God is Not a Straight Man

God is Not a Straight Man

God is not a dude.

God is not a man.

God is not a He.

Growing up, I was taught that “He” most certainly was all of those things—and it has taken decades to comprehend how toxic and dangerous and limiting an idea that was—and to have God right-sized in my head.

Imagining God as male, first creating a man (out of which was created a woman), not only justifies all sorts of misogyny and sexism both inside and outside the Church, but gives license to all manner of ignorance regarding the breadth of gender identity and sexual orientation that actually exists. So much of the fear-fueled violence Christians have generated toward LGBTQ human beings for centuries, comes from the limiting story we’ve told ourselves.

A Christian reader, incensed at my support for transgender human beings, recently left this comment on my blog; one of many variations on this theme:

“John, God knew what He was doing. He created people either male or female. That old, gay talking point of gender fluidity is so tired.”

Yes, that “old, tired, gay talking point” that Christians can’t stand—the one from the Bible.

It says all people are made in God’s image. Genesis’ creation story (the one these folks fervent cling to and defend to the death as literal and binding), quotes God as saying,

“Let us make mankind in our image, in our likeness…” (Genesis 1:26)

Humans are all made in the image of a God, who defines themselves in the act of creation—in plurality.

Some Biblical scholars contend this declaration of God as “us,” is actually a Trinitarian conversation (God, Son, and Holy Spirit talking to one another, for some unstated reason.) Others point to constraints in the translation from Hebrew to Greek, that demand a plural pronoun (a sort of royal “We.”) But even if one accepts one of these explanations as suitable for the word used, there is still a question to answer:

Is the God of the Bible, maker of Humanity—simply male or female?

If only male, then women couldn’t truly be made in God’s image.

If solely female, then men couldn’t.

The only way every disparate human being could be made in the likeness of God (if we’re to use the same Bible these homophobic/transphobic Christians use), is if God both transcends and encompasses gender. If God is both male and female and neither male nor female—then this God (to quote my reader) is a “tired gay talking point.”

The truth is – even though the Bible appears on the surface – to reflect a limited and binary understanding of human sexuality befitting its ancient genesis, it uses images of and language for God, that aren’t strictly male:

Can a woman forget her nursing child, or show no compassion for the child of her womb? Even these may forget, yet I will not forget you. – God, Isaiah 49:15


As a mother comforts her child, so will I comfort you; and you will be comforted over Jerusalem.  – God, Isaiah 66:13


But I have calmed and quieted myself, I am like a weaned child with its mother; like a weaned child I am content. – David, speaking of God in Psalm 131:2


Jerusalem, Jerusalem, you who kill the prophets and stone those sent to you, how often I have longed to gather your children together, as a hen gathers her chicks under her wings, and you were not willing.  Jesus, Matthew 23:37


Ruach, the name for the Spirit of God in the original Old Testament Hebrew is feminine. The femininity of God is everywhere: Divinity transcending one gender.

I know that for many Christians reading this, these words feel confrontational, provocative—and quite blasphemous. If you are among them, that may be an alarm, that you’re hearing something you know rings true and is challenging the lens you’ve looked at God and other people through for your entire life. I get how terrifying such an existential crisis can be, but that fear is worth facing and the verses worth studying and the idea worth entertaining—because ultimately, understanding God as a heterosexual man, shrinks God into something comfortable, something easily managed—and something far too small to be God, if we’re honest with ourselves.

If we really believe God made every human being who has ever walked the planet, and that each of these people bears the DNA of their Creator—there is simply no way this God could simply be male or cisgender-heterosexual.

Maybe this whole gender identity and sexual orientation thing is a little more complex and expansive than we can glean from a 4,000-year old poem, and maybe we should stop using it to destroy other people. Maybe, rather than shrinking God, we need to release God from that confining space inside our heads.

And as difficult as it is maybe we should expand our very image of God in a way that argues with our learned theology, because if we do, it might make us far more willing to treat the diverse humanity that crosses our paths—with the reverence and respect each one of them deserves—as made of God.

[This was originally published on JohnPavlovitz.com]

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  1. Jay
    March 10, 07:11 Reply

    This is a memo churches in Nigeria should get, but then will they accept it??

    Last last, we are all created in the image of God!

  2. Higwe
    March 10, 08:59 Reply

    God is assumed not human, which technically means He’s neither a heterosexual nor a homosexual!

    The old Hebrew language had no gender neutral pronouns, it was natural they’d ascribe He to God.
    God being a protector of sort and a limpid leader albeit a formless entity; made it natural that they saw him as some sort of ” father figure ” hence the “HE” .


    When will homosexuals stop trying to legitimize their sexuality using non existent theories and unscrupulous assumptions from a book that from every indication has never supported homosexuality!

    It’s not only ennui at this point, but rather shameful, that the 2019 homosexual – in his “wokeness ” and “emancipation” – still struggles astoundingly to be accepted by the book that is technically the root cause of his mistreatment .

    ” let’s make man in our own image and likeness ”
    A 2019 homophobic “saint ” will bring up the fact that going by this biblical reference , pedophiles , rapists, serial killers , the homophobic man etc were also made in the image and likeness of God ,does that mean they should all be accepted too?
    Should no law guide the earth?
    Because according to this reference, every trait of character exhibited by man, no matter how deleterious, has some likeness to that of God.

    In this battle of biblical references, a homosexual man can never win. For every assumed support the homosexual man can fumble out from some biblical reference, there is a clear verse with heavily worded threats , condemning homosexuality.

    There are only two options for the 2019 homosexual :
    Disregard every inch of the Bible and live your life the way you please.

    Accept that homosexuality is a sin, and go with the the cliche ” he without sin …..”

    Trying to make a case “of the normalcy” of homosexuality referencing the Bible only makes the writer look stupid (sadly) …. this is a book where a whole nation was presumably destroyed, merely because they engaged in homosexuality ,are we really supposed to be comforted because (HE) is gender neutral and sexual neutral; keeping in mind, he orchestrated that destruction?

    • Pjay
      March 10, 10:54 Reply

      Using the male pronoun for God was a result of the patriarchy and sexism that was entrenched in biblical times. Its not any natural kini kan. Why couldn’t she have been a mother figure? Aren’t mothers protective too?

      Yes, according to this reference, every trait of character exhibited by man, no matter how deleterious, has some likeness to that of God. This is indeed true. God, in the bible, might not be a rapist but he did sanction rape. He allowed the children of Israel to plunder the people who lived around them and he gave them orders to keep the virgins for themselves as handmaidens a.k.a sex slaves. BTW, the manner in which God implanted his seed in Mary is akin to rape. God was in a position of power and he took advantage of Mary’s naivete. God himself was a serial killer. This is evident in the murders he committed through out the scriptures. Sodom and Gomorrah, the poor people of Jericho, the canaanites, the innocent children of the Egyptians to mention a few.

      I agree with you that a homosexual can never win the battle of biblical references and must therefore disregard the bible in its entirety. But if you do this, why do you accept that homosexuality is a sin since the concept of sin is biblical?

    • March 12, 15:52 Reply

      What nation please?

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