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  1. Kristopher
    August 6, 2015

    What a nasty experience… Bro I’m sorry for what you went through and wouldn’t even wish it on my worst enemy. That Asaba triangle na hot spot!

    With that in mind, please what’s really the essence of sharing Kito stories? Is it for us to feel pity for the victim, to learn about ways of avoiding scammers, revealing their identities to save future victims or all of the above?

    Now tell me, how will this story here prevent another victim from falling into the trap if the details are obscured? I think there should be a criteria for anyone intending to tell their kito story on here to give a life line in terms of exposing the true identities of the scammers. Some readers on here have connections and you don’t know who just might be reading this, that may have powers to stop the scammers in their tracks…. If not, we will keep reading remorseful stories and saying the cliche “Eyahhhh”….

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    • Mandy
      August 6, 2015

      More than three quarter of the time, Kristopher, the victims never know the true identity of their assaulters. And on previous kito stories, PP has proven that he is not shy about publishing names and photos of verified kito perpetrators. So when a story has the assaulters identity given, I’m sure it will be published.
      That notwithstanding, the chief aim of the kito stories is to enlighten readers of experiences that might echo what they might soon fall into. Perhaps you have a Chief Chisom currently chyking you from Asaba. And you read this. You’d do well to stay away from him. Was it not on a previous kito story that a KDian realized that the guy programming him wa sthe same one who kito-ed the victim whose story we’d just read…

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  2. Mandy
    August 6, 2015

    This Delta State again? Fast becoming the kito capital of Nigeria.

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    • kacee
      August 6, 2015

      Hehehehehe kito capital

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  3. Masked Man
    August 6, 2015

    Asaba, Agbor.

    Smh.

    I’m sorry Josh, I’m really really sorry.

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  4. simba
    August 6, 2015

    Oh dear, thanks to god u made it alive… Unfortunately those scums are still free perpetuating their evils..

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  5. ken
    August 6, 2015

    Lesson to be learned: Dont meet strangers in a territory where you are not familiar with. I mean, travelling to see a stranger you have never met is just not smart.

    Sorry tho.

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  6. KingBey
    August 6, 2015

    Na wah oo. What’s with these Asaba kidnappers hiding under the guise of Kito? It’s high time the police is let known of their nefarious activities and rightful action taken. This is pure kidnapping. And I’m very glad his dad did not pay a dime to those fools. I still stand for No Negotiations with a Kidnapper. Because it encourages them to do more. After what my friend went through last year in same Asaba, people there became totally ruled out from my mind. I won’t be caught dead visiting anyone there unless its a family member.

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  7. Max
    August 6, 2015

    Honestly I’m tired of reading Kito stories.
    This one is a Lil bit different though ( because the kitoer lied about his age and even occupation)
    The rest of the kitos I’ve heard of always have 3 things in common
    1- the victim is always a bottom
    2-The kitoer is always a rough looking older top(or strictly top or straight-looking top or whatever<> don’t agree if he says he’s sending a bike- he doesnt run a bike business. Come to think of it, why would he know a bike man sef? He drives right? So how come?

    Gay people’s fantasy of getting to sleep with older macho men(or straight looking men<<< damn I hate that phrase) is the main cause of these kitos.
    And the victims often tend to ignore warning signs- like his car suddenly spoiling during the course of your journey.
    Please let's all try and be making use of our brains .. Please. I do not wish to read another Kito story here.
    Its something that we as gay people should've phased out by now since we know how they operate, or so I thought.
    And please, we need pictures of the culprits– these people went to a deep level to destroy you, I think they deserve the same. Since they're jobless, another person might fall victim to their nonsense.

    We Need The Pictures… Protocols be damned!!!.

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    • Max
      August 6, 2015

      I dunno how but some parts of my comments are missing>>>
      Don’t travel to meet a married man. Its a shameful thing. When you get married, stick with your family. Don’t be requesting the presence of young boys to warm your bed when your wife/kids aren’t around.
      And also we should all learn to know our worth. Know your worth and don’t let any man treat you like an option when he’s in a tight situation. Like some side dude he could rely on for cheap sex. We’ve been marginalized by the society a lot but that doesn’t mean we should eat bread crumbs thrown at us.
      Knowing that someone is married and choosing to visit them to spend time with them while their wife/kids is away is the height of it.

