56 responses

  1. Mandy
    November 1, 2016

    The thing you should understand, Delle, is this: unlike other African nations pushing forward in their LGBT rights activism, we are much to content with our sad state here in Nigeria. Much too cowardly. Much too lacking in courage to challenge the status quo. Much too comfortable with how bad things are to try to make for a difference. Much too comfy in our closets to break down the barriers holding us back.
    We are, in a word, weak! In Nigeria. Basically suffering and smiling, and loving it somehow.
    And that is why gay men will keep on marrying women, and closeted men will mostly keep on staying closeted. It’s like an encoded DNA in the average Nigerian, to accept his lot in life concerning any situation that seems indomitable. I mean, look at Duke. No offense. He’s in the US of A, the Land of the Free, and still reasons like the closeted Nigerian in Nigeria. As Nigerians, we are good at taking the route of least resistance in the face of troubles.
    It’s sad but its true.

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    • Delle
      November 1, 2016

      “It’s sad but it’s true”

      Word!

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  2. esv.jay
    November 1, 2016

    I will save this for my afternoon nap. thanks

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    • Mandy
      November 1, 2016

      You’re trying too hard to be petty, esv.jay. Give it a rest sometimes. Chizzie already has the patent on KD bitchery.

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  3. ambivalentone
    November 1, 2016

    He teetered. Oh boy, did he teeter on the brink.😥😥😱😱

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  4. pete
    November 1, 2016

    Delle, you met and slept with a 40-something year old man and it never crossed your mind that he could be married seeing your aversion to MGMs (how many men of such age are single? question for another day).
    Irrespective of the strides made in the equality fight,gay people will always marry. It may or may not set the battle back but it’s not the main factor,try religion for starters.

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    • Pink Panther
      November 1, 2016

      Uh Pete, age is not a prescription of marital status. Especially not these days anymore. More and more single people are to be found amongst middle-aged people.

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      • pete
        November 1, 2016

        They’re still in the minority. I was asking based on his stated aversion to MGMs. Shouldn’t that be amongst the first things he’ll like to find out?

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      • Delle
        November 1, 2016

        Like Pink said, age isn’t a prerequisite for marriage.
        I don’t go asking people if they are married and I didn’t ask for his age (mind you), that was an estimation based on his physical appearance which could have been wrong or right.

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  5. Chandler B.
    November 1, 2016

    Other than the fact that he wasn’t upfront and honest to you about his marital status I don’t see what gives anyone the right to INTERROGATE someone, and in such accusatory and judgemental tone, about the choices he made in his life. He owed you nothing. Maybe an apology but not an explanation.

    It’s not like you wanted anything more from him other than his ‘driller’. It’s not like you saw the possibility both of you walking down the aisle but the presence of a wife is blocking that.

    And this,
    “It is the fact that deceit seems to be a word synonymous with them. No one is perfect, yes, but no one should consciously work in the path of imperfection.”

    He and you are from different generations. As hard as things may be today for the LGBT community here in Nigeria they were worse in his time. So maybe he had to marry then. So now that we are ‘trying to champion the gay cause’ he should leave his wife and kids?
    Okay, maybe he shouldn’t leave his family. He should just stop sleeping with boys, right? If only there was a switch. If only being married cures one of ever lusting after the male form.
    He should control himself, right? Its a choice to cheat? Exactly what the straight man says about your nature that he doesn’t understand. That its a choice to want to fuck boys.

    Fight your own battles. If the deceit pain you too much go and out him to his wife and make the world a better place.

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    • Mandy
      November 1, 2016

      Wow. This is a sound retort. Chandler, I didn’t know you had it in you. 😀

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      • Chandler B.
        November 1, 2016

        Lol…☺
        Well, I don’t think anything about everything I have in me can be glimpsed from my irregular comments here.
        As Peak (milk) reminds us all… “It’s in you!”

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    • YOU-KNOW-WHO
      November 1, 2016

      Where can I kiss you? Chandler B.

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    • Delle
      November 1, 2016

      Okay so aside a prospective union with a man, it’s totally cool to be deceived by him?😕
      And there’s a clear difference between one being judgemental and venting out of genuine anger.

      Now Chandler, the points you raised in the last part of your comment, do they strike you as things that should be encouraged?
      “if only marriage cures the lust for boys”
      “it’s a choice to cheat? ”
      Dang!

      From these two statements, you clearly sanction all the negatives. And yes, unless your dick overrides your brains, it’s a choice to cheat!

