36 responses

  1. Peace
    January 31, 2019

    Wow! Ramsey! I really feel your pain. You didn’t deserve what happened to you one bit. It’s really crazy and scary what happens to members of our community. I think you should see a therapist too. Pele! I’m just short of words walahi!

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  2. Avgk
    January 31, 2019

    Wow. Really sorry about this Ramsey. I agree that perhaps you need to speak to a therapist probably one that’s queer and may be able to sympathize. I can’t imagine that it’s been easy especially when you see the scars, if any still remain.

    Do you still have his number? His Facebook page? Even his manjam handle. Would help to prevent the next person from falling for his trap.

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  3. Mandy
    January 31, 2019

    This kito business is starting to look like the specialty of Igbo and Yoruba guys.

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    • Audrey
      January 31, 2019

      That’s was a very unfair thing to say to the Tribes mentioned.These ones abound in every tribe.We all should just stay Woke

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    • Titi
      January 31, 2019

      Is mostly common with Igbos oh not even Yorubas am a victim too and when l spoke igbo fluently they had to forgive. Igbos tufiakwa

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      • Pink Panther
        January 31, 2019

        What do you mean they had to “forgive”? They let you go? Your kitoers let you go? Simply because you spoke Igbo fluently to them?

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      • David_jay
        January 31, 2019

        Forgive kwa, those kitos are pure evil, I can vividly remember my first Kito experience, the Main guy was igbo, and that day ehnn, me that I can’t speak igbo fluently, the language was flowing like tap water from my mouth, still to no avail.
        Let’s not bring language or tribe into this, once they have gotten you there’s no way out!!

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  4. Chomzzy
    January 31, 2019

    Very sorry you had to experience this. One similarity I’ve noticed in every Kito story I’ve read here is that they always send “their boy” to come pick someone up.

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    • Pink Panther
      January 31, 2019

      Especially in the case where there hasn’t been a video chat, and all the queer guy has to identify them with are the photographs they’ve sent him. Pics that are most certainly of someone unaware his pics are being used for such nefarious purposes. So of course they can’t show up as the Brian you’ve been chatting with, because that Brian in the pics is not among them. So the “Brian” will instead send his boy because he’s too busy.

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      • Chomzzy
        January 31, 2019

        You’re right. It makes sense now. I really wish everyone be more careful and skeptical and be safe 😥

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  5. Bussy
    January 31, 2019

    oh my God,alhamdullilah you got through that phase
    this hookup of a thing is getting scary nowadays, sometime I cant help but thank God for his protection over me weneva I just leave home to meet someone beyond social media.
    Stay strong Ramsey .

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  6. Usfirm
    January 31, 2019

    This is really pathetic. Homophobia is rife in NIGERIA. I am interested in your story. I can do a follow-up call with you if you don’t mind.

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  7. mike
    January 31, 2019

    Mehn I can relate, same shit happened to moi, only mine was in boarding house, that experience ruined my social life and affected the my relationship with guys, especially straight guys, that experience was what influenced me to seekout my own kind, sortof.
    We are lucky ones I guess, cause last year in Niger state, lapia precisely a gay guy was based, setup and in the processing of beating him up, he died, by the time the time the case got to the police, it was changed to robbery case stating the guy stole from one of them, and they decided to beat him up, as dictated by the student culture, in process he died. The school authorities also joined hands in covering up what really happened .

    Point is yhu are lucky, give it time cause time heals everything.

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    • Kayeze
      February 2, 2019

      Do u stay in Abuja …. That term we are the lucky ones …looks so familiar…..

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  8. Eddie
    January 31, 2019

    The bastards!!!!!!
    I hope they die slow,painful, terrifying, gut-wrenching deaths…
    That a person can do this to another human being just hurts…
    Where’s the gay Mafia at abeg?! I wanna sign up…let’s unleash hell on these kito fucks!

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  9. Kayeze
    January 31, 2019

    I am a shrink …. We can always talk … Here is my email slykp@yahoo.com

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    • that dark-fair guy
      February 2, 2019

      No no NO!
      Your kind of shrink that made those comments on Delle’s story “King of boys” should not be encouraged on this platform. Sensei(KD’s former resident shrink) could never have made those comments you made. Don’t come and ‘shrink’ someone’s child into oblivion.

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      • Pink Panther
        February 2, 2019

        Lol. The same thing I thought.

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  10. Onyedika
    January 31, 2019

    This is so pathetic, your encounter. So inhuman. I still do not understand why it’s a crime to be gay in Nigeria. Really.

    So glad you didn’t lose your life. Las las, we’ll be fine. Thanks for sharing.

