4 responses

  1. Tobee
    June 27, 2020

    Well done on completing your research, and thank you for feeding your findings back to us.

    I agree with you that women tend to be relatively under-represented here, I think it might be a reflection of what obtains in the larger Nigerian/African community whereby men are permitted by society to be more sexually expressive. While I can’t suggest any immediate solutions, I think it’s great that you’ve highlighted it. Though I also wonder if it’s that KitoDiaries are targeted at a mostly male audience while there are other spaces dominated by queer Nigerian women.

    Well done. I hope you publish your findings and let us know 👍🏼


  2. bamidele
    June 27, 2020

    This is really an excellent piece. I’ve looking forward to discourses like this. In fact I’m looking forward to this. It is a standard piece of research. Great job!


  3. Sewa
    June 28, 2020

    thank you for your comments!


  4. Mitch
    June 29, 2020

    Truth be told, a lot of us here are bothered by the very low representation of women here, both in our stories, comments and general content.

    However, there’s something that always comes to mind whenever I think of this.

    As much as the patriarchy thrives on silencing women, queer women need to stand up and start speaking for themselves. To carve their own niches, create their own spaces, push their own narratives forward.

    Some of the best creatives I know, of both queer art, poetry and prose, are lesbian and bi women. It is from their art that I learned the queer female expression. However, there is a lacuna between how creative they are and how much of their work is seen on exclusively queer spaces such as this.

    I wrote the story, The Lies You Told, after reading about the experience of a lesbian who was unlucky in love and talking to my friend who’d just had a major heartbreak. I wrote another lesbian short, Falling To Pieces, after reading, on this blog, a few stories of lesbians who were kitoed.

    However, I can’t document their experiences as well as they can. I can’t go out of my way to search for lesbian content and issues while there’s stuff about myself, my gayness, that I still am figuring out.

    Which is why I think more queer women should share stuff here. Stories, poetry, art, opinion pieces, even articles. Pink Panther accepts every and any thing. A lot of the gay content he shares here are things gay men see online and send to him. Queer women should do the same. That way, we have a more balanced discourse on issues pertaining to who we are and our realities in this frigging hellish country.

    PS: Sewa, great job with your research.
    I look forward to reading your paper when it’s done.


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