What’s The Difference Between Gay And Queer?

To some people, the terms “gay” and “queer” are one and the same, but that’s not exactly the case.

Let’s start from the beginning.

Both words are derived from definitions that are different to their more popular current meanings. The original meaning of Gay was ‘light-hearted and carefree’, while Queer originally meant ‘strange or odd’. For this reason, the word Queer is still offensive to some, as it has been used pejoratively in reference to LGBT people.

Now, the term Gay, as Stonewall states, “refers to a man who has an emotional, romantic and/or sexual orientation towards men.” It is also “a generic term for lesbian and gay sexuality. Some women define themselves as gay rather than lesbian.”

If we look further down Stonewall’s glossary of terms, Queer is listed as “a derogatory term for LGBT individuals” – but, the entry is keen to emphasise that this is “in the past”.

“The term has now been reclaimed by LGBT young people in particular who don’t identify with traditional categories around gender identity and sexual orientation,” the entry continues.

However, the organisation cautions that the term is “still viewed to be derogatory by some”.

As suggested above, the term Queer is sometimes preferred because it is ambiguous. It allows people to avoid the more rigid boundaries associated with labels like lesbian and transgender.

Queer is not as specific as Gay, for instance. It doesn’t reveal your gender, or the gender of your partner, whereas lesbian, for example, usually implies that you’re a woman attracted to other women.

Similarly, if people are attracted to people across the gender spectrum, they may not want to identify as bisexual, because the term implies a person is attracted to just two genders.

Other terms are available for people who feel this way, like pansexual, but Queer has become a useful umbrella term for some sexual and gender minorities who do not fit into the traditional categories around gender identity and sexual orientation.

So, Queer essentially means ‘a person who is not straight’, while Gay means ‘a person who is attracted to the same sex’.

Ultimately, however, it’s up to the individual as to how they label – or do not label – themselves, and opinions on the subject certainly do vary.