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    • Brian Collins
      November 2, 2016

      Max or is it Truth, you should relinquish your pseudonym to ChandlerB

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  6. Chizzie
    November 1, 2016

    You shagged someone for the first time and you want them to tell their wife? Cause you guys are a couple in love, destined for greatness, infact Beyoncé wrote that Love Drought song for you two.

    Hands down the most senseless thing I have ever come across so far this year.

    What in heaven’s is the big deal in having sex with a MGM that would warrant the lecture you gave him and are giving us. ? Like I pointed earlier and it’s even more apparent now, you are so used to getting little to no attention from guys, that you make a fuss out of the littlelest of things.

    Look, in as much as I’m not keenest on meeting MGM. In the event dt it happens and I do shag them, u can bet I won’t tell them to tell thier wives, or guilt trip them, cause I know unfortunately thats how it works here and not everyone is brave enough to withstand the pressures of society.

    I do hope you receive some much needed sense Delle before the year runs out.

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    • Mandy
      November 1, 2016

      😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Chizzie has found a new reason to live.
      Bobrisky, you see what yaf cause.

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    • Delle
      November 1, 2016

      Oh God Chizzie, you are so dumb, I literally feel sorry for your brain.

      Firstly, I never said I told his wife or even plan on doing that (I wonder if you think I’m as horribly jobless as you who has taken time out to stalk all KDians when in truth, you should be moving around for brain donations).
      As for getting little or no attention from guys…i’ve got to laugh at this juncture😂😂😂😂😂😂
      Sweetheart, I’m everything you are not. I’m not fat and slobbish-looking, definitely not an ugly swine and not a brainless toad whose day job is carrying the handbag of an equally Daft and bleached mongrel.

      Go get a life and while doing that, beg your bestie for a little money for cosmetic surgery. It’s about time we do something about that vacuum-cleaner you call nose.👣👣👣👣👣👣👣👣

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      • Orlando
        November 1, 2016

        This was a complete and utter borefest.whoever wrote this is just trying too hard. This post made no sense at all! And to think you had to divide this piece of crap into two! I truly doubt the writer’s sanity though…

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      • Mandy
        November 1, 2016

        Everyone wants to be a bitch these days, even at the risk of exposing how ignorant they are. Madam Orlando, take several seats. You may disagree with Delle’s point of view, but he made salient points. Perhaps it’s your brain that’s the crap that can’t take in his truth.
        Haba! Busybody Chizzie-wannabes everywia.

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      • Jide
        November 1, 2016

        Everybody that tries to be bitchy is a chizzie-wannabe?

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      • posh666
        November 1, 2016

        Hahaha Lobatan! Jesu Kristi who knew Delle was such a bitch?

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      • ambivalentone
        November 1, 2016

        😱😱💩👍hot mess ooo

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  7. McDuke
    November 1, 2016

    Voice of “Wives of the MGM” 😥😥😥

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  8. Tiercel de Claron
    November 1, 2016

    Getting married is a form of closet.
    For closeted guys to now get on a limping horse n pontificate about how bad the other ‘closet’ is,how deceitful those that dwell therein are,really annoys me.
    Such hypocrisy,but I’ll hold my piece.

    And before any resident idiot would throw stones,i’m unmarried n staying that way

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    • Pink Panther
      November 1, 2016

      This is you holding your piece? 🙂

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      • Tiercel de Claron
        November 1, 2016

        I could have said more and you know it.
        BTW,that should have been peace.That autocorrect bitch at it again.

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      • Tiercel de Claron
        November 1, 2016

        P,kindly take down that foolishness of a reply below.

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    • Delle
      November 1, 2016

      Oh shut your borehole up. I wonder who you think is in the closet with you. Sigh.
      Some gay men were born without closets.

      As for being unmarried, no one cares. Definitely not me.
      So you can as well get married, you still would not qualify to be an MGM. Maybe the ones for married and animals though.*shrugs*

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      • ambivalentone
        November 1, 2016

        😂😂😂He still didn’t get it. Thats what u get rolling with idiots. Get em gurl

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  9. Bain
    November 1, 2016

    no offence but this is too bogus ….what?…he told you he is married after shagging u?..ehn so?….why give urself unnecessary headache on top his matter?…. he not even fine sef..is he rich?…see delle…telling him all you told him was uncalled for!…the man case is just like bubble over pin…it will soon burst.

