I stay in Kano, and earlier this year, I fell prey to a guy named Mahmud Hamisu Galadima here in Kano.
We met on Grindr a few months back and chatted for a week. Then he was in Sokoto but said he would be in Kano in two weeks’ time. When he eventually came to Kano, he asked me to meet him at a hotel at back of Farm Center, which is on Zaria Road. I agreed to meet him there.
When I called to tell him that I was at the hotel, he came down and took me up to his hotel room, where we proceeded to have sex. After sex, I began to reach for my clothes, but he took them away from me, saying he wasn’t done with me, that he wanted a second round. Which I didn’t disagree with. I told him we should hurry and get to it, that I wanted to go home.
And that was when he took up his phone and made a quick, muttered phone call. I wasn’t aware he had called for backup. A few minutes later, he was opening the door to a group of his friends to storm in. after which, he began asking me to pay him his money. I was shocked by the sudden intrusion and bewildered by his demand. Which money?
He replied, saying the money for him fucking me, something we had never agreed to.
As I was pleading with him to give me back my clothes and phone, I wasn’t aware that his friends were videoing me naked. Then one of them took me to the bathroom, showed me the video they’d made and asked me to pay the money or else they would post the video online. They had my phone, so he said they would also post it as my WhatsApp status.
I was panicked and said no problem, that I would give them the money. After transferring 5000 naira to Mahmud’s account, they still went ahead and posted the video as my WhatsApp status and refused to give me back my phone. Even though I was finally let go, I had to deal with scrambling for what to say to those who saw the video.
I think it is a real scummy thing for guys within the community to be targeting the rest of us like this, most especially, when you go ahead to actually hook up with your victim before you strike him with your treachery. Something about going ahead to have sex with the guy you are about to set up relaxes his guard and doesn’t make him alert to the fact that you have ugly ulterior motives.
Let us beware and always be alert, no matter the hookup situation we find ourselves in.
Written by Friday