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      • Pink Panther
        August 6, 2015

        You mean as opposed to visiting him when his wife and kids are around? 🙂 lol

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      • Max
        August 6, 2015

        Well, you could try that. And you’ll wear akpoola to come back… Not Kito.. 🙂

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      • kacee
        August 6, 2015

        Hehehehehe

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      • ken
        August 6, 2015

        I used to think like this before, but as I am getting older I have realised its not fair to completely blame DL men. Everyone is a victim of society’s demands and expections.
        How do u tell a gay man to marry a woman, and never have sex with a guy ever again?

        I find that married men are d randiest because they feel so lonely and alone keep a big secret that can destroy their lives. They will never admit the truth cos a part of their brain is released that they have satisfied society. The sex is almost like an obsession to relieve the weight of the enormous burden of their secretive lives.

        *And no am not a psychiatrist. Yes, am smart like that* lol

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      • Pink Panther
        August 6, 2015

        Oh ken, don’t even bother. Max is not one to relent on this issue about married gay men on the down-low.

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      • Max
        August 6, 2015

        @Ken, you make it sound like we don’t have a choice. Ure not a victim unless you choose to be.

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      • Tiercel de Claron
        August 6, 2015

        A 45-year old named Chisom,that stood out too.
        Your gripe about tops and married/older men tho………

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      • Aja
        August 6, 2015

        Max, I’ve been kitoed twice in my younger days. I’m Top. Both kitoers were bottoms. Younger. I’ll spare you the ugly details.
        This is 2015. Until Nigeria becomes a sane country, no one should meet a total stranger, travel or take chances. I have talked before they said I was too harsh. Maybe these victims are going thru their own stage of growth but it’s really not necessary.

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      • Max
        August 6, 2015

        Kitoed twice? Chimoo

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    • kacee
      August 6, 2015

      Seconded

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    • ken
      August 6, 2015

      I completely agree! Gbam!!

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    • Posh6666
      August 6, 2015

      May God just continue to protect us.But d truth is yes a car can actually suddenly break down and yes too he can actually have a bike man’s number for number of reasons in case of any emergency whatsoever.The truth is its a tough situation even if u advise sum1 not to travel to another state for hookup it can still happen within ur resident state.

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  8. JoshDeity
    August 6, 2015

    @PP, thanks for publishing. As for editing the story, well you did it in more agreeable than disagreeable ways. Thanks…

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    • Pink Panther
      August 6, 2015

      Anytime. 🙂

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  9. kacee
    August 6, 2015

    I can’t still understand how some stupid pigs will just sit down and plan this kind of rubbish, or is it because of lack of jobs in this country. I’m so sorry josh dear.

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  10. JoshDeity
    August 6, 2015

    @Max. I’m not bottom but this story isn’t about my role in bed. It’s about me being too sapiosexual for my own good. I and scum Chisom spoke over the phone for quite some time. And I wanted to have sex with that brain.

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    • Masked Man
      August 6, 2015

      Have sex with that brains.

      Oh dear, I still don’t understand sapiosexuality.

      James is brilliant, but do I wanna have sex with his brains, no. With another part, yes. Lol

      I don’t understand sapiosexuality.

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      • Pink Panther
        August 6, 2015

        MM, saying you want to have sex with brains is not to be taken literally, you know that, right? It simply means that a person’s intelligence, more than every other attribute is what turns you on mostly.

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      • Masked Man
        August 6, 2015

        PP, I know.
        I just fret for people like me who are dull upstairs. We are never gonna get laid when everybody is a sapio.

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      • Pink Panther
        August 6, 2015

        Well luckily for u, MM, not everyone is sapio. 🙂

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      • Masked Man
        August 6, 2015

        I’m seriously hoping so.

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      • Max
        August 6, 2015

        @MM, I’m sapio too. But brains isn’t what I wanna have sex with.. The brain is what turns me on..
        Oh and btw I see what you did there with James. Continu

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      • Masked Man
        August 6, 2015

        I don’t know what are talking about.

        Don’t let James start getting ideas that are not existent.

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      • JustJames
        August 6, 2015

        *sips nutrimilk and stares at MM one kain*

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      • Masked Man
        August 6, 2015

        Hi James, want more milk?

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  11. JoshDeity
    August 6, 2015

    @PP, yes… You got that right.

