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  1. Malik
    June 21, 2019

    I think you need to believe yourself over anyone else. Take suggestions but ultimately let your opinion of yourself ring louder than anything else. Learn to be happy as an individual, and to be fully comfortable in your skin and don’t expect validation or completeness from anyone, not even a partner.

    Do not “fall” in love. As much as possible, strut into it, brain first, heart in tow. Thank you for sharing this and I wish you happier days.

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    • Kingb
      June 22, 2019

      Aren’t you just a darling?? Those words up there are the precepts by which I live and I tell u what, nothing supersedes self love. You really need to love yourself unequivocally to be able to be gay in Nigeria first, remain sane with family members, relate with straith assholes at work and be a Nigerian basically. Never seek validation from anyone. You’re your own validation.

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  2. ken
    June 21, 2019

    Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall,
    Humpty Dumpty had a great fall
    All the king’s horses and all the king’s men
    Couldn’t put Humpty together again.

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  3. Rex
    June 21, 2019

    Oh dear, I know what it feels dear, but you’ll be fine, it’s not your fault and don’t hold yourself to ransom because of someone’s stupidity. You are amazing and the earlier you realize that the happier you’ll be. One guy once made me feel like I turned him gay and would always blame me for him being too in love with me to concentrate. I never understood what he meant till I found out that he was seeing another guy but guilty conscience won’t let him break up so he turned to victimizing me. It took all I had to separate from him and thank God I did. Now I am better once I see a nigga that isn’t sure of what he wants I flee…..
    But my point is that you owe yourself happiness and don’t let any idiot make you feel fucked up. That guy would still break Libans heart and the cycle will continue.

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  4. Lopez
    June 21, 2019

    He broke you, and has done a good job at it. I was there, mine was that it made me almost incapable of loving anyone again. We are all innocent until someone came along and broke us completely and then we realised we are no longer as innocent. Love is cruel.

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  5. Chuck
    June 21, 2019

    Do you get treatment for this mental illness? These people dating you instead of helping you get help are scum.

    Looks like you fall into relationships so easily, making you an easy target for these clowns

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    • Delle
      June 21, 2019

      I agree. Ibuks finds it quite easy to get into a relationship. I can’t help but wonder that perhaps, that’s the reason for his aches. I could be wrong though.

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  6. joker
    June 21, 2019

    your case is quite sad really……if you need somone to talk to……….????????
    simply collect my details from pp

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  7. joker
    June 21, 2019

    your case is sad really but if you need somone to talk to………….??????? m quite in need of A FRIEND TOO have some issues and i seem to be the only one carrying it….it’ll be good to rub minds……..

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  8. trystham
    June 21, 2019

    What Rex and Malik said.

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  9. Peace
    June 22, 2019

    I relate with the part where you’re fine this minute and in the next second, your emotions move left.

    There was this day I was perfectly fine ọ, listening to music and chatting and then this particular song came on, and oh! good lord I cried! I locked my myself up in the bathroom and cried my eyes out. I felt like shit! I felt like a failure! I felt like there was no reason to move on with life. I begged God that night to take away the feeling cause, it was eating me from inside.

    Well……. I had to call someone, who eventually calmed me down. Sigh………*wipes tear*

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  10. KingB
    June 22, 2019

    I can see what the Lord is doing for some people. See the way someone’s son is getting BFs and me at 25, has never smelt one. Do unto me as you do unto others Father Lord!

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    • Chuck
      June 22, 2019

      I dont think his type of boyfriends come from a benevolent deity, can’t you see he falls in with abusers?

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      • Pink Panther
        June 22, 2019

        Falls in with abusers? You make it sound like bad guys are his pattern, the only kind of people he dates.

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      • Chuck
        June 22, 2019

        Aren’t they? Seems he loves to recreate his relationship with his abusive mother. with his lovers

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      • Eggsy
        June 23, 2019

        I’m not sure anybody sets out to be abused in a relationship, fam. Just move on if you really don’t have anything constructive to say.

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      • Pink Panther
        June 23, 2019

        Are you serious with this though? From insinuating that he dates abusive guys to opining that he gets into relationships as though looking to be abused.

        SMH. I don’t understand how you come to conclusions like this, but it is deeply unkind and unfair to the person whose life you really do not know much about.

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      • Chuck
        June 23, 2019

        I’m going by what I’ve read here, his own words. You guys need to help him seek proper care, not just “sorrt”

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      • Mitch
        June 23, 2019

        Shut the fuck up with these idiotic opinions you have about IBK. You don’t know anything about him save what he puts up here in his writing; stuff you’ve conveniently twisted to serve your need to be a troll.

        You need to get your head out of your arse and fucking read to understand, not to judge or be a small-balled bully.

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      • Pink Panther
        June 23, 2019

        Even then, your opinions based on what you read here of him are still off. You seem focused on the struggles he writes about, completely blotting out his victories in your assessment of him and his life.
        And we should help him seek “proper care”? SMH. There is an audacity to that comment that totally baffles me. Once again, you do not know enough, certainly not even by his entries, to say that.
        But go off.

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      • Chuck
        June 24, 2019

        What’s the last victory he posted about? Anyway I hope be gets professional help, it’s not by sympathy from blog comments.

        I’m surprised Mitch is attacking people given his crimes as exposed by Higwe. You are not in a position to be shooting off now

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  11. BRYAN PETERS
    June 23, 2019

    Ups and downs of life. Sorry for your bad experience though. I’d honestly suggest you try and get professional help. It is good to talk to friends and loved ones. A problem shared is half solved, and that’s just what it is – half solved. The intensity of your mood swings to the overwhelming sadness suggests more. Please see a psychologist or mental health physician. It would do you much good.
    Good luck with your present relationship.

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  12. Lopez
    June 23, 2019

    Mitch. How do you sleep at night with all these bitterness in your soul? we all get it, you’re a bitch and mean. for some of us here it’s more than a cyberspace act, it’s real life not only an act. get it together and deal with whatever that is bothering you. you got served once don’t let someone do it again. please

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    • Mitch
      June 23, 2019

      Sorry, who are you again?
      😕😕

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  13. IBK
    June 24, 2019

    Hey chuck. I’ve read your comments and I felt angry at first but now I’m just bemused. You read my post with all my aches from love found and lost and decided I set out to be abused? And not just here but in all my relationships? Tsk Tsk. Are you sure you’re as smart as you think?

    You’ve created (wrong) conclusions about my life based on what you’ve read and that may be my fault, afterall I post these things. A smart person in 2019 would know that what you see on social media/internet isn’t always the entire story.
    I’m tempted to list these “victories” you want to see but thankfully I have nothing to prove to you. I’ll be a sad boy when I write my journal if I like, thank you very much.

    Anyhoo, I know I need help and at some point I will get it. I’m not sure you know you need it too though. With all your snide remarks disguised as being blunt and honest you don’t seem like a well adjusted human being. Perhaps you’re projecting? I do hope not, that would be too cliché.

    And for the other comments that mean well. You are all really appreciated. Do make sure to check out my blog on medium. I post stuff there semi regularly… Don’t worry, it won’t be entirely depressing 😊
    Here’s a link
    https://medium.com/@Jazzman_Phoenix

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  14. Temi
    June 25, 2019

    Now IBK I empathize with you but can you erase the idea that something is wrong with you! nothing is wrong with you anyone who doesn’t feel comfortable being with you should walk away. I’m guessing from this write up that you’re a uite

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