in the comments section here a while ago that a Top should be responsible for lube.  But I take that back. It always pays for a Bottom to have his own – tried and tested, really good, and non-generic lube. Thankfully I had mine with me at the time. I was able to shake Umar off from his lust-filled possession and handed him the lube I came with. To my dismay, I realised I hadn’t come with any condoms. It was my intent to buy along the way but I completely forgot. I asked him if he had, and he said he didn’t.

John by this time was fast asleep, and it was too late in the night to go get any. I decided there was no way in hell we were going to fuck without a condom. At first he surprisingly took it fine. Then he began pleading with me to let us have sex, that he wouldn’t cum inside me, that it was going to be just the tip. He begged, really begged the more I refused. I told him we could fix another day or try in the morning when the shops were open. He pleaded that he had to cum that night or he wouldn’t be able to sleep. I felt bad for him but maintained that I wasn’t going to let him penetrate me without a condom.

Finally we both reached a compromise. He would dry-hump my ass till he cums, and first thing in the morning, we’d get condoms for proper sex.

He proceeded to apply a copious amount of lube on my ass, and the non-penetrative humping began. I really just wanted it to be over, as I was sleepy at that point.

Suddenly I noticed his dick savagely digging further in, trying to find an entrance. What was going on?  This wasn’t part of the plan. I protested and tried to shove him off, but he proved to be stronger than me, and held me down to the bed. I cussed at him and asked him to stop. He said he wasn’t going to cum inside me, that he was clean and safe, that there was nothing to worry about, and that I should stop acting like I didn’t want it. That part made me very angry and a small scuffle ensured. My plan was to push him off and run to the bathroom and scream rape. Umar however proved to be a formidable match, a sadistic twisted fuck. If anything, the scuffle seemed to excite him. He gave a guttural, impish laugh – that still gives me goose bumps when I remember it – and with one shove, he finally found his way in. It surprisingly wasn’t painful, thanks in part to the good lube (Lubrica Gel, I recommend!).

Just then, I remembered the words of my best friend and grand whore; he’d said that the best defense against rape is to enjoy it. And this was what I decided to do. I pleaded with Umar not to cum inside me at least. He said he wouldn’t, and then he began to rape-fuck me without much resistance from me. At first, I was livid, but soon I began to enjoy it. His strokes were extremely eager. Each one was deeper than the previous. Deeper and deeper each went like he was digging for gold. I didn’t want to moan so as not to give him validation for what was essentially him raping me, but the more he thrust, the more my restraint slipped, and the more audible my moans became. Umar was completely in charge in bed; he twisted, carried and lifted my body like it was paper, bending it and molding it to fit his perverted needs.  The sex bordered on sadistic.  True to his words, he didn’t cum inside me. He released a very hot (it felt like hot water) truckload of cum all over my ass and back.

I quickly ran into the bathroom when it was over to shower. I didn’t want to think about it.  After bathing, he apologized profusely, that what he’d done was unlike him. He wanted us to start a fresh.

When I got home the following morning, a message popped into my phone from him. It read: Can we see this weekend?

The slutty side of me wouldn’t mind being date-raped again – or simply properly fucked this time. But the reasonable side of me is angry at the audacity of such a horny beast, and also worried about having and STD.

And so I left the message unanswered.

Date rape is real, my people.

Written by Chizzie

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  1. Mandy
    June 01, 05:50 Reply

    Can I get Umar’s contact please? 🙂

    • KingBey
      June 01, 05:52 Reply

      Will he agree to give you? He ain’t done enjoying the rape. LMAO

      • Mandy
        June 01, 06:09 Reply

        Lmao! You’re such a mess, Kingbey

  2. KingBey
    June 01, 05:51 Reply

    *rolls my eyes from Istanbul to Ikeja* And why do I have this feeling this same guy has been fucking you since then? Rape indeed….yeah right.

  3. DI-NAVY
    June 01, 06:06 Reply

    “Let me use your laps, I won’t enter you”, that’s the line most people use. Glad you enjoyed it anyways.lol

    • ambivalentone
      June 01, 06:47 Reply

      And that’s how we get into trouble. The slightest hint ur resistance is breaking, they hone in like dogs on a hunt.