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    • Delle
      November 1, 2016

      My dear, there are things one does in the heat of the moment. Nothing more than that.
      This story isn’t supposed to have been told but I had to show why this is my stance on the MGM issue. It’s like a prelude to my take.

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  10. posh6666
    November 1, 2016

    Honestly Delle u know i’m ur fan but you could have spared us this particular post.

    I really don’t get why he had to tell you he was married,nor do I see any big deal in it that he’s married.

    Like pls how does that affect your own life in anyway?or are you that nice that you are feeling sad for the wife? Its not like he proposed to you to become his boyfriend or anything yet you are catching feelings like this?even if he did sef I really don’t see any bigdeal in it.

    That’s his wife and those are his kids.Either by choice or circumstance he’s married so cos of that he should never sleep with a boy again? Abeg am tired sef!

    Delle abeg rest! it’s not that serious and stop being overtly dramatic.Who says married men shouldn’t sleep with boys? To me its fine if you were a lady and you feel bad that you don’t want to break his home.But in your case that rule doesn’t apply…Life is too short,stop reading unnecessary meanings and enjoy the sex if its good while it lasts.

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    • Delle
      November 1, 2016

      Hian! Posh, so it’s a bad thing if I have a conscience again?

      Overly dramatic? Haha you should see me in person. Life without drama is pathetic.

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      • posh666
        November 1, 2016

        Having conscience for the right reasons is good but like I clearly explained in this scenario it’s so unnecessary..You really need to let loose and enjoy urself you haven’t done anything wrong.You aren’t hurting the woman or her kids in anyway,daddy isn’t dumping them to marry you or anything.

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      • Mandy
        November 1, 2016

        I understand where you’re coming from, posh, and I’m not one to bash MGM, but when you say ‘You aren’t hurting the woman or her kids in anyway,daddy isn’t dumping them to marry you or anything.’, it’s not as simplistic as that. Of course Delle isn’t at fault here. But however you paint it, the woman and kids are getting hurt.

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      • posh666
        November 1, 2016

        Then dear Mandy it’s Daddy who is hurting them as such Delle should learn not to worry himself over such issues.If the sex is good have fun and move on.

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  11. ambivalentone
    November 1, 2016

    Isn’t it sad (or convenient 💅💅) that Pinky’s bandwidth was exceeded just after that Godswill’s post on Sunday😔😔 E don clear🚶🚶

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    • Pink Panther
      November 1, 2016

      Sad? Convenient? What conspiracy theories are whirling around in that head of yours?

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  12. YOU-KNOW-WHO
    November 1, 2016

    Truth is some people already spoke my mind, so not much to say.

    However, let me just state that this post doesn’t hold any credibility to me considering its coming from an Anti-MGM front runner. I stated in the previous post that am not sure this whole event actually happened. It just felt like a story someone came up with to try to win an argument.

    Considering how you are anti MGM it’s a real surprise you went down with a 40 something year old man without actually trying to know his marital status. Hoe much?

    You further confirmed my suspicion of this fabricated post and turn of event when you decided to end it with a sermon-like reprimand against MGM.

    If I were straight what I could take from your story is this:

    1. You are gay
    2. You are a Hoe

    But who am I to judge. It’s your life and no one tells you how to live it. So why are you trying to enforce your convictions of rights and wrongs on someone else. This MGM issue is being over flogged and I am tired of it.

    Let me end with this, I am a potential MGM (an unapologetic one for that matter). Say what you like but at the end of the day it’s my life, my choices and it’s I who would live with the consequences not you or any of the Anti MGM band wagons. I have my reasons for wanting to be an MGM which I won’t disclose here but trust me I would live a happily ever after and so would my family members too when the time is right.

    A designer friend of mine who is gay just got engaged to his Beautiful chic and it’s no coincidence that as you get older, your stance on not getting married will strt to diminish.

    Do you and be happy.

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    • Delle
      November 1, 2016

      SMH.
      Too much sentiments laced in a supposedly frank piece.
      Ok Tef, just so you know, not everyone has that kind of time to be fabricating stories just to sell an opinion. Like I told Bain, this post was originally meant to be just my stance on this MGM issue but seeing as I’ve had a-not-so-nice experience with one, I felt it would be more credible to use the encounter as a prelude.
      Nothing more.

      The ‘do you’ thing is what annoys me. Everyone is wanting to be in their comfort zones. Forget your petty beef with a KD pseudonym, forget your personal irritation towards Delle, but aren’t we fighting for visibility? Freedom? Decriminalization As gay men? Isn’t that what this blog is primarily about? What the community seeks?

