Dear KD: First We Were Friends, Then We Weren’t

This story that I am about to tell you is a story about a friend of mine.

For the sake of the story, let’s call him Caleb

From when I was little, I had known Caleb and we were inseparable because we both could sing and we were singing together to the extent that our parents got to know about our friendship and encouraged it.

Then, at sometime a few years ago, Caleb’s family changed churches and we weren’t seeing each other as often as we used to. This caused us to gradually drifting apart; even though we were still in contact, we weren’t as close as we once were, when we practically did everything together.

When I was 12, I discovered my interest in guys and at the time, I was afraid of speaking it out loud, because I was understandably afraid of what people would say or how they’d react. It became my secret. But I suspected Caleb knew because he would always come up to me and hug me and spank my ass, even flirting with me sometimes.

Predictably, I began to develop feelings for him because of this. I was also sure he had feelings for me, but no matter how long I waited and hoped, he never said anything to me.

The years passed with me wondering when he would tell me he cared for me as I cared for him.

Finally, some months ago, I decided to act on my feelings. I created a Facebook catfish account and sent Caleb a friend request. He accepted it. I chatted him up and he was responsive.

Then I asked him if he was gay, stating that I would love to be his friend.

For a week, even though it showed that he’d read my message, he didn’t reply. And then he replied. He sent me a reply with the words that was my actual names. He told me furiously that he knows it’s me on the other end and that we are no longer friends.

Then he proceeded to not only block that catfish account but my actual account and all other social media connections we had. And I was left reeling with the realization that I had destroyed our friendship.

And every single day since this happened in December last year, my misery has eaten away at me. I feel very bad over what I did. And I just want to know if what I did was wrong and if there is anything I can do to repair our friendship. I need your advice, guys.

Submitted by Gabby