Jilted Grindr Hookup Leads To A Police Standoff, A Gunshot Wound And An Arrest

Jilted Grindr Hookup Leads To A Police Standoff, A Gunshot Wound And An Arrest

No one likes being rejected. But one Seattle man took his recent Grindr spurn a little too personally.

41-year-old Alik Lebedev (pictured above) immigrated to the United States from Russia 16 years ago. In March, he connected with a man on Grindr. After chatting for a while, the two agreed to meet. But when Lebedev showed up at the guy’s condo, the alleged victim decided he was no longer interested. He offered Lebedev a glass of water then asked him to leave.

A short while later, the alleged victim had a change of heart and sent Lebedev another message, inviting him back over. Lebedev accepted. When he returned to the man’s condo however, Lebedev had a gun.

First, he demanded the victim hand over all his cash, two watches and a credit card. Then he made him delete all the messages they had exchanged on Grindr, stole his SIM card, and fled.

The police were able to use DNA collected from the glass of water to track down Lebedev. When they arrived at his house the following Monday, Lebedev barricaded himself inside and threatened to shoot.

An eight hour standoff ensued and didn’t end until Lebedev turned the gun on himself. He suffered a single shotgun wound to the chest, but survived. He was taken to a local hospital, where he remains today. He has been charged with first-degree armed robbery.

But this isn’t Lebedev’s first run in with the law.

In 2000, he was arrested for trying to shoplift $4,000 worth of jewelry from Sears, then taking off in a stolen car. He served three years in prison for the crime.

In 2006, he was arrested a second time for attempting to solicit sex and sending dirty photos and videos of himself to a police officer posing as a 14-year-old boy online. He served two and a half years in prison for that.

And in 2010, he got in trouble for failing to register his address with police when he moved.

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  1. Mitch
    May 16, 08:14 Reply

    Onye ara! The man is clearly mentally disturbed.

  2. Dickson Clement
    May 16, 08:43 Reply

    When he can’t pay rent, he tries sometin funny so he cud go to the rent free zone ‘prison’

  3. ambivalentone
    May 16, 08:47 Reply

    Mtchew! I thot “John’s Lebanese don enter am” from yesterday’s story

  4. Delle
    May 16, 09:43 Reply

    Grindr gone bad. Shebi I aff said all of you on Grindr should delete that app? Where psychos go to look for quickies. If it’s not 2go, we aint hooking up bay-bee!

      • Delle
        May 16, 10:43 Reply

        I actually don’t do it. Just being emphatic on the crappiness of the Grindr thing.

          • Mitch
            May 16, 11:33 Reply

            Some people don’t do random hook-ups.

          • DI-NAVY
            May 16, 11:44 Reply

            People like me, lol. Tho I Prefer meeting people through a trusted referral that knows what I like. I no get strength like that,lol

      • DI-NAVY
        May 16, 11:45 Reply

        Who still has that?? 2go is for those who enjoys pedophilia. So 2000andlate to me.

    • DI-NAVY
      May 16, 11:42 Reply

      Hiah, 2go is so tacky naaaaa. Who still has that????

      • Delle
        May 16, 19:01 Reply

        People still have the 2go app and very well use it. Some conservative Nigerians can’t let go of its ‘authenticity’.

  5. BeeJay
    May 16, 11:14 Reply

    Hilarious! Homeboy sounds like a joker…I disagree that Grindr shud b discredited…One bad apple does not the entire tree mar…That said, u just gotta be smart n careful. Shalom!

    May 16, 14:22 Reply

    Friends of friends… Networking; All this app na better high bp for me!

    • BeeJay
      May 16, 16:19 Reply

      hahahaha. Where’s your spirit of adventure homes???

    • Stranger
      May 16, 20:37 Reply

      Wa gbayi??….. Only via mutual friends. And not for meaningless sex.

      • Pink Panther
        May 17, 02:34 Reply

        *rolling eyes* Abegi. Meaningless sex is good for the soul sometimes. 😀

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