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  12. iamcoy
    August 6, 2015

    Something dies inside me whenever I come on kd and see ‘His Kito story’.
    Mehn… I will say no more

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    • iamcoy
      August 6, 2015

      Oh well forgive me I will say more..
      I said this on the last kito story and I will say it again..
      you are on manjam, badoo or grindr, but u are too busy to join Facebook, twitter or instagram. Anyone who falls for that line again should be tabled here and given another round of flogging by us*no pun intended*

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  13. ambivalentone
    August 6, 2015

    I dunno, the strength of this dude and his folks kinda turned me on. *covers face* Maybe I should stop looking at Afros one kain anymore seeing as they can cushion vitamilk bottles. That said, that company shud be sued.

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  14. Kester
    August 6, 2015

    This is sad, Josh sorry you had to go through all that horror. Glad you are alive and believe me when I say many have died going through kito situations. Don’t mind any one pontificating, everyone at some point was naive. Lesson learned, move on but don’t think you have totally fooled your family, they sort of know but may not say anything until much later when you will be bugged about marriage. Be careful. My own story not even a stranger on social media. I always said it to myself and my friends that I will never wear kito, sometimes laughing at some people I knew that suffered it. Mine was with someone I had known for ages, someone I helped when he was sick with hepatitis. Someone younger, someone I even connected with aristo friends. The experience made me sober,very wary, extremely suspicious and introverted. Sometimes all these tips on safety doesn’t follow and yes there are people who sit down for years planning your downfall and waiting for the opportunity to strike. It’s not about joblessness it’s about inherent evil in most people. There are those who think they should use another person’s misfortune or weakness to make money. Weakness here is the desire for same sex relations and misfortune here is the environment we live in that supports such atrocities and justifies perpetrators because hearing this story any so called straight person will say ‘……. serve him right.’ my brother do be careful. In an evolved society structures are in place to avoid such embarrassment. Looking for fun or love should not be a hazard. I won’t wait for Nigeria to decriminalize I am working hard to make enough money to leave. Sometimes we think khaleesi is just ranting. I don’t think so this place is horrible. Imagine beating up someone till the person is unconscious just because he is gay. Kidnapping, torturing some one on account of his orientation. It’s a gross injustice but what can we do? Even dogs or cows are pitied. I’m sorry. This story just took me elsewhere……….. Bros sorry and be careful.

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  15. Khaleesi
    August 6, 2015

    I cant describe the sadness and sense of despair that fills my heart whenever i read these kito stories … it brings forcefully to me what a lawless society we live in, its so sad that gays have to bear the heaviest burden of this sick society’s lawlessness. These guys are nothing but a gang of ruthless criminals who belong firmly in jail for a long long long time. Please, if you have names, pictures, profile IDs or whatever of these damned criminals, please forward to PP for publishing.

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  16. Khaleesi
    August 6, 2015

    Has anyone noticed the eerie and uncanny similarity between this kito story and that experienced by a certain Fabby who came from Bayelsa a few months ago? Could it be the same gang? Josh, i dont know if you still have the phone number to the Chisom of a bastard, perhaps truecaller might give an inkling as to his identity … thats a start!

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  17. Tobby
    August 6, 2015

    Your dad is an idiot. They could have killed you.

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    • Masked Man
      August 6, 2015

      Oh Pls shut up.

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    • Peak
      August 6, 2015

      Tobby I would need you to step back, have a sit and choke down some ice. You just went over board with your comment. Just because KD is an online forum where we can hide behind the cloud of anonymity doesn’t give us free rein to throw propriety to the wind. You don’t know him or his father nor their financial capabilities, so spare us ur unflattering comment that reeks of nescience. Please check urself, cos you sound rock with that comment.

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  18. Dennis Macaulay
    August 6, 2015

    I have relatives in asaba and I know that town wella. It is a serious kito hotbed!

    Please don’t visit anybody you don’t have mutual friends with.

    As for the guy who went through this, I am terribly sorry you had to go through this.

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  19. Teflondon
    August 6, 2015

    Its always sad to read new Kito stories.
    Most Kito Stories seem similar these days. These stories aren’t just published for the sake of it, we should try to learn from it, from every experience and situation. No ONE is above Kito! i repeat NO ONE! so never dismiss what you read here thinking it can never happen to you.
    Josh i am sorry for your ordeal. May the good lord keep and strengthen you always.

