Gay Man Gives The Best Response To Troll Who Chats Him Up On Grindr With An Insult

A gay man shared a tweet that went viral, a clear indication that many others could identity with it.

Jono Mitchell is an Atlanta-based filmmaker and actor, who has used the last few months to lose weight and tone up. Having lost 70lbs, he’s feeling great about himself. So, when a guy messaged him on Grindr to inform him that he shouldn’t describe himself as muscular, he was not having it.

Mitchell took a screenshot of the exchange and posted it to Twitter. At the time of writing, it’s had over 6,000 likes and prompted several comments.

“Holy crap I can’t stop laughing you actually think your muscular LOL,” was the Grindr user’s opening message.

Jono Mitchell

Mitchell replied, “I’m sorry things are hard right now. I hope you find happiness, man. Things will get better and you won’t need to go out of your way to try and be rude to strangers on the internet. Have a better day, friend.”

On his tweet, Mitchell accompanied the screenshot with a caption: “It’s 2020. I’ll be whatever the fuck I wanna be.”

It’s 2020. I’ll be whatever the fuck I wanna be. pic.twitter.com/e75ZMq1PHO

— Jon-O’-Lantern 🎃 (@jono_thon) October 14, 2020

Most of those commenting expressed sympathy with Mitchell and applauded his response.

He just knows you’ll never fuck him so wants to be rude before he gets rejected… tale as old as time pic.twitter.com/UYLjwziZOy

— The Orange Frog 🐸 (@Theorangefrog86) October 14, 2020

@Rosie used to do a set where she talked about the str8 guy who shot the gay guy who had a crush on him. Her message was if someone is interested but not your cup of tea say thank you and move on. The hatred on these sights is horrid. Just block if u can't be nice. Btw… pic.twitter.com/kN4VRvOYwc

— Mike C (@uncannynerf) October 14, 2020

Wow… first of all, his message was gross. Second, I admire the maturity in your response.

— AaronGoldenberg (@AaronGoldyBoy) October 14, 2020

How fucking vile and rude. Extremely sad that someone feels the need to go out of their way to send a message like that in a pathetic attempt to try and ruin someones confidence to make up for the lack of their own

— Paul Taylor (@paul_taylor_sub) October 15, 2020

We are different types of people but this is such a universal issue with people. Especially men, who have some sort of insecurity, need to put others in their place. It’s gross. Sorry he said that to ya and keep on being what you wanna be!

— Joshua Parker (@joshua_C_Parker) October 15, 2020

People like him are what is wrong with gay dating apps. Glad you are the bigger person. You look amazing btw 🙂

— Carl (@CarlSutton9) October 14, 2020

He's trash. You're beautiful. And that was a waaaaaay kinder response than he deserved.

— Protect black trans women 🌈 (@siciliangecko) October 14, 2020

Mitchell confirmed to Queerty that he’d had no interactions with the other man before receiving his message. He reportedly said, “My assumption is he reached out after searching for ‘muscular’ profiles. I have that listed in mine because I recently lost 70lbs and am in the best shape of my life.”

Did the other man respond to Mitchell’s message?

“After my initial message, he chided me for ‘misleading people’ by listing that I was muscular when I wasn’t and then repeated how laughable it was before blocking me.”

Mitchell says he was surprised the tweet went viral: “But I guess it just goes to show how prevalent this sort of behavior is for everyone. I wish we were in a place where we could stop commenting on one another’s bodies altogether, but insecurity in all of us won’t allow that to happen. I worked in the public eye for many years and am no stranger to dealing with trolls. People tear each other down to make themselves feel tall.”

Another recent tweet from Mitchell detailed his weight loss journey.

How it started. How it's going. pic.twitter.com/ncRgVnIxtH

— Jon-O’-Lantern 🎃 (@jono_thon) October 10, 2020

Think you can hurt my feelings? For four years I hosted a live show that let me interact with viewers in real time for a network with one of the most toxic fan bases of any network on television.

I am equipped to handle anything.

— Jon-O’-Lantern 🎃 (@jono_thon) October 14, 2020