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  11. Q
    January 31, 2019

    I have often read a lot of stories here especially the kito stories and until last year when I experienced Kito did I finally see how scarred it can make someone. Till today I have been unable to share my story, am filled with doubts, fear and sometimes I blame myself, other times I live in denial; thinking maybe it never happened . To those who share their stories here or anywhere I must confess it’s real bravery *sobs*

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    • Dave_Jay
      January 31, 2019

      I totally understand how you feel, I have been there before, honestly I think I have gotten over my Kito experience and moved on, sometimes when the incident pops up in my head, it’s just there, i don’t really feel anything. That doesn’t mean I have forgiven them, that’s something I don’t think I’ll be able to do.
      Maybe because mine wasn’t that bad, and I was just lucky my Dad didn’t pick up the call when they tried to call him with my phone.
      The only effect it has on me is, I’m scared of meeting new people and I’m now overly cautious.
      Trust me,unless if your experience was awful, like very awful, you are going to get over it and be brave enough to share it.

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    • Toba
      February 11, 2019

      My love, we’re in this together! One year, 5 months and still counting, I’ve not been able to open my mouth to share my story. It hurts to bone marrow and the more I try to pretend it never happened, the more hurtful it gets. We’ll all be fine.

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  12. Bells
    January 31, 2019

    Stories like make me grimace in pain and anger. God help us. So sorry dear , sharing is therapeutic.

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  13. Abraham
    January 31, 2019

    So sorry about what happened to you @Ramsey. Thanks for sharing.

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  14. Mike
    February 1, 2019

    Mehn I can relate, same shit happened to moi, only mine was in boarding house, that experience ruined my social life and affected the my relationship with guys, especially straight guys, that experience was what influenced me to seekout my own kind, sortof.
    We are lucky ones I guess, cause last year in Niger state, lapia precisely a gay guy was based, setup and in the processing of beating him up, he died, by the time the time the case got to the police, it was changed to robbery case stating the guy stole from one of them, and they decided to beat him up, as dictated by the student culture, in process he died. The school authorities also joined hands in covering up what really happened .

    Point is yhu are lucky, give it time cause time heals everything.

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  15. kristo
    February 1, 2019

    Dec 7 2013,
    the kito experience robbed me of my hard earned black berry curve phone …I was beaten (to be fair a little) and made to “trek” home thank God for his mercies of using a soldier as my good Samaritan…..

    all this occurred in THE INFAMOUS ABULE ADO

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  16. Posh666
    February 1, 2019

    Sorry for your terrible experience.. I believe I have an idea of the group of guys that did this to you because some people I know have fallen victims too and the guys are well known in kano. Can you remember the name of the area? Was it naibawa Ungwa Uku? Was it very close to a first bank and also federal govt college kano???

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  17. Rex
    February 1, 2019

    This is heartbreaking

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  18. Sworld
    February 1, 2019

    sighs
    terrible.
    just like a friend warmed me a time ago I was on the radar here in Abuja. i became so scared n i locked up myself turning everyone down. but I am glad I’m in a relationship now n I am happy although i can’t really understand what is going on now but I will just give it time to grow n work, its my commitment!.

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  19. Ezeh
    February 2, 2019

    How come nobody is talking about tracking these people through the picture taken by thr ATM?
    How come nobody is telling him to report to a lawyer or Police?
    I believe they can be caught through laying a proper seige or a trap.
    Hey Ramsey,they are one chance armedrobbers that attacked you,they swiped your life savings and you want them arrested,your bank would release the footage of that idiot that went to withdraw your money and from there a manhunt shall begin.
    This is my first time commenting and I feel so pained reading this mehn!
    My own experience was in Final year,I was quite bouyant but something told me to leave all my phones behind,they only got my expensive belt.
    They snapped me and said they would post my picture round social media if I didn’t bring money the next day,I was waiting for them to post my pictures so I would use my police influence and arrest all of them as cult members who robbed me at gun point,till date they didn’t post anything.
    These happened in Friendship Hotel Aladinma,Imsu back gate and funny enough 2 out of the idiots are actually TB and the cousin to their gang leader I later found out is also TB,maybe they weren’t even cousins,might just be TB mates that claims cousins.
    Any Kitoer shall die a painful death!

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    • Toba
      February 11, 2019

      A big ‘Amen’ to your prayers! Dearest Ezeh, I’m deeply sorry for what happened to you. You’ll be fine.

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  20. Zarael
    February 3, 2019

    I feel ya pain and the pain of any other person that has been kitoes…my experience happened in that same kano 2 years ago..And same with someone i know…biko..lets all be careful sha..me dis days i kuku don wantu die..so hookup sef e yaff live my mind…Ramsey..it will take time tho but u will heal..just give yourself the chance to heal

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  21. icandy
    February 3, 2019

    Sorry about that dear. But u should have include his phone number and name of the area.

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  22. Daniel
    February 4, 2019

    Awwwwww. This is so bad I’m sorry dear

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  23. O.L.A.
    February 5, 2019

    I think people who have been able to write down their kito stories are very brave. I can’t even bring myself to think about the day I had the experience, not to talk of writing about it.

    It’s very sad that some of us had to go through these painful ordeals. I pray we all heal completely from them.

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    • Toba
      February 11, 2019

      Amen to that! There would come a time when we’d think about it and just smile. We thank God for the strength given and the lesson learned. We’ll keep going strong!

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