    That said,
    i miss always being on KD. I miss all the fun peeps that used to be on KD. GAD, Chizzie, Chris, Diablo Et al i miss the blood baths and dramas. The new folks and commenters are so annoyingly boring. Jeez! i could smell the Ass kissing all the way…

    My Kito story still remains the most commented piece on here in the history of KD i think. i challenge someone to beat it already.

    XOXO

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    • Pink Panther
      August 6, 2015

      *shaking my head* Oh Teflondon

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    • Masked Man
      August 6, 2015

      Who released you?
      Who unchained you?.
      Thought you’ve been bundled off and exiled.

      Anyway, I missed your attention seeking.

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      • Perez
        August 6, 2015

        Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahhahahahahhaaaaaa……!!!

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  20. posh6666
    August 6, 2015

    So sorry Josh.But seriously ur dads no nonsense attitude could have actually left u killed!God forbid sha.Cos the truth is sick homophobes are out there everywhere who could kill for nothing and ur dad even got into argument with them provoking them.As the saying goes ignorance is bliss he didnt really understand d true situation of things and also am a bit troubled that he was willing to let them take u to a police station when we all know how corrupt n homophobic naija police are and also the 14yrs jail tingy and also the risk of ur face being splashed all over newspapers.He will have spent probably more than 50k at d police station.I mean he could actually afford that money right?u could have been killed imagine if they could be smashing n breaking bottles on u like that.No shade just curious.Thank God u are safe.

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  21. Ven
    August 6, 2015

    Josh, it’s a terrible thing that happened. And I’m sorry it happened. There are no rules or laws that govern kitos, to be honest, it’s just God or the universe (whichever you believe in) that protects. You can make all sorts of rules about not meeting in private the first time or whatever. The thing is, if it’ll happen, it will. The one thing I know that helps tho, is to go with your gut. If you suddenly feel like something is amiss, you can call it off. It may suck and you may feel like you wasted money and time but it beats the alternative. Thank you for sharing, because I imagine it’s really difficult for a person to admit something like this happened and to ope himself up to people’s judgement and commentary.

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  22. Perez
    August 6, 2015

    The major thing here is just to be careful, and do not think with your junk/ass.. We live in an environment where your immediate neighbour can be a potential danger to you, all because of your sexuality…

    The key thing here is to be careful. U can’t try such adventure of meeting someone new and distant in this side of the world .

    God help us all. Amen

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  23. James bruno
    August 6, 2015

    i think an article that gives basic safety guidelines for online hookups is due on this site. maybe even permanently pinned to the homepage.

    @josh sorry about your ordeal

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  24. JoshDeity
    August 6, 2015

    As for those who think my dad’s course of action was wrong, it’s clear that you didn’t understand the situation. The only threat was to my life. I wasn’t caught doing anything. There was no evidence to point to my being gay. It was my word against theirs. They’re criminals, there’s no way that they were willing to take me to the police. That’s why my dad would have preferred if I was with the police. The police can’t kill me.

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    • posh6666
      August 6, 2015

      Lmaoo like seriously u are trying to defend ur dads action?u said d only threat was to ur life what could be greater than that?would u be here today on kd if God forbid u were killed?then u said there was no evidence?bros u be learner?all ur numerous chats and call nko?wetin carry u go asaba?and also trust me some crazy ones could actually take u to police.Seems u think this is a small thing last week sum guy was killed just like that his pics is all over facebook due to similar incidence.Stop trying pls we kdians can only be nice for a short while before we go for d jugular hunnay we go for blood!

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  25. Chuck
    August 6, 2015

    I have a question – if he had not kito’d you, what would you have done at the end of the trip when your bank account was empty and your anonymous sex mate was done having sex with you?

    Honestly this just shows how bored/frustrated/unmotivated/idle our students and youth are. You left your town to go fuck a married man based on his voice/conversation? Is your town so empty, or were you just projecting qualities this guy doesn’t have onto him?

    I’ve never been kito’d, and I probably never will. The reason is simple : I’m not desperate for sex or a connection.

    Avoiding kito is easy:

    Don’t travel to meet someone you’ve never met before for sex. Just wank, or fuck whoever you’d been fucking before meeting the new guy.

    If you’re going to meet someone, stick to the plan you originally made. Don’t go anywhere you haven’t been before.