      That’s what the post is about. Sometimes read a post and not have the poster at the back of your mind with bile and scorn.

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    • Pink Panther
      November 1, 2016

      2. You are a Hoe
      But who am I to judge…

      Funny how full of judgment that statement reeked.

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      • posh666
        November 1, 2016

        The funny part is he’s even a bigger hoe with no class at all who pays street urchins to fuck him.Honestly Tefmushin warn urself and stop calling good people who are better than you hoes.

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  13. Chizzie
    November 1, 2016

    Delle. Judging from how you are going about people’s comments trying desperately to explain your self shows how much of an impact ppl’s words have on you. An unemployed despicable man, gave you the (right) impression that you are unattractive, and your devastation was apparent. Same unemployed, despicable man said he was married and that left you so shook that you centered two whole posts abt it and became an overnight expert on Gays Against MGMs. Years of being scorned, laughed at and ridiculed for how you look and act has put u in a place where ppl’s opinions get the best of you and bring out the fool in you.

    I just what you to know that when the chips are down Delle, you are just as irrelevant here as you are in real life and please do not forget that. Because, not only do you look, profoundly unappealing, so much so that scum like the one you have written about in two consecutive posts, have the audacity to even approach you, but from all indications you aren’t well off, and then throw in the fact that you are extremely effeminate, I mean you are basically borderline Onyx Godwin at this point.

    You have it tough, better go and meet Bobrisky to show you the way.

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  14. baddest
    November 1, 2016

    I tire for this delle, not everyone wanna come out,nothing everyone abeg,even if I live in America, I won’t wanna be out,I decide how to live my life, married men chest,whether they do it with men or women,it is their wahala, next time make sure u ask someone if they married before u even chat with them, people like u is why I can never be open,never, not everyone wanna be gay crusader, fight ur battle, dont force someone else haba,he even told u the truth and still u dey judge the man…I hate commenting on blogs but u really pissed me off.. St Delle of Jericho…….. Come down from your high horse nne

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    • Delle
      November 2, 2016

      Lol for some reason, this comment made me laugh.
      I’m glad to have made you comment though. Now you can go back to your comfy closet.

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  15. Chuck
    November 1, 2016

    Unsurprising. There is no sense of right and wrong in Nigeria, whether religious, social, humane or otherwise. A society in decay.

    That’s why someone will come and say you are on a high horse for not approving of cheating.

    We already see many in Nigeria defending GEJ, Dasuki and the other thieves, because they don’t think anyone should face consequences for wrongdoing.

    Just be careful sha, these ones that think cheating is no big deal might also think stealing, kito or murder is no big deal . Clearly they have no line in the sand.

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    • Delle
      November 2, 2016

      🙌

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  16. posh6666
    November 1, 2016

    My last comment on this particular post.Dear Delle now i’m talking to you like my younger broda and someone who has some few yrs experience more than you,for the sake of your peace of mind,try and let go of this obvious hatred you hAve for sleeping with married men.Its not you who is the problem neither is it your business what goes on in their homes.

    So long as the man isn’t trying to date you which you feel might cause problems BTW him and his family,let it go and just have fun…Me personally I don’t mind fucking or dating a married man and lets face it so long as you prefer to have sex with grown men and not young guys 80percent of them will definitely be married,so because of ur “conscience” you will now become celibate abi? Cos you are trying to be a good person…

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    • Orlando
      November 1, 2016

      God bless you posh!

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    • Francis
      November 1, 2016

      so because of ur “conscience” you will now become celibate abi? Cos you are trying to be a good person…

      The fear of Karma is the beginning of wisdom

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      • Pink Panther
        November 2, 2016

        Preacheet! LMAO!

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    • Santa Diaba
      November 2, 2016

      Well this is disappointing. There’s nothing wrong with having a moral code, and I’m shocked that so many people are villifying Delle for his moral compass.
      And yes, because of your conscience, you CAN be celibate.

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      • Delle
        November 2, 2016

        Bless your soul!

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    • Jacques Dubois
      November 2, 2016

      I really think this comment took a wrong direction. He’s allowed to not want to sleep with married men, and if he got offended by the fact that a married man didn’t own up to his status until after they had sex, it’s his prerogative to be offended.

      Don’t make it seem like he’s wrong for making certain moral choices, that’s just not the way to go about it. I get your drift, but he isn’t wrong about his stand either.

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      • Delle
        November 2, 2016

        Thanks Jacques.

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