  4. Ringlana
    June 01, 06:33 Reply

    Funny tin about it is..just the tip I wont enter,swthrt to me No Condom No sex,since you need to cum kindly help him to masturbate . thank heaven you didn’t drift away with the lust the he cum in you ,Bik tell me more about your sexcapade.??

  5. Keredim
    June 01, 06:59 Reply

    “It surprisingly wasn’t painful, thanks in part to the good lube (Lubrica Gel, I recommend!)”

    Bitch please, your arsehole is as slack as a vagina after the 10th Childbirth.

    So you are back to doing Nigeria men again on the sly?

    Please google PEP. (Unless the horse has already bolted)

    ??????

  6. Keredim
    June 01, 07:07 Reply

    Oh and for the record, this is not “date-rape”???

    It is a re-enactment of a scene in an old porn film called “Debbie Does Dallas” or in this case “Chizzie does Alaba”

    ??????

  7. bruno
    June 01, 07:21 Reply

    it’s a good idea to take your own condoms along with your lube for a hook-up in the future.

    we live in a society where talks about consent and any meaningful conversation about sex for that matter isn’t held. something as simple as “no means no” is a foreign concept to a lot of men. it is no surprise that this kind of things happens pretty frequently. the first time a man tried to rape me, I was 17. I was lucky to have escaped. it obviously wasn’t the last time either.

    gay rapists are also especially emboldened by the fact that there is like a 100 per cent chance that they will get away with it. people turn into monsters when there are no consequences for their actions.

    what’s up with that headline though? identifying someone by their sex roles seems somehow… reductive? I think “Date Rape? A Violated Gay Man Writes ” is in much better taste.

    • Pink Panther
      June 01, 09:06 Reply

      The title is all Chizzie. You can direct your indignation to him. 🙂

      • bruno
        June 01, 10:32 Reply

        lol. “indignation” is a tad hyperbolic. it’s just a comment.

        it wasn’t actually directed at you but at whoever came up with it. but now that you mention it, you are the editor, aren’t you? so some of the responsibility lies with you too ?

  8. Andy blueheart
    June 01, 07:46 Reply

    Lol… Mmm date rape? Ok o..
    But Nna, I think you wanted the sex, kwo eziokwu, because if you didn’t want it, you could have protested and called for your friend who you said was sleeping in the parlor or better still you could have masturbated the dragon. But instead, his hot body and tattoo took you and swept you away.
    And he entered with one shove, mmmm you are so powerful!
    Atleast you enjoyed it.
    Pressuring someone for a YES when they already said NO is very very irresponsible.

  9. Theo
    June 01, 07:58 Reply

    We didn’t get the part where you 2 exchanged contacts.

    • emperor
      June 01, 12:07 Reply

      Bruh, help me ask oooo…I thought I was d only one who noticed dat part

  10. KryxxX
    June 01, 08:02 Reply

    “Lets just cuddle…..”

    “Lemme use the laps…..”

    “Lemme put the tip. Just d tip nau….”

    Next thing you know you r wondering what the eggs and pubes r doing inside you! Inukwa just tip is now the whole shaft nd more! You almost taste it in your mouth! Mschtewwwwwww!

    You begin to wonder if you did wrong by coming to visit. They blackmail you so fast your head spins! If you dont cum, you can’t sleep? Really? They beg like they r about dying! Give them d go ahead and watch your ass turn to shredded veggies! Linus Omengboji Mba! Using lie to tie gele and sew fila! Tufiakwa!

    That pepperspray thing Chizzie was talking about, needs to come in handy soon! Especially for those ones who want sex but have no condoms! Untimely death is not my portion! IJN!

  11. Kenny
    June 01, 09:37 Reply

    This wasn’t rape dear. You could have left before it got late especially when the guy you went to see decided to sleep on the couch. You didn’t want to get fucked yet you stripped and went to have your bath? At least you enjoyed it…. Whatever it was

  12. Oturugbeke!
    June 01, 09:46 Reply

    Abeg leave matter for Matthias, Chizzie, with that your thick big boned frame you want us to believe you were overpowered by a muscular midget? Come on now guy, it even appeared you wanted the dicking more than he did, just putting up a feeble resistance. You better be cconcerned about STDs… If he had it with you raw… he must be doing it same way with a lot of other peeps… I would be so worried to death right now if I were you.