    Always meet people at neutral locations when you’re meeting them for the first time. A mall, shop or bus stop that’s busy. Don’t follow a stranger to a second location.

    Be wary of manjam and grindr. It’s easy for someone to pose to be anyone online (catfish). Unless you’ve met someone in person, you haven’t met them yet. Anything they say is questionable.

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    • posh6666
      August 6, 2015

      Kito can happen to anybody.No matter how unbothered u say u are about sex at d end of d day u still hookup with sum1 for sex and even sum1 u have been fucking for 10yrs can still decide to kito u one day if u fuck up.I believe have even read sumtin like that on kd

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      • Chuck
        August 6, 2015

        Then why hasn’t it happened to some of us? We have been careful about who we fuck, and where we go.

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      • posh6666
        August 6, 2015

        Becos u are just lucky!and i dont wish it upon u but d reality is so long as u live in naija kito can happen to u when u least expect it u can never be too careful.Say or think what u wish but its not ur doing or how perfect u are.U are just lucky!

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      • Chuck
        August 6, 2015

        I don’t believe in superstition or all of that. You can control who you sleep with. Sleep with people who have more to lose than you and you will be fine.

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    • Ven
      August 6, 2015

      Some people play the long game. You can’t always tell. They’re good tips, yes but it’s not a 100% guarantee

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  26. JoshDeity
    August 6, 2015

    @Chuck, this platform doesn’t allow for all of the story but I didn’t say my bank accounts were empty, i said I emptied the accounts that have ATM cards. Yes, my town is dead to me. I don’t wank and my last fuck was two states away. Thing is the dude was an homophobe, but a very intelligent person. As I said earlier, I was too sapiosexual for my own good. The rest is story. I’ve always been lucky and I’m not desperate for sex at all. In over 6 years, he was supposed to be my 11th time having sex. He just turned out to be ill-luck. We were supposed to meet at the same point the okada dude came to pick me, there was no change of location. It was just bad, very bad luck.

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    • Chuck
      August 6, 2015

      Well, everyone likes what they like. But based on the risk of meeting someone who kitos you, I would advise that you adjust what you look for or the kind of guys you accept/turn down offers from. Otherwise, being kito’d will remain a risk/hazard of your sexual desires. Good luck sha

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    • Tiercel de Claron
      August 7, 2015

      Let me borrow Max’ hat this time,11th fuck in 6years?.That’s kinda much in my book,but what do I know,I’m just the monogamous type

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      • Tiercel de Claron
        August 7, 2015

        Oh sorry,re-read that and saw you meant 11th time/occasion,not the body count.
        My apologies

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      • Pink Panther
        August 7, 2015

        Even if it were a body count… Even if it were 11 hook-ups in 6 years, how’s it criminal or deserving of scorn?

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  27. Raj
    August 7, 2015

    Damn. Kito stories get to my gaymotions. I am not one to blame ,people often blame if the result turned sour. Had this been a tale of romance ,meeting that online guy and spending quality time and. sex,a lot wouldn’t have been so keen on blames.

    However the profit in. a loss is the experience that shields us(and others)against similar circumstances

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  28. Dumdus
    August 7, 2015

    I’m really sorry but this is going to hurt. You were really daft and you had to let your sexual desires take charge over you thereby making you deaf to advices. There were evidence to show you that this guy was fake. First of all they come as nice,English would be full of blunders, spellings, Jesus, that’s a no no, another evidence was the lie he told you that his car was at the mechanic or something and that a bike man will come and pick you, still you didn’t still stop by when you saw no houses. Jesus, are you that daft. I can’t feel sorry for you because these are the reasons why they keep hunting and beating queers up for no reason. Manjam is now a casted site, even badoo and worst of all 2go, who does that? This will serve as a lesson to you and a lesson to all other person. Be sure of who you are going to see, be sure of the kind of person you pose yourself as to people. If you’d be friends with an unknown folk from another place, be sure of your “connectivity” with this person before you make your move and to be sure that you are safe, ask this person for your transport fare to and fro that you don’t have money to see come down to his place. You’d be glad to see his reply. That’s my own bit… I’m sure that has taught you a lesson… Take care and keep your head up… Be guided

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    • thecockyromantic
      May 11, 2016

      You have a point but you don’t talk to someone that way. From family, to eagerness to connect and love make us sometimes overlook a lot of things. You should use words to rebuild and not destroy.

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