    • KryxxX
      June 01, 10:47 Reply

      B4 you burn him down, just know that sometimes a big frame is just that “a big frame” and nothing more. One who is stronger is definitely stronger irrespective of size or whatever.

  13. Magdiva
    June 01, 09:53 Reply

    Hmmm…. I’m not sure how I feel about this and the way “rape” is being trivialised

  14. sucrescalada
    June 01, 09:54 Reply

    With each stroke it got deeper! U surely enjoyed Ur self nna! That ain’t no rape!!! At all…

  15. Santa Diaba
    June 01, 10:08 Reply

    The one that is bothering me is the term “Biafran”. My dear, Biafra doesn’t exist, and for it to exist a lot of people will have to die. Please civil war is not a joke. The people that survived the last one will explain better.

  16. Queen Blue Fox
    June 01, 10:21 Reply

    first things first, if I don’t wanna have sex with you and I sense something awry? I ain’t pulling off any part of my clothes, I ain’t eating, drinking or smoking shit u give me. After someone attempted to rape me and I escaped that, the fear of that ever happening again has made me wiser

    • Brian Collins
      June 02, 19:54 Reply

      This right here is the real deal. Isn’t it convenient that you don’t really wanna have sex with someone and are comfortable with taking a bath – Naked – in their house. When I was in the same situation a long time ago, I truly did not eat or drink or take off my socks. Only my shoe made the cut. And sumborri was still trying to finger me sef. Mtcheeew

  17. Khaleesi
    June 01, 10:39 Reply

    Chizzie dear, in that quiet whispery tiny corner of your mind you wanted to fuck that top and that’s exactly what u did. Doctors in the house, isnt it possible to get infected with STDs even by pre-cum, i.e even if the top doesnt cum inside, the tiny pre-cum discharges that occur all thru sex before ejaculation, are capable of infecting … biko educate me …

  18. chuck
    June 01, 12:16 Reply

    That Umar is a danger to everybody. Raping people raw. It’s a pity your reaction to him might make him think he can continue that behavior.

    Can he be exposed and shamed? Rape/ raw unconsensual sex is another form of kito.

  19. Chizzie
    June 01, 13:28 Reply

    . For those having issues with how this post was titled. The title is just as it is intended to be. I chose to emphasis the role ( Bottom) cause inasmuch as rape can affect anyone regardless of what role, Bottoms are most affected by it. Simply because in cases like these, Tops don’t seem to have any form of self restraint or control whatsoever.

    Which brings me to the main issue at hand. Yes, rape is a word that shouldn’t be used flippantly . But the situation would have escalated into actual rape itself had I been more adamant. The puzzling thing is, why can’t Tops take NO for an answer? What is in you Tops that you cannot control your urges in the bedroom? Its a situation I’ve been faced with before and regardless of what ever excuse I use ( HIV, un-douched ass) it never makes a difference.

    I did enjoy the sex but the fact still remains that the penetrative aspect of it wasn’t consensual . And I only had to comply, seeing as it is not wise to struggle when one is having any form of anal sex. All you do is further facilitate your chances of getting an STD by causing injury and pain to yourself.

    About getting an STD, I am not worried. Not only are the odds of that slimmer because he didn’t cum inside of me, but as our daddy in the lord Keredim pointed out, there’s this little thing called PEP. Regardless, of whatever the outcome, I am still not bothered. The Chizzie of 2014 is not the Chizzie of 2016., ?.

    Alright carry on with the comments. Taiinz

    • Kenny
      June 01, 14:17 Reply

      My my! I like 2016’s Chizzie

    • Keredim
      June 01, 16:10 Reply

      I am glad you went some way in admitting that you were not raped and that the title was just for effect.?

      Regarding your issue about tops not taking NO for an answer? I think you mean “less discerning” Tops.

      Now if you were in the habit of hooking up with discerning classy tops (like you claimed to do in 2014) let’s face it, the way you threw yourself at Umar, they wouldn’t have touched you with a barge pole..

      But well done for putting yourself at “considerable”! risk to “research” this story.
      Your Pulitzer prize yet awaits you.??

      • Chizzie
        June 01, 16:18 Reply

        Lol someone is itching for drama. I’m making a lot of money today, so I’m in a happy mood. ?.

        But I do hope you grow up eventually

        • Keredim
          June 01, 16:24 Reply

          Ah thank God.????

          You have learned from past mistakes..

          It is now “Money for hand, back for ground” ???

          • Chizzie
            June 01, 16:33 Reply

            Yes o. I learn fast in my 20s so I don’t end up a fool at 40..or is it 50? ?

            • Keredim
              June 01, 16:58 Reply

              53 actually dear…

              Hardly any wear and tear despite high-mileage, complete with original parts and colour…

              Which is a lot more than can be said for you..☺️

              • Chizzie
                June 01, 17:24 Reply

                Oh wow so we have a 53 year old man with Peter Pan Complex issues and the thinking faculty of a 10 year old with congenital disabilities.

                Your situation seems dire but I serve a living God, so there might be hope for you.
                A fool at 53 is not a fool forever in God’s eyes.

                • keredim
                  June 01, 18:03 Reply

                  “….the thinking faculty of a 10 year old with congenital disabilities”

                  Wow!!

                  Well you would know, seeing that you have started exhibiting symptoms of brain damage (delusions of grandeur) due to excessive Hydroquinone use.

              • IBK
                June 01, 17:59 Reply

                Isn’t it slut shaming to deride a bottom cause he can easily accommodate dick easily? Assuming you’re taking a jab at the fact that he didn’t feel pain upon initial entry.

                • keredim
                  June 01, 18:15 Reply

                  I don’t know @ IBK.

                  “Sluttiness is in the eye of the beholder”

                  Go figure

                  • Chizzie
                    June 01, 19:22 Reply

                    Lol Daddy KD. Take your Ls like a champ and be gone with your childish antics. Tmr is another day, and another opportunity to peel back another onion layer of immaturity you seem to be so full of. Thanks for showing us once again that age and wisdom don’t necessarily go hand in hand.

                    Sleep well, take your calcium pills and review your nursing home options. Cause guess who would be 60 in 2023? ??.

                    OAN has anyone listened to 7 Years by Lukas Graham? ?

  20. Simba
    June 01, 14:48 Reply

    U don’t get infected with STI by the CUM… It’s only HIV u can get thru that even with just precum. Chizzle I assume ur on PrEP prior to the rape or pep after the rape..

    • Truth
      June 01, 14:59 Reply

      So which part of raw anal sex gets you infected with STI?

      • Dimkpa
        June 01, 18:30 Reply

        Gonorrhoea, Chlamydia and syphilis can be transmitted by sexual contact and do not necessarily require evacuation. HIV is transmitted by semen and the risk is highest when ejaculation into the rectum occurs during unprotected intercourse.

  21. Delle
    June 01, 18:54 Reply

    Umm…I don’t know if I should be sympathetic cos hunnay, it seems you actually dug the whole thing. You liking it, no matter what the prelude to the sex was, takes the ‘rape’ away. You weren’t raped, you were fucked in a way you wouldn’t necessarily recommend.

    The part of “… and with one shove, he finally found his way in. It surprisingly wasn’t painful, thanks in part to the good lube (Lubrica Gel, I recommend!)”…
    LOL! Sweetheart, it isn’t the gel. Let’s just say you see dicks VERY often.

    I love the story twist though. Not cliche.

  22. sasha
    June 01, 20:42 Reply

    Found this blog few weeks ago and have been a silent reader since then. Nice blog, but the drama is a bit too much, make una calm down.

    First time commenter here

  23. Dickson Clement
    June 01, 21:21 Reply

    Firstly, this is rape! Even if Umar was already fucking him and at some point he withdrew consent yet Umar continued. It is still rape! But not struggling kind of makes it look like u gave consent tho!

    Secondly, you should never put yourself in harms way! I don’t think we shd encourage unprotected sexual intercourse. Seeing tell tale signs of impending danger should alert you to flee or to take cover.

    Sleeping over at places you have not deemed safe should be avoided. That includes inviting pple u have not deemed sane to ur apartment!

    STI’s can be transmitted even when the ejaculate was spilled outside the anus! So wear a condom!

    Happy New month to all the wonderful People here! This is my month and am feeling particularly energetic!
    Let’s be safe, drink more water, exercise your body, eat healthy food and read a book!

  24. pagxy
    June 01, 22:48 Reply

    @sasha you will get used to it gay men have plenty